Comments on: Could i ever love again ?

By: clcalifornia

clcalifornia — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 11:20:29 +0000

Oh hon, I am so sorry for you loss. I lost my youngest son four years ago and he was only
21 years old. The pain is huge.

Your lost love will always be in your heart and you will have a scar. No one can lose someone so dear and not grieve over it.

You need to go through the phases of grief. Disbelief, anger, depression, quilt, acceptence and so on. You will gradually pull out of your grief. There will be times that you need to take an hour or a day to just fall apart. Then you will pull yourself together and surrive.

He will want you to do more than surrive. He wants you happy. He is in a place of peace.
To honor him, you need to find your joy again.

Time to get rid of the quilt. Although it is normal to do so. I do it myself. I have to quickly pull myself out of the guilt. In reality neither you or myself have enough power to cause someones death. so, please let go of the guilt.

Have you gotten counseling?

Open up your heart to love again,

Do your lost love a favor and live the rest of your life with joy and hope. That will honor his memory more than anything.

I have to remind myself of my son’s sense of humor and I have to be happy because he wouldn’t be pleased if I ruined my own life because of his death. He is in a place of peace and joy.

Hon, you can love again.Open your heart.
Give yourself times to grieve then give youself more time to live. As time goes on the grief will lesson.

If you need medication for depression or anxiety go ahead and use it.

Hang in there and look for the silver linning in life/

By: kja63

kja63 — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 11:20:29 +0000

I am so very sorry for your loss. Have you tried grief counseling or therapy? Some day, when the time is right and you are ready, you may meet another man who you will love and be loved by. But don’t rush it!

By: sarah071267

sarah071267 — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 11:20:29 +0000

You need to talk to a professional who will help you through these feelings.

By: Reiko Peaches

Reiko Peaches — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 11:20:29 +0000

If it’s been four years and the feelings haven’t eased, you may need professional help as well as some meds.
Having someone objective to talk to can put things in perspective and start the healing process. Your doc may feel you’d benefit from meds so give it a try.
We all need a helping hand sometimes and it’s no shame.
You will make it through this.

By: Captain Comment

Captain Comment — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 11:20:29 +0000

There is no answer that is going to fix all. This is something you have to deal with within yourself. It is wrong for you to blame yourself though. There is nothing you could have done. Maybe seeking counseling could help you. Good luck>