Is getting back with an ex after a 5 month separation a good idea?
I’ve often heard that if your going to get back together, it will be around the 4/5 month mark. But, is that a good indication, or does it usually mean the person who wants to get back together (the one who broke up to begin with) is just lonely, etc?
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I don’t think so, once a couple breaks up that is a sign that they are not meant to be. Keep moving on, let this guy go!
I am in the same situation, wondering the same things!
There is a reason he is an ex.I wouldn’t get back with any of my ex’s.I’ve been down that road and never will go back again.Lesson learned.Good Luck
Problem with separation, I wouldn’t be too quick to get back without a complete health checkup. You don’t know what that person was doing or whom they were with while they are away from you. Demand a HIV test, STD test because it could mean your life. I knew of someone that did that and he came back HIV positive and never told his wife and had unprotected sex with her. Well, the wife died and he is still living.
I am back with my ex husband after almost a year. I wondered for a long time if he came back just because it was "easier" or that he was lonely. But in time, we grew closer and closer, and we both realized that we LOVED each other ..and now we are doing great. It is possible to go back …but it takes both people wanting it, and to both be willing to work at it to make things better.
I would imagine that if you would want to get back together with your spouse if things have improved with your relationship. If you both are thinking about getting back together, could it be because you are communicating better and you’ve both realized where you went wrong and have made improvements? They could be lonely in general, or maybe they are lonely for you and miss you. If you think things have improved, then maybe it’s worth a shot!
I am not separated yet, but I have wondered about this and think that I would get back together with my spouse if these things happened.
Good luck
Sure, my fiancee and I were broken up for 4 years when we got back together, if you’re meant to be together I don’t think it matters how much time goes by
If the under laying problems are worked out and or show signs of hope
Only if the problems that caused the breakup can be discussed honestly. All expectations must be put on the table. Consider the compromises involved and if each of you can follow the new path together. It’s like a horses and a buggy, both horses have to be going the same way or the buggy will be destroyed.
i’ve tried that in the past , but it ended in divorce anyway. there are some things that you can forgive but you never forget them, and you can never trust again.
sometimes people seperate because the think it is "Better out there". They go out and then realize life was better before and want to go back.
if you seperated because of a bad fight and have since come to a compromise and a new understanding of the relationship then perhaps it has a chance. Remember people dont change all that much.
I think you should seriously examine why you seperated in the first place and if you want to be with an indecisive person.
The only time getting back together after a break-up can work is if you’re really committed to figuring out what went wrong the first time and making sure it won’t happen again. Most people who get back together after a break-up only do so because breaking up is hard and they miss the person. They tell themselves the person wasn’t so bad and get back together just to avoid the pain of the break-up, but they’re not ready to do anything different to try to make the relationship work. Sooner or later, the old problems resurface, and the whole cycle begins all over again.
There ARE ALOT OF REASONS COUPLES BREAK AND SOMETIMES THEY REALLY DON’T KNOW WHY. Listen to your heart and realize and think about why it happened. Sometimes ppl realize what they had after they loose it sometimes not and they are better off without each other. This question really cannot be answered completely due to the nature of relationships . Couples need a whole lot more than love to keep together and function in a positive fashion. .