What was it like when your husband/wife came back from their first deployment?
I’m just wondering what it is like when your significant other returned from their first deployment?
How were they changed? What problems did you face? Was it stressful and exciting at the same time? Did it take a relatively short or long amount of time to get to "know" eachother again?
I refuse to believe that’s it’s all rainbows and butterflies when someobody who has been gone for several months returns and everyone’s life is expected to go back to normal. I want real experiences…I know this all depends on each individual relationship and other circumstances.
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My husband has had 7 deployments to Iraq as an Infantry Marine….a lot of people get mad when I say this……but he has returned home just fine and is the same man. I mean there is always a period of him adjusting, but that is quite quick. My husband is a seasoned Marine and has been in 15 years. He is very good at separating work, deployments from his family life back home. However, I am currently dealing with him gone again, this time is the longest ever for 13 months to Iraq. I am hoping for the same blessing of a good return, however, we can only hope.
I feel blessed that I have had not any massive problems with a post deployment husband. However, everyone has different experiences. When my brother came back from his second deployment to Iraq, he had some issues. But with support from family, he kicked right back into routine and was fine within a few weeks. Just be supportive, loving and attentive. However, give him time as well to adjust.
Good Luck!
Sex…lots of sex!
Yes there will be problems. They are NOT the same person who left. They’ve seen things, been through things and are changed by it. You will take some time to get to know each other again. That’s just normal.
Reading your post sounds to me like you’ve already been to Family Support Center or Deployment counselor. If you’re looking for validation for what they told you then trust me. They know EXACTLY what they’re talking about! Trust in them, they won’t steer you wrong.
Google battlemind for an idea….what keeps you alive in combat can kill relaionships at home.
Who ever said it was all rainbows and butterflies? They are sadly mistaken…
Yes he was changed, he saw things that no one should see.
The 1st day was awesome, great welcome home parade and all, great loving, lots of hugs and kisses. Even the 1st week was great. Then I started noticing that things were not what they were supposed to be. I won’t go into detail it is still very personal and this in not the place. However It took about 4 months for things to get back to "normal".
It really all depends.
Stay strong and always be there for him/her. Support is essential.
Good Luck
sex…sex…sex and he caught herpes from her screwing around on him while he was deployed.
It usually will go one of two ways.
For me, it was like falling in love all over again. We both had the desire to be around each other all the time. It rally was rainbows and butterflies.
But for one of my friends, they grew apart. They now had their own lives that didn’t include each other anymore. It ended not long after in divorce.
But no matter what, it is your job to watch for signs of PTSD. You would be around your husband more than anyone else, so please get familiar with the signs of PTSD.