Winning my ex-girlfriend back. She has a boyfriend. First few steps have been taken, now topics like sex …?
Are coming up.
( Too long, didn’t read version below at the bottom )
Hey. My ex-girlfriend (Now one of my best friends) has been with her boyfriend now for a few months. It started off as some friends with benefits type thing without sex, or anything. Just kissing. Then it became a relationship.
She says she’s stuck between him and me. We were in love, really in love, but I won’t talk too much about the break up, except that we ended it too early. She says there are feelings there, and a bond that keeps her close to me that she can’t explain. I feel the same thing ( Except I know what the bond is. )
I’ve taken the first few steps to winning her back. We’ve flirted for about a week now, and these past two days, we’ve been playing a very High-school esque ‘questions’ game. What I got out of it : If it wasn’t for her boyfriend, she says she would definetely go for a relationship ( with me ), and would sleep with me ( Not what I’m looking for mainly ) all the ‘perks’ included. The thing is, she does have feelings for him.
They have had problems in the past. One being she would not do anything with him, because she knew I didn’t/don’t trust him. ( I don’t know why I told her I did once, what an idiot move ) The point is; I know she’s leaving the door open enough to allow me to win her back. The thing is, now that we’ve flirted ( Unfortunately, mostly over msn, though a good amount in person too ), and openly talked about sleeping together and our feelings, I’m not quite sure what my next move should be.
I’ll be with her all day Sunday, as she’s helping me unpack in the new home. There will be several opportunities for us to talk, do ‘something’, and stuff. She’s stated she doesn’t want to be a cheater, and I don’t want her to be one either. I just want her to know her own feelings that she has for me, opening the door wide enough for her to leave him, or to consider it alot more.
And if it matters, she’s not getting any sex with him.
So here is my question.
What should my next move be?
( TL;DR version = Want my ex-girlfriend back but she’s taken. She’s leaving the door open for me, and has stated she has some feelings for me. We’ve flirted for a while, wondering what my next move should be. )
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Just tell her that you want her back and ask her to seriously consider leaving her bf for you. That is really all you can do. just wait and see what happens
respect the fact that she has a bf right now. she knows u like her and u are waiting for her. let her make the next move
don’t bother waiting around. i’ve done it and it is worse in the end. i was in the same situation. i ended up having sex with her and it just made me want her more but she was still unsure.
In your situation she would have to leave her bf for emotional reasons and not physical ones. Don’t have sex. show her what she is missing or if u appear like you’re gonna move on then she will realise the appropriate feelings for you if they are indeed there. she may be leaving the door open for you but if she knows you want it then she will always have the control. the feeling needs to be definitely mutual and control spread out or you will only be hurt.