Comments on: I need help to save my marriage…? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sandra http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-37971 Sandra Tue, 23 Feb 2010 18:09:05 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-37971 I am in a similar situation except with no kids of my own. From the beginning, my husband and I agreed on how we want to raise his boys and our future children. Basic rules of good hygiene, manners, and etiquette are taught and enforced consistently when they visit with us. The boys have been very responsive to repetitive (used to drive me nuts!) reminding. We are not sure what they are being taught at their mother\'s house other than eating fast food, playing video games, and watching inappropriate movies for their age (blood & gore movies for a 9 and 4 yr. old? really?) Do not give up on those kids. It will take constant repetitive reminding and reinforcement for them to learn what is expected of them at your house. Please try to empathize with the confusion those kids must be living with on a daily basis. Talk to your husband and reaffirm the basic house rules and the consequences for not following those rules. He needs to support you and you need to remain patient and flexible should the kids slip up at times. Creating a hostile environment for them is not the answer to anyone\'s happiness. I am in a similar situation except with no kids of my own. From the beginning, my husband and I agreed on how we want to raise his boys and our future children. Basic rules of good hygiene, manners, and etiquette are taught and enforced consistently when they visit with us. The boys have been very responsive to repetitive (used to drive me nuts!) reminding. We are not sure what they are being taught at their mother\’s house other than eating fast food, playing video games, and watching inappropriate movies for their age (blood & gore movies for a 9 and 4 yr. old? really?) Do not give up on those kids. It will take constant repetitive reminding and reinforcement for them to learn what is expected of them at your house. Please try to empathize with the confusion those kids must be living with on a daily basis. Talk to your husband and reaffirm the basic house rules and the consequences for not following those rules. He needs to support you and you need to remain patient and flexible should the kids slip up at times. Creating a hostile environment for them is not the answer to anyone\’s happiness.

]]> By: Rehana Taylor http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-12686 Rehana Taylor Wed, 09 Dec 2009 12:11:58 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-12686 Working on saving a marriage is a daunting task. Not to mention the stress of dealing with the distance between you and your partner as well as dealing with the emotional aspects of everyone involved. Working on saving a marriage is a daunting task. Not to mention the stress of dealing with the distance between you and your partner as well as dealing with the emotional aspects of everyone involved.

]]> By: regjoeschmo http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-12027 regjoeschmo Mon, 07 Dec 2009 00:00:18 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-12027 Could this also be that the children are rewarded for acting this way while in their father's house?? I would suggest taking the high road as it seems this is more an issue between your husband and his ex. The children do need to know that such actions will not be tolerated. You and your husband should come together on dealing with this appropriately.... In the link provided is a book called "Beyond the High Road" and costs only a little more than $10 Could this also be that the children are rewarded for acting this way while in their father’s house??

I would suggest taking the high road as it seems this is more an issue between your husband and his ex. The children do need to know that such actions will not be tolerated. You and your husband should come together on dealing with this appropriately…. In the link provided is a book called "Beyond the High Road" and costs only a little more than $10

]]> By: txjeepn http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-12019 txjeepn Mon, 07 Dec 2009 00:00:17 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-12019 Being a step parent is never easy. There is no way it will be anything other than grief. I am just glad after 13 years my 2 step idiots are old enough and on their own and I never have to have any dealings with them. It is is there nature to play parents against each other and they will use it to there full advantage. Just be patient. And set agreed on rules for the house. And just put it all on your spouse to correct it when they act up. I put my foot down and said it was either that way or I am gone. And the last 2 years was a lot better. Being a step parent is never easy. There is no way it will be anything other than grief. I am just glad after 13 years my 2 step idiots are old enough and on their own and I never have to have any dealings with them. It is is there nature to play parents against each other and they will use it to there full advantage. Just be patient. And set agreed on rules for the house. And just put it all on your spouse to correct it when they act up. I put my foot down and said it was either that way or I am gone. And the last 2 years was a lot better.

]]> By: sightseer http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-12020 sightseer Mon, 07 Dec 2009 00:00:17 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2415/i-need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-12020 You must talk about it and AGREE on how to raise / discipline them If you need a 3rd party to assist - do it. - Or go to a parenting class TOGETHER. If this is the only problem, and you both want to solve it - it can be done. You must talk about it and AGREE on how to raise / discipline them
If you need a 3rd party to assist – do it. – Or go to a parenting class TOGETHER.
If this is the only problem, and you both want to solve it – it can be done.

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