Comments on: Please help me. I dont know what to do with my husband!?

By: Jaycie

Jaycie — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 16:52:40 +0000

I first want to say that Im shocked at some of the comments to ur story, dam, ppl can be rude and so un-understanding huh! Well I no (cuz Ive been there), that u cant just up n leave, and I also no that ultimatums are for the birds unless u really could just up n leave! But, that being said doesnt mean u just sit there and take it! Im very sorry for what u hav gone thru and for what u r bout to go thru! But some advice that u honestly should take into consideration is something I did and if I wouldnt have, Id still be sittin in our old rented trailer, that was always on the verge of bein repo\"d with not a dime to my name and 3 kids! I forced my husband to see a doctor, I had to go behind his back and tell his doc that I was desperate, that our marriage was un-fixable and that I needed him to do something asap! When I finally got my husband to go in to his doc they did blood work and several other tests! They found out that my husband had a very under active thyroid, that his testosterone levels wer scarcely low, and that he had full blown a.d.d as well as bi-polar depression! This didnt surprise me too much but the change in him after he started on the rite meds was unbelievable! im not sayin that this is the case with ur husband but the way u describe ur situation is just to much like mine! My husband now is a completely different person! And we are doin better than ever! Hes responsible, he wrks his but off, he actually gets out and does things with our kids and I no longer feel like the man of the house! I hope this helps u in some way! And if u can get him to see a doc, i just no u wont regret it! I wish u all the luck in the world and always remember, \"good comes to those who suffer!!!

By: jeanie

jeanie — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 09:37:45 +0000

That’s amazing you still love him and don’t want to get divorced. I had a similar husband although he wasn’t lazy. He agreed to counseling but it didn’t help. If your husband doesn’t see the damage he is causing then he could loose you and the kids. You must talk to him and try counseling! If you don’t feel the counseling is working maybe try a different counselor.

By: Just me.

Just me. — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 09:37:45 +0000

You wrote way to much! And you think I’m going to read all that? Yeah right!

By: Patrick

Patrick — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 09:37:45 +0000

well I feel very bad for you, I’ll tell you why. my wife does the same things but the lazy stuff that’s me. I have ADHD and its a problem but i learned to control it for the most part but some days are a real struggle. my wife has done things that hurt us but blames me, hates my mom and dad but loves hers they do no wrong. speeding tickets parking tickets lies to people about me, her self like will say she has cancer. the thing is love only goes so far and im to that point myself after 18 years. if you are going threw this it never stops, you will have good years might get 4 solid years at a time but you will feel you never can get ahead that something is holding you back. let him know you love him but he needs to change or you will go because unless your willing to live with it he wont change unless he has to. best of luck.

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 09:37:45 +0000

he only works part time
hes lazy
he lies
he wrecks every car
hes in debt
he doesnt care
hes not good with the kids
he is a physical wreck
unorganized–it goes on and on, look hes acting like a 22 y.o. college guy with no responsibilites
STOP going to your paents to let the steam off the pot little by little, let it boil over.
let everything blow up in his face, 10-1 your parents sold you the land right? or somebody gave you a break there too.