myself a happily married person with a beautiful wife & 3yrs daughter but now again ihve found my old love?
i was in love with a grl 9 yrs bk, but we broke contact after 2 yrs as her brother didnt wanted us to do so , bt again aftr 7 yrs i found her & now she is also married for last 4 yrs & that too she did love marriage bt still i am madly in luv with her & she is also in love with me, bt d problem is that my wife is not bad but i found that she is only my wife where i consider my love as a wife & at the same time lover also. me & my grlfrnd used to talk to each other for 10-15 times in a day whereas i spk to my wife 1 or 2 times in a day.even i went to her place & met her without the knowledge of my wife..sumtimes i think i sud end all realtion with my wife & start living with my love….unable to take any decisions due to my daughter …………….
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You’ve screwed up your life…
After all this, how can you still be a "happily married person" when your actual wife is not your actual love!!!!
For your own selfish self will you now compromise the peace and normality of your daughter?
How would you feel if your (actual) wife did this to you and to your daughter?
Think with a cool head…
If you were really happy, you wouldn’t have "found her". Do your wife and child a favor and leave. It’s too bad you reproduced before you knew the implications of marrying someone you don’t really love.
If you do this, it will really hurt your daughter deeply. It will be hard for her to trust you again, she will obviously know that daddy cheated on mommy. And, it will be a long, recovering process.
I suggest for your own well being, not to lie to your wife and stay in this marriage. If you do, it will only hurt more to know that you don’t love her as much as you love your ex-girlfriend.
And, if you start lying a lot. Your wife will find out, and it always ends up like this. For your daughter, you just have to be there for her, talk about it with her. Yes, she will be mad and hurt at first, but if you try to be loving, caring, and understanding. It should work out in the end.
Good luck.
Sweetie your daughter will be fine with mom. So do her a favor and move on in your life with the old girlfriend. You both deserve each other and I am sure your wife will be much happier when she finds a man in her life that will love her and apreciate her and your daughter to.
Ever hear a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush? You say you love your wife and daughter. Having a successful relationship with your wife is worth more than what you may get with your renewed relationship with your ex. And remember why you two broke up. It likely hasn’t changed. If she’s willing to cheat on her husband with you, why do you think she wouldn’t cheat on you when the lustful feelings calmed down between you two. If you like your wife, who she is, and she meets your needs, stay with her. Its something that doesn’t come along very often.
What is your question? Are you wanting to know if you should leave your wife, so that you can be with an ex-lover..
Only you know what is the right thing to do, as does this other woman..
This is not only about you or this ex-lover any longer there are other people involved and children to consider before you destroy a lot of peoples lives to rekindle a romance that ended..
IF this romance with your once time lover was so great, than why did you part? Because nothing in this world could have separated you both if the love was as strong as you are saying that it was………..
I know nothing could or would ever take me from my husband but death, which I have no control over God’s plan.. But you both had a choose years ago, and ended the relationship.
You both have moved on and started new life’s…
Is it your thinking that you want to experience what could have been if you had stayed together? Be careful our minds can play tricks on us….
I know you will follow your heart and do what is best for you, and your family.
Best of Luck
FOR YOUR DAUGHTER’S SAKE……..get out of your LOVELESS marriage and go be with the one you do love………your daughter’s life is being RUINED by two UNLOVING, MISERABLE PARENTS.
Don’t you think your daughter is aware that her parents DO NOT LOVE EACH OTHER??????? It’s better for your daughter to grow up with at least one happy parent than two MISERABLE PARENTS!
I was raised by two unhappy parents and it’s AWFUL to say the least!
If you are happily married with a child. You shouldnt have gone looking for the old love. You might still have feelings for her after all those years but people change. I bet alot has changed in those 7-9 years. If you were still inlove with someone else why did you marry your wife? Before your old love came back into the picture were you happy in your marriage along with both of you raising your child. If both of you are married why dont you guys just forget about each other! not only that will she give everything that she has put into her marriage up for you? and you guys might realize in the end that you shouldve stayed married . Thats your decision but i think that you should just forget about being with her. you have a child in this marriage. You should watch the movie i think i love my wife. It kinda goes with your situation. The man realized that he wanted to be with his wife at the end.
you need to stop living in the past, you went separate ways for a reason. you have both changed alot in the time you been apart and it won’t work this time either so let it go and go home to you wife and family and stop chasing an illusion, you will be miserable with her after the excitement wears off and right back where you were seven years ago.
if your complaining you only talk with you wife a couple times a day then call her more often yourself! that phone rings both ways. live in the present and not the past, all that glitters is not gold!
Seems you have a lot to lose> Best get your ideas of what you want together> As if your old GF was worth having you would of never left her> Your call your life>
S&H
Be careful; you are in dangerous territory. Relationships borne from abandoned marriages usually don’t turn out well. You and the ex-girlfriend may feel you are madly in love with each other, but those feelings are based on a relationship that happened 7 years ago. Things have changed since that time: you both are married, you have a child, you both are older and may have new life goals. Before you start a new relationship with the old love, ask yourself, "After the novelty of reuniting wears off, can our relationship survive the 7 year catch-up? Will it survive the stress of 2 divorces and a possible custody battle?" If the answer is yes, be fair to your wife and tell her you want out of the marriage before you take up with the old love. If you are not sure, and I suspect you are not, I suggest you cut off communication with the old love and put all your energy into your wife. Tell her you want more communication and intimacy in your marriage. Actively show her that you care for her. After having a child, your wife is probably looking to reconnect with you also. Give her and your marriage a chance before you start another relationship. I wish you all the best.
So what are you asking for permission to leave your wife?
I can’t do that because what I think is right might not be right for you. You say your happily married but how can you be there’s no communication and no us there hast to be us in the marriage you have to work at a marriage there’s no working on this. Just because you have a daugther shouldn’t keep you in a unloved marriage because your daugther see how you act toward each other. Why I say unloved because you don’t say that you love your wife quote:: she is only my wife look at that statement what does that say to you???
No matter how you choose someone will get hurt,
I know I have been cheated on before and it hurts alto,
It’s not fair to your wife not being honest but I bet she already suspect something because you change toward your wife when you think your heart is for another.
Think on the long run everyone changes has your old love changed is she the same person form 9yrs are you these are the question you need to ask your self
Beth
how can you be happily married and in love with someone else?sounds like you need to get a grip and let go of the past and concentrate on what you have at home.if your wife is happy with you,why mess up 2 ppl’s lives for a past relationship that may or may not work in the present?
Your treading deep water my friend, I don’t know how to rationalize things for you. In today’s world marriage doesn’t seem to be the sanctuary it once was. You see many long relationships break up. In your case you have re-kindled an old love. If she was the love of your life how did she get away the first time and who is to say it wouldn’t happen again.
It’s funny how life works and the situations you are put in through out its long journey. Everything is going along great, you have good relationship going with your wife and then you meet someone else, BAM! The dopamine invades your brain and you can not think about anything else. You literally become a blithering idiot.
I wish you luck in whatever decision you decide to make, try not to hurt anyone in the process. (That is going to be very hard to do)
You’ll always have your daughter.