Dating While Separated?
I’ve been separated from my husband for 3 months now. He doesn’t love me anymore and he refuses to work with me on our marriage. He refuses to go to counseling with me, whereas, I’ve been to counseling.
I even tried to read marriage self help books and got him to read but he said the book(s) make sense but it doesn’t apply to him because he doesn’t love me anymore and quits on our marriage.
I invited him to where I was living and he stayed with me and my son for 3 weeks before flying back home. He didn’t do anything to help improve our relationship while he came to visit. He keeps rejecting me over and over and constantly disrespects me. It’s frustating to save my marriage on my own.
I’ve been seeing another man while I was separated. We just hang out as friends and he knows about my situation and he’s okay with it. We have NOT been intimate but we have feelings and care deeply for each other. I was advised by my lawyer that if I’m going date while I’m still married, to not introduce my children to him and to keep my relationship "discreet".
Need your opinions.
This man I’m seeing happened by accident. It’s not like I was "looking" for someone on purpose.
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There is nothing wrong with having friends when you’re going through a divorce.
In fact you need as much support as you can get during this time.
You have exhausted ALL avenues with your husband and divorce is the only option left.
Do not feel guilty for moving on………however it probably is in YOUR best interest to keep it discrete until the divorce is final. That way it cant go against you in anyway.
But remember there is no law against having friends!
Wow, you are trying to get back together with your husband but after 3months you are already dating and trying to deceive your husband about ur relationship? LOL GTFO
First, I think it may be time to accept that your marriage is over. Your husband’s opinion that ‘the books don’t apply because [he] doesn’t want to save the marriage’ seems strong: it is impossible for one person to save a marriage between 2 people.
On the dating front, I’d go ahead with a divorce questioner. If your lawyer thinks that having a new partner could affect your chances of a good settlement, I’d cool it with the new man until everything is settled.
Good luck.
Go for it. You sound like you have done all you can to save your marriage but if he says he doesn’t love you then you have every right to move on and find happiness again.
Well, I would no longer try and convince your husband to stay if you’re sure he doesn’t love you. It takes 2 people to save a marriage. So continue with your divorce. But while in the process, try not to see this other man. Your lawyer is right – Your husband can use that against you.
Just wait until the smoke clears b4 you decide to date. Ok?
Lawyer is 100 percent correct. Also, you are NOT in a position to judge whether or not this in ext guy is the right one.
You have too many strings attached to the ex to be. Also, you tried to save the marriage. It takes 2 years once the divorce is finalized for people to be emotionally free to intelligently decide on whether the next one is the right one.
You are not in a place to be even considering going into the bedroom. Sex is NOT LOVE. Light positive conversation is not love. Comittment, decent treatment over a very long time and maturity is love. Three months of light dating is no indication of anything.
If you really wanted your marriage to work out than why in the world are you dating? Come on he might not love you but you are not showing him much love either if your dating! Really 3mts and your moving on crazy! ok Im 23 years old and been married for almost 6 years and all I can tell you is yes it does take 2 people to make things better but you just always have to be the better one! I mean sorry i don’t know anything about you but if you love your hubby so much you wouldn’t have time to think about another man you would really be focused on your marriage!! Good luck! God bless!!
its advisable to follow the instructions of your attorney closely.
if it comes out you have been running up and down, it could have an impact on the final settlement.
why seek bar room advice when your lawyer has already instructed?
does not make sense.