Comments on: My therapist says that my abusive husband really doesn’t mean what he says. What do you think? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/ Your guide to getting your ex lover back into your arms Sat, 20 Mar 2010 07:12:03 +0100 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Andrea Downing http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-15223 Andrea Downing Thu, 17 Dec 2009 23:21:26 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/#comment-15223 Whatever. However. Regardless of how confusing it may seem. It isn't confusing. It is demanding. And it requires you to understand that ... simply.... you must leave. Those of us who write these things must fervently hope that you have somewhere, no matter how small, to go. Let us know please, if you are ok. Whatever. However. Regardless of how confusing it may seem. It isn’t confusing. It is demanding. And it requires you to understand that … simply…. you must leave. Those of us who write these things must fervently hope that you have somewhere, no matter how small, to go. Let us know please, if you are ok.

]]> By: niedermn http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-9662 niedermn Thu, 19 Nov 2009 07:15:10 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/#comment-9662 First of all find another therapist (which you already know). Second, you need to tell him where to stick it!! Third, leave!! You and your children are more important than any man!!! First of all find another therapist (which you already know). Second, you need to tell him where to stick it!! Third, leave!! You and your children are more important than any man!!!

]]> By: badcat http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-9663 badcat Thu, 19 Nov 2009 07:15:10 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/#comment-9663 If you care at all for you kids GET OUT!!!!!!!! He won't stop. They never do. And it is child abuse to keep them in that house. I am not trying to be mean or act like a know it all. But I do know what I am talking about. I grew up in that kind of home. It is a living hell. And the mental scars never go away I am 34 and still have nightmares. And has for your so called therapist report her to the licensing board. Therapist are supposed to help you not try to get you killed. If you care at all for you kids GET OUT!!!!!!!! He won’t stop. They never do. And it is child abuse to keep them in that house.

I am not trying to be mean or act like a know it all. But I do know what I am talking about. I grew up in that kind of home. It is a living hell. And the mental scars never go away I am 34 and still have nightmares.

And has for your so called therapist report her to the licensing board. Therapist are supposed to help you not try to get you killed.

]]> By: sasmallworld http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-9664 sasmallworld Thu, 19 Nov 2009 07:15:10 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/#comment-9664 get a new therapist.. a 2nd opinion can't hurt right? esp if u feel no one is really listening..that's not fair to YOU. it's not about leaving or staying.. i think it's more about what is BEST for you and your children. whichever one is best, you should do...regardless of the "past". having kids doesn't mean u should stick urself AND them in a dangerous, dysfunction relationship. and if u can become stronger on ur own, do what YOU think is best. the therapist is there to help, not tell u what to do. she/he is supposed to help you work out what you feel will be the best for your situation....so it's more like advice and getting thru difficult situations, but not doing whatever SHE/HE says to do. =T now, if he's physically and verbally abusive, that is dangerous and unhealthy. for u and the kids. and if he feels "littleness", HE should be the one getting therapy and staying away from you until he can work that out. obviously u have been w/ him for years and he hasn't changed.... HE needs help. and if that means without u and the kids right now, so be it. good luck to you, i hope u really truly learn how to be Confident, Positive, and Healthy about Yourslef and your lifestyle. if someone else is pushing u down, continously negative, and makes u feel less than u really are, u have to seriously consider whether or not leaving can help you change for the Better. my advice to you , for now until u truly are sure u want to leave or stay, is to work on yourself: work on ur Appearance: trust me, it Really helps w/ kick starting ur confidence and ability to work harder on other things in ur life. so work out, exercise, get some stress out. try on new flattering clothes, makeup and hairstyles. feel Good about yourself. next, work on ur Mind: study, read more, learn about current events, excel at hobbies, join clubs, do more activities. be active in developing ur interests. it will make u feel productive and happier. :) also, the more u KNOW the more u will be able to carry on conversations w/ ANYONE and just be comfortable and confident, whether it be w/ ur family, friends, strangers...or ur husband. so that leads to your Relationships: work on how you act and react w/ ur children, husband, family members, friends, and loved ones. this also means that u need to be confident enough to know what You have to offer, how much you deserve, and how much your husband deserves you (what he has to offer). good luck~ get a new therapist.. a 2nd opinion can’t hurt right? esp if u feel no one is really listening..that’s not fair to YOU. it’s not about leaving or staying.. i think it’s more about what is BEST for you and your children.

whichever one is best, you should do…regardless of the "past". having kids doesn’t mean u should stick urself AND them in a dangerous, dysfunction relationship. and if u can become stronger on ur own, do what YOU think is best. the therapist is there to help, not tell u what to do. she/he is supposed to help you work out what you feel will be the best for your situation….so it’s more like advice and getting thru difficult situations, but not doing whatever SHE/HE says to do. =T

now, if he’s physically and verbally abusive, that is dangerous and unhealthy. for u and the kids. and if he feels "littleness", HE should be the one getting therapy and staying away from you until he can work that out. obviously u have been w/ him for years and he hasn’t changed…. HE needs help. and if that means without u and the kids right now, so be it.

good luck to you, i hope u really truly learn how to be Confident, Positive, and Healthy about Yourslef and your lifestyle. if someone else is pushing u down, continously negative, and makes u feel less than u really are, u have to seriously consider whether or not leaving can help you change for the Better. my advice to you , for now until u truly are sure u want to leave or stay, is to work on yourself:

work on ur Appearance: trust me, it Really helps w/ kick starting ur confidence and ability to work harder on other things in ur life. so work out, exercise, get some stress out. try on new flattering clothes, makeup and hairstyles. feel Good about yourself.

next, work on ur Mind: study, read more, learn about current events, excel at hobbies, join clubs, do more activities. be active in developing ur interests. it will make u feel productive and happier. :) also, the more u KNOW the more u will be able to carry on conversations w/ ANYONE and just be comfortable and confident, whether it be w/ ur family, friends, strangers…or ur husband.

so that leads to your Relationships: work on how you act and react w/ ur children, husband, family members, friends, and loved ones. this also means that u need to be confident enough to know what You have to offer, how much you deserve, and how much your husband deserves you (what he has to offer).

good luck~

]]> By: hazeleyes http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/comment-page-1/#comment-9665 hazeleyes Thu, 19 Nov 2009 07:15:10 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2037/my-therapist-says-that-my-abusive-husband-really-doesnt-mean-what-he-says-what-do-you-think/#comment-9665 you know what I have done some research on women in emotionally abusive relationships and the counselors that the seek out for help. And you want me to let you in on a little secret.... Alot of counselors don't have experience in dealing with emotional abusive relationships. So what i suggest you do is find a new counselor. And read this book by patricia evans called the verbally abusive man: can he really change. Trust me this book will shed alot of light on your experience. But I will tell you this from what i read. Your husband does not see you as being a person but an object. The next time he tells you about yourself simply say this " Why are you pretending to be me?" The look on his face will be a kodak moment. you know what I have done some research on women in emotionally abusive relationships and the counselors that the seek out for help. And you want me to let you in on a little secret…. Alot of counselors don’t have experience in dealing with emotional abusive relationships. So what i suggest you do is find a new counselor. And read this book by patricia evans called the verbally abusive man: can he really change. Trust me this book will shed alot of light on your experience. But I will tell you this from what i read. Your husband does not see you as being a person but an object. The next time he tells you about yourself simply say this " Why are you pretending to be me?" The look on his face will be a kodak moment.

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