How do you get your ex boyfriend back when he has a girlfriend?
My ex and I dated for 10 months we were REALLY close. We shared everything. During the summer however I think we spent TOO much time together. During the month of August I dont think he saw any of his friends…even though I encouraged him to hang out with them. When we get back to school and he sees his friends again I believe he realized how great they are and what he missed out on.
One of his friends doesnt like me and told him he should break up with me. He takes this guys opinions very seriously and does whatever he says.
So he broke up with me, he said I was perfect he just couldnt give me the attention he knows I deserve and couldnt commit himself to me. He spent that whole day with me making sure I was ok, going for a walk with me until I stopped crying, kissed me, held me, whiped away my tears and eventually called one of my friends and walked with me to her house so I wouldnt be alone. He told me to go eat ice cream and chocolate and that if I wanted we could still be friends and he was still going to be nice to me.
Well a week later I asked if we could hang out and talk, as friends. He agreed we ended up hooking up and he admited he never thought that would happen but he wanted to do it again. So we did. After that nothing. He gradually started treating me worse and worse. Until I hooked up with a new guy. He then texted me asking to hook up for a week straight which I denyed. Finally after a week he just went and got a new girlfriend. She has a lot of the same features as me.
He treats her way differently than he treated me, no where near as sweet or as kind. His friend told him to date her, because he wants to get to her friend. Whenever they are together and Im near hes always looking at me. He does the little things he used to do to impress me when shes around but he looks at me when he does.
I still love him. But hes not the same man I fell in love with. Hes changed so much, for the worse. He was a MUCH better person with me. Everyone noticed, his family, teachers, he was changed. Now he might not graduate and he gets high every weekend.
Sorry for the long explanation but…what should I do?
Thanks for all the responses!
First off I am not dating this new guy. We were close friends before my ex and I even started dating. We are not dating but do hook up from time to time. I do not love him and he does not love me. He knows I am still in love with my ex.
We also were intimate…a lot lol. So that has nothing to do with it.
My ex has pretty low confidence and this is why he behaves the way he does. Im just not sure of his motives because from previous relationships when guys have critizied me after a break up they later confessed they still loved me and wanted to get back together.
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i was kind of in the same position as you sweetie!!
Hes just acting because he wants you back
my ex turned into a complete idiot which completely turned me off him!!
but deep down i still loved him it was strange!!
we started texting again an agreed to meet up
we gave it another go an he changed right back to the way he as its Amazing….just like its never changed~!!
he doesn’t realize hes not attracting you instead thinks its good acting the way he does
i’d give him the benefit of the doubt and give him a message!!
if it doest work you can at least say you tried an you will happily be able to move on without looking back and having regrets that you didn’t look back
good luck chick hope it works out x x x x
Be better in bed than she is. Do those kinky things he wanted to try but you held out on.
If your ex is blindly going to do everything his friend tells him to do, then he is weak and you don’t want him anyway. Please move on.
My experience: A mutual friend (Ann) whom I was briefly dating in the late 1990s introduced me to her friend (Stella) via Facebook. I am 1,000 miles away from both of them. Ann was happy that Stella and I were getting along so well, but then 2 months later, the psycho switch went off in Ann’s head and she talked trash about each of us to the other one. The first time, Stella and I brushed it off, but the second time, Ann successfully convinced Stella to stop talking to me. Then a week later, Stella’s phone accidentally calls me so I E-mail her and she writes back. We E-mail for a while and then 2 weeks later I text her near the end of her house party and it turns out Ann hijacks Stella’s phone to pose as Stella and tell her not to contact her again. Stella was pissed at Ann but now the E-mails are less frequent and she didn’t acknowledge my Christmas card to her or my text wishing her a happy Thanksgiving. Sadly, it looks like Stella caved in to Ann again, even though Ann seriously violated Stella’s privacy.
I’ll get right to the point: get him out of your head.
It seems like he’s not someone you can rely on. There are so much more to do than hooking up with girls like that.
There is absolutely nothing you can do unless he wants it . Plus you seem to be confused about what you wanted with him until it was too late. Look at the facts: 1) You dated for only 10 months 2) During this period that was supposed to be your honey moon you claimed that you spent too much time together and he spent no time with his friends 3) Then when he started to do just that,you now complain that one of his friends does not like you and encouraged him to break up with you. 4) After your breakup ,you wind up becoming intimate something you guys did not do while dating. You started dating another guy because you feel he was treating you worse than before and after a week ,he begins to date another gal. 5) Since then you seem to have too much interest in what is going on in his relationship with his gal than you are in your own guy.You now admit to loving him still and want to know what to do. Did I leave anything out.?I suggest that you end it with your new guy because it is not fair to him to love your ex while claiming to love him. Then decide if you still want to be with your ex since you say he is not the same guy anymore. If you do ,then have a talk with him ,tell him how you feel, and then see how he responds. Remember that his reaction may not be a positive one. Also understand that you can not force anybody to love you or make them return the feelings you might have for them. Think long and hard about that point.
all guys are dumb and stupid
Im my opinion the only people worth you tears are the people you love, but the people you love wont bring tears to your eyes, Im in a relationship of six months and wow does he make me cry, I feel like Im never good enough. The key thing here is just keep your head up high you seem confused of what you want, if this one didnt work out and he left you, because his FRIEND TOLD HIM TO then its not worth it, there are many guys out there and im pretty sure they would be very lucky to have somone like you, so remember keep your head up high & live life, i hope it all works out for you
I would not waste my time thinking of how to win my ex back especially if he is already committed with someone else. I could not afford to hurt the lady he’s with at the moment. And the fact that we broke up is enough for me to move on. That just implied the we really were not meant for each other. On the other hand, if there would be a chance for us to be together then maybe it would be our destiny. But there should be nobody’s feeling at sake.