If you’ve loved someone as your ideal and they die, can you ever love again the same way?
Someone I know had a girlfriend that died in the same car as he (he wasn’t the driver) and he never got over her. Now he compares every woman to this ‘ideal’ and I was wondering if he could ever love anyone again the same way or stronger.
Seems like anyone would be second place and never able to win his heart again.
Thoughts?
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yes he can…i met the man i called my soul mate when i was 19…we planned to be married we were perfect together everything was perfect, we were made for each other…i got a settlement and bought him this little used car that he had been wanting as a suprise gift for him…he loved it!…about a month later he was on his way to hte movies wiht his bro in law and BAM! got in a wreck in the car i had bought him and died!…i was devastated…i thought i would never love ANYONE ever again…i am now 27…i still think of James everyonce in a while but the pain is gone…i know he went to a better place…and i have now found the most WONDERFUL compatible soul mate a person could ever ask for!!…it will happen it just takes time…
Well, it will be hard for him. But I’m sure his girlfriend would want him to love again and not be lonely.
you never love two different people the same way because they arent the same so the same thing wont intrigue u
I dont think anyone could replace her seeings she was taken from him …He will just have to heal and have time when he is ready Im sure he will love again but I dont think in the same way!
no way I could ever love again if I lost my wife
im sure in time,. he will love again. but soon after? no. and probably in the back of his mind he will always compare these new women to her… becasue he loved and lost her tragically.
Absolutely he could love someone again…could even have a stronger love for his next partner…but he just needs time to get over the one he lost and grieve for her … he will come around eventually.
it will be hard but over time im sure everything will be better.
It is never in the same way…
But I think it is possible to love again. First you have to move on from the loss of your first love; however, this doesn’t mean forgetting them and the times you shared.
I don’t think it is ever "the same way". I also don’t think love can be viewed in a hierarchal or even concentric way. It is unique to each person and situation. The idea of categorizing love into "second best" or "only friends" or "the one and only" is rather absurd and really diminishes it.
You never love any two people the same way as each person is different. He could love someone else someday. He might need counseling to be able to move forward and stop comparing everyone to his lost love.
I think that he will never love anyone like he loved her. If it gets to serious he will pull away because he doesn’t want to get hurt.
yes it’s a way we sometimes call get over it.It’s possible if he tries
its nearly impossible to love that way again but you gotta try.
he’d want you to be happy, not dwelling on it.
just try your hardest to love again, thats the best advice i can give.
I don’t think he will ever love another woman like he did with his girlfriend. When you find your true love & that person passes away, you can never ever replace your love for them. You can replace them physically, but you can’t replace them emotionally. And yeah, of course he can’t get over the fact that she passed away in the same car as he was in. He’s living, but she’s gone. No one can replace her because she was his love.
We can love many times in this life. Their not all the same kind of love some stronger than others.
Your way of thinking is set in a negative way.
We all take second to God we usually all take second to our own parents.
yes hun i hav found som 1 else as my partner died som yrs ago dont worry just look forward i hav found my heart race cose i hav found new lover so carry on doing things meeting friends keep the smile on and u will find them
only time will tell, and besides how is his "girlfriend" supposed to rest if he won’t let go
I was there once and know for a fact if you get to that person it would deffintly be a yes for me! What I mean is you only thought the last one was the best but when you meet the one your supposed to be with you will not only know it and be happy but you will realize the last one was the worst thing that ever happend to you!! Trust me in my case if there isnt better out there the world got a whole hell of alot of problem’s in it?
i think true love can’t be replaced with another at all