How can I get my husband to fall in love with me again?
When I asked about his recent disinterest in sex, he told me he loves me but sees me as a sister or friend more than a romantic interest. I’m crushed, and I don’t know what to do to reignite his passion…
I fill the role of a wife well, even he acknowledges! I cook, clean, listen, console–and work a 40 hour job. We have no kids, so my nurturing attentions are totally focused on him. I feel like I’m working so hard for his affections with no reward.
Please, please, please help me save my marriage. I need some insight into a man’s mind.
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Well there is your problem, cooking, cleaning, consoling, nurturing. Let’s see, who else did this in his life? His mother maybe. You have taken on the role of a mother, not an independent, sexy, wife. When you serve it all up to a man on a silver platter, he often is very hesitant to take it. You are working too hard. Stop focusing on him and start focusing on you. Make yourself happy. A happy independent woman who does not revolve her entire world around her man becomes very alluring.
make him think another man wants u bad…
Im sorry hon. but if he doesn’t love you like that, there’s really nothing you can do to make him. You can’t force a person to want you. perhaps you both should consider parting ways, and find some one else who truly loves and wants you as more than a friend. you deserve better than that. good luck.
You spoiled him. He has a typical "too much of a good thing" syndrome.
He sees you as a sister or friend? Yeah, that’s a problem. Your husband should be sexually attracted to you and want you for who you are and see you as his lover in addition to his friend. You shouldn’t have to feel like you need to bend over backwards to win over his love. You should have done that before he asked you to marry him! If he’s not interested in seeking counseling with you, then you still need to do so yourself and then see about parting ways. You deserve to have a man that wants you sexually and not just as a friend!
What "noworries898" said about pretending another man is interested, that actually works on us believe it or not (haha)
Every guy is different I guess so its hard to say. I will rattle off a list of things that would make me personally feel this way. Girl (and me probably) both put on a lot of weight, girl never bothers to dress sexy or do makeup like when we first started dating, girl rejected sexual advances damaging my ego, I know what the girl is going to say before she even thinks it, we do the same things every day and nothing changes
I’m a big believer in active lifestyles. They have done so many studies that the people who get out there and do things are much happier than the couch potatoes. Right now I cycle, kayak, weight lift, walk the beach. I’m looking at getting into spearfishing, surfing or snorkeling among other things. I’m also trying to look better consciously. I am eating better. I am doing my hair every morning instead of just letting it do whatever. Paying more attention to my skin. Using white strips. etc.
you sound so sad and i can tell you want to save your marriage. I know how you feel and know exactly what you going through. I been there. My husband of 18 years said to me the same thing . So i seperated and gave him space to breath and find out what he really wanted. It ended with us divorcing. Don’t put yourself through hardship , just leave him and go your seperate ways before you get hurt any longer. You will always love him thats for sure but he doesn’t deserve you.
Okay so withdrawing your attention etc. might work. Men love to work hard for things, so make him work for your attention and love again. Besides your 40 hour job get another hobby like start taking classes, or join a book club so that he has to fight for your attention again. Oh and try to slowly change your look to smokin hot (if you already are not) but slowly so that he doesn’t realize its for him. pretend like your new friends from the hobbies are changing you into this hot person.
love has nothing to do with sex..
that being said. be sure to continue to build his confidence both in te bedroom and out. there could be a lot of physical and emotional reasons that have nothing to do with you that’s causing him to not have an interest in sex.
exhaustion
insecurity
low lobido
distraction
& others.
don’t nag him. talk to him kindly and gently to see what the problem might be. also, be sure that you are putting in the work on your end to et things going. don’t just lay around waiting for him to ‘jump your bones’. take some action! best wishes.
it sound like you both need to counseling to deal why things have change in the marriage.. because trust me something has happen,