How do I get her back?
My fiancée and I have been together for 8 months. I proposed to her within the first four or five months because everything was perfect and magical. We’re young and used to be so cute. Last month she broke up with me. We had been fighting since about a month or so after our engagement- I assume because our relationship was stronger and we expected more. So the jealousy grew along with the fights. We’ve been long distance the entire time we’ve been together. She lives in NY and I live over 300 miles away in Virginia. So, she broke up with me because I was debating on whether to go to my ex’s house or my fiancée’s. I was debating because we had been fighting the entire week and she was debating on whether to stay with me. I ended up goin to my fiancée’s house, but that was the beginning of the end. The fights continued after a week or so later and she began talkin to this guy who basically just wants to hook up with her, since she’s really attractive. I was angered because I stopped
of the stuff he would say to her. She was angry one night and on the phone with him, after we had gotten off the phone. She asked how his sex life is and he said that he has sex with his girl about 4 times a week. Then he asked the same and she told him it was boring. Even offered to make it more interesting and she told him, not yet, in about a month- since my fiancée and I made an agreement that we wouldn’t date or anything within a month of our termination. I’ve been trying to get her to stop talkin to this guy, just like she got me to stop talkin to my ex, who I was contemplating seeing that one time. They’ve both been the main cause of our arguing and now, my fiancée doesn’t want to be with me. We have long term goals together and were planning to move in together in Florida, where I’ll be attending school. Anyway, she’s been telling me that she doesn’t want to be with me and that I do too many things wrong. I don’t want advice saying, get over her. Help me. ace_pilot4u@yahoo.com
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This doesnt sound liek a healthy relationship at all. Its always great the first few months but that doesnt last forever. Real life sets in. If you were fighting alot thats a sign things arent really working. You may care for her greatly but it sounds like you may be falling into the trap that many do, of wanting something you can no longer have. What she does is her choice in life. If she leaves you to hook up with some guy thats her choice and shows you were you stand. I would write her a letter expressing your desire to try and date again, call off the engagement and take more time. Marriage is too big of a step to take without both parties giving 110 percent and willing to give up some of themselves. If both parties are not into it that much then it will not work no matter how much you want it. Take your time! Love and marriage cannot be rushed or both will be doomed to fail!
You guys are not ready for such a commitment.
If you want her back, tell her you want to start again without the marriage commitment.
If you were debating to cheat on her and she was questioning the relationship over a week of fights then the relationship was not stable and not ready for marriage.
You cant do anything to win her back, in fact its probably better you not see her anymore. It sounds like when the lust (because that’s what it is the first few months) was gone, so was the relationship.
Move on.
Go back to your original self the first time she saw you .
sigh. just keep tryin bro =] things’ll get better. don’t give up