How do I make him fall in love with me again?
My husband of 5 yrs asked me for a divorce on June 5th and we were debating to actually do it until yesterday he told me he doesn’t want to get a divorce now. He wants to try and wait for a while and give it some time. He decided he was being to rash about it and he realized how many people he was hurting over this. He wants to drop it. I am fine with that but the only question is he does still show signs that he cares and loves me in a way but he told me he is not in love with me but will always love me. My question is how do i make him fall back in love with me? I have never dealt with this kind of thing and I am clueless where to start other then trying different things where I have my freedom and he has his freedom and we still plan to spend time together at least once a week to start over. So any suggestions. lol
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That’s a good sign that he wants to give your marriage another try. Have you guys considered marriage counseling? That will help figure out what issue’s the marriage has and how to move foward. He loves you so that right there is half the battle. You guys are going to have to start all over for him to fall in love again. Going on dates is good. Trying new things is necessary. Try to spice things up in the bedroom again. Buy new outfits and get sexy with it. He’s your husband so you should already feel comfortable. Do some role playing. That’s a very intense kind of game. You can have him meet you some where for some drinks and when you show up try wearing a wig and your best heels and hit on him as if you were a different person.
You definitely need to do new things to make him fall back in love with you. Play a little hard to get sometimes. Don’t jump to everything he wants. Men like a little fiestyness. And be confident. Confidence is definitely sexy. Have some fun with it and hopefully you guys can get that spark again. Good Luck!
you can’t make someone fall in love with you . if it is going to happen it will happen on its own.
it depends on why he wanted to divorce u from the first place can u please explain more anyway f it was for certain reasons than dont do it anymore …
try going on a date with him.
even if your married.
Start by doing the things that you did to get him in the first place! what it took to get him is whats it takes to keep him! Good Luck!
you can’t
just let things develop if they are going to work out they will and if not, move on
I’m not sure about the LOL. It’s definitely not a LOL situation.
He cares about you and wants to have another go, and realistically, sometimes you can’t fall back in love with someone but you can still love them. The question becomes, is that enough in a marriage.
Go back to your courtship rituals. Spend time looking good for him, making a nice meal for him, being attentive to him. We lose a lot of our carefree-ness when we’ve settled into a relationship, and while he needs to know that doesn’t always STAY throughout an entire marriage, it doesn’t hurt to have that show up once in awhile.
You’re in a tough situation, but it seems he is definitely trying to think things through to give you both as much opportunity as possible to make things work.
Good luck.
First, please realize that you cannot make anyone do anything.
People will do what they decide for themselves or agree with. In your case, "love" is something that has to come naturally to him. You can do all sorts of "romantic" things, but it still comes down to him.
You know. You can lead a horse to the river but you can’t make him drink? You know that saying, I’m sure.
He does love you if he wants to stay and try. Only time will tell. Give him his space and be there when he needs you.
Well, start dating again .
Remember when you used to be dating? What did you do? Dress nice, take extra time, get your hair done, go out and eat, dance, take a day trip, picnic, go swimming and lay around under a tree after just talking – even see a funny movie? I think sometimes people get wrapped up in everyday trials, problems, finances and it can be hard BUT a married couple still has to date and find some romantic time for one another.
Anyway, that is what my husband and I try to do. We are going on 5 years and still date and take little weekend trips.
I hope this helps and I wish you the very best!
Try fulfilling some of his fantasies.
No, not sexual (yet), but others such as watching or going to games with him, or just whatever he’s into.
Guys need to know they are important and admired and all that stuff.
It’s so true that their egos need fed on a regular basis. Not because they are jerks but for the same reason women need to feel beautiful and loved and respected.
Whatever he’s into, get more involved than you ever have been before and he will start to see something new and fresh and fall in love it with it.
Well over the past 5 years the two of you must have changed some how. You need to re-capture your relationship to the way it was when the two of you fell in love. What made him fall in love with you? What made you fall in love with him? It’s important to remember what attracted you to each other in the first place. Five years of seeing each other every single day can take a toll on some relationships. The space is good, but when you are together, make sure that you are enjoying the time and not arguing. If you focus on what makes you happy about him, and not what upsets you, then you will be a lot happier in the end and you two will get along much better. Your relationship is obviously worth the effort so try yyour best.
You have to start over. That means treating your relationship like it’s brand new. Date each other like you did in the beginning. Make him your priority again, like he was back then. Over time, the feelings if they were genuine to begin with will return.