How do I revive my love life with my husband?
Im looking for suggestions on how to "fall in love again" With our third child on the way and both of us working full time our time spent together consists mostly of picking up toys or allowing the other to get some rest. How can I bring back the way we used to feel/act with out allot time/effort????
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It is way to easy to get into a mundane routine with the kids, work and house hold duties. But it is very important to keep up with that spark of ROMANCE. But how? The same way you use to when dating. It worked then. "Flirting". There are so many new ways to flirt with your husband. Like cell phones, texting sexy messages, e-mails, through facebook if you each have your own profile it is fun to send thing to each other to say You love them and Are HOT for them. Just today I sneaked a letter into my husbands computer that said "I Love You" I put lip stick on and kissed the paper all over and sprayed his favorite Perfume all over it. When he got to work he was surprised and texted me that he was wonder what that wonderful smell was and he loved the note when he opened his computer. Also when I shower before him I will write on the mirror a special message. Then it disappears as the bathroom cools off, But when he goes to get his shower when the mirror steams up again the message will appear. It’s a sexy way to say I love you and they are surprised. Those are the things that are sexy and fun. Who doesn’t like a SWEET surprise that says "I LOVE YOU" Have a date night AT VERY LEAST once a month. Preferably once a week. But not always possible when you have young kids.
My husband and I went through a rough time, My oldest son go cancer and we were to busy and stressed. But we have since changed that and flirt all the time again and I Love it. I love him so much. Everyone NEEDS to know they are loved and wanted. It’s important to communicate in a loving way daily. Marriage can be Spicy and fun. You just have to keep the FIRE going don’t let it die out.
I’ve been married for almost 20 years and have four kids (19, 15, 10 and my little one who is 3) Trust me I know it’s hard to juggle everything, but a marriage is important and to keep a marriage takes WORK.
make time have sex tell each other u still love each other even though u dont see each other all the time kids do that 4 out of 10 marriges end in divorce from the first kid so hang in there
Your still in love so forget the falling in love again thing. Your stressed out and so is your wife and that is normal. Taking care of small children is a stressful ordeal sometimes. Find a babysitter and go some place that is nice. Try to make one day a week, just yours and her night out. It will be something to look forward to and it will give you both time to reconnect. I am glad your wanting to solve the problem instead of looking else where. Good for you! Thumbs up!
take a Vacation just the 2 of you for a few days
you two need a common vision for your relationhship. Also a weekly date night. I know this can b hard but a date could b as simple as after the two kids have gone to bed you two have a late night picnic outside on the front lawn w/wine n cheese watching the stars. If you can get a sitter then do so and go out to do something. You need to date, even though your married. Go to barnes and noble and look at books together, (special books. ones that are for moms n dads only). Helps keep the bedroom fun! Don’t give up. Don’t turn on eachother, turn eachother on again. Trust me it works.
3rd child on the way, that should be reason enough to fall in love with your husband all over again.
Quit your job. Be a full time Mom. That is your job. You can’t do it all. Make time for your love life…No more kids for you.
You HAVE to find time for each other,AND please dont plan sex,just find time somewhere for yourselves.Get a babysitter{ how much is your lovelife worth?}Spend time somewhere together AWAY from home.
I know this is going to sound weird but plan out times during the week just for the two of you, basically plan out sex dates during the week. That way you both will have sex and true emotional/physical lovemaking in mind that day you know you have the time set out for it. It will be weird and funny all at the same time. Trust me it works. Then when it is that day dress up cute, pour on the nice smelling lotion…flowers candles ect. you will notice that he too will put on cologne and dress nice cause he knows hes goign to get some of the attention he likes. The strangest thing is the more sexual attention we give men the more emotional and understanding attention they give us…its a great compromise plan it out and you’ll feel much better in your loving relationship. Good Luck with No. 3, God Bless
Thank god your looking to revive it, most just let the best thing in life slip away. When you have something you love, for example, one of your children, has a problem, it would be a priority to do what ever it would take, This revival is just as important!!!
Trust me, you miss them alot more when they are really gone,
Sit back and appreciate the little things, every other week, take turns planning a date, dinner, a fellowship meeting but no kids. just the two of you.
Maybe try a new church on sunday, but commit to making this the most important thing, like i said, you dont realize what you had, till its gone. and it really hurts!!!
take some time to read "the shack" then talk about the book with eachother!!! Pray and ask God to bless you both with patience, and understanding and the ability to love!!!
The only way this will happen is you have to set aside together time. If there’s toys in the floor they can be picked up tomorrow, if the house is a little cluttered so what do it the next day but spend time together, as for letting one of u rest, well a good massage is a great relaxer & can be turned into a great romp. You say this is your 3rd child so somewhere down the line u 2 were busy with a life.
Put other 2 kids to bed early & have a nice quiet, romantic dinner & just snuggle up together afterwards. Good luck with new one on the way