How can i get back with my pregnant girlfriend (well ex)?
my ex-girlfriend is 2 months pregnant and she dumped me.. it hurts and i cant sleep at night cause i cant get her outta my head.. she was my world before all of this and she still is… we talk but its awkward and i want to be there for her through every step but she doesnt respond back to me.. i need help with what im going through… i love her and i wanna be her partner again…
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Try and be patient with her it really does depend on why you broke up.. If there seems no reason then it could be down to hormones etc.. At 2 months they will be going crazy chances are shes scared and a bit freaked out if this is her first. Be there tell her even if you cant be together you do want to be there not just for the baby but to support her… I know it must be killing you right now but you dont want her to think you are a doormat.. dont beg … just keep being there tell her you want to know about the pregnancy and how shes doing it will get your foot in and she might open up..
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING HERE IS THE KID JUST MAKE SURE THAT IS TAKEN CARE OF.
what did you do for her to dump you???….she really needs someone in her life at this time she doesnt need to go through this pregnancy alone!..Good Luck! =-)
go get back to basic, do the first time you did to have her back…hellyeah?!
TELL HER WHAT YOUVE JUST TOLD US !
Be a jerk! For some reason chicks always come crawling back to total jerks. Sounds like you’re a nice guy/girl(?) and she’s probably homonal. Trust me this happens, sometimes when girls get knocked up they unknowingly feel compelled to sew their wild oats. Don’t fret. If you start playing hard to get and show that you have a wild side too she’ll come back. Now, if she left because you have a drug problem and she doesn’t want that around the baby, well, you’re on your own there buddy. good luck with that.
well maybe shes not thinking clear right now and is full of mixed emotions because of her pregnancy. Just be there for he for the pregnancy and give her space. Hopefully she realizes and when you notice that thell her how you feel.Good luck.
i’ve faced it…i’m the girl i did the same coz i was mentally hurt and wanted it out of my mind so i decided to keep away from him who gave me the pain …..so i think give her time …its sweet of u to think of now also ..ask her what she wants … i’m sure she needs help………if u love her realise that she is happy without u then u also shud be happy……..in her happiness.
@amby — that is the worst advice, ever.
be happy in her happiness b/c she’s not with you. maybe right, but horrible advice. Why did you break up with your b/f? Did you two get back together?
In reply to the topic question, I’m in the same situation. She doesn’t want to be with me. I didn’t do anything to her. She just says that she wants to be with her other kid and our kid and that’s all she wants in her life. I’ve tried everything. I’m just trying to be patient and I’m waiting for the child to be born.
What ever happened in your situation.
I’m in the same situation – I’ve been dumped by my fiance who was 3.5 months pregnant at the time, she was out late at night and I went chasing after her to find out where she was and freaked her out. We had a row when she got home and I asked her to stay with her sister for the night (her sister was living next door); in the morning the engagement ring was returned and over the next week she moved her stuff out and broke off the relationship; from there it has gone downhill totally – she no longer talks to me and is hostile if I approach her, she will not open her door and dissapears quickly if I’m around as we live near to each other – it is the worst ever thing that could have happened to me, no ammount of begging or trying brings any results other than anger and hostility to me. (It was an unplanned pregnancy as far as I know, she said that she was on the pill but sought unprotected intercourse and was thrilled when it became clear that she was pregnant.
I’ve also since seen her dating so it is a very sad situation for me; I’ve long wanted to have a child and believe she is carrying a boy so this is a total disaster for me.
I had spent every penny I had on her, buying her an engagement ring, jewellery, getting the house ready for her to move (we had been together for 7 months before she moved in) – once she moved in; it all went wrong, she was murdering me over everything, was moody, threw tantrums and ran me into the ground until I eventually lost it with her. I feel that I’ve ruined my life but maybe not.
She is definitely frightened of me though I’d never do anything to cause harm so it is a very sad situation for me.
My friends all tell me to leave her be and maybe she will come back when she is ready.
It’s killing me as I love her more than anyone on earth, but what can one do – I don’t think she loves me – definitely not, I had lots of difficulty to get time with her before the split, she was always off with her sister or family and spent a minimum of time with me; always a reason why not to be with me – it hurt loads as I wanted to be at her side ! I bought her some great gifts after the split – a gold locket, chocolates, roses – all returned or refused ! I really have never seen the likes of it before.
Any comments appreciated; I am being advised by my family to cut my losses and walk away from her – also to disown the child as she will probably use access to the child to torment me.
Some of those close to me say that as this is her first pregnancy; she is probably very hormonal and is having serious doubts about me as we did not get on when she moved in; it was murder.
Also said is that once she delivers there is a very good chance that she will come back to me but as I’ve seen her being picked up for a date by another guy I’m wondering if I knew the full story. I was pressured to propose to her by her family, with the ‘You’re caught now !’ line.
I don’t think that she would have set out to get pregnant to me for no reason other than to catch me however at one point she said to me after the split, ‘I’m going to have to through with it now’ (i.e. cannot go the abortion route as everyone knows the story and abortion is frowned upon in Ireland).
Any comments ?
im going through the same i feel so horrible because i want to go through out the stages with her but idk because two days ago she was telling mer that she loved me and she wanted me to be next to her and then now she says she doesnt want anything with me idk wats going on i really need help to know what i can do in order to be ok with her
See that’s what woman don’t get. I don’t mean this in a bad way girls but you girls have it tough during pregnancy obviously, but us guys(well the nice ones who care) usually get it tough also. Just remember we have feelings too, and I know it can’t be helped cos hormones are running wild, but it is 100% true that all the idiots are rarely affected cos for some unknown reason you woman want a man more.
I know this cos I see situations like this all the time and their the ones that don’t want nothing to do with their kids and the csa seem too let them go under the radar. Sad but true.
wel im in the same boat.my gf has been hostile with me for 3 months now but shes slowly letn me in again because i let her be.i was very ainful nd i even lost it with her once and i burst out in tears until all i did was text and visit her once a week just to let her know that im there for her.i also stayed in constant communication with her mom and grandma just for accountability and also for advice on how i should treat the situation and how im feeling.
this has also allowed me to become really close with her mom and grandma.i also buy all her vitamins and give it 2 her on my once a week visit.i dont force my conversation with her.if i see that shes willing to talk then i just go with the flow if not i speak to her family members and make the most of my visit.the other day she responded to my text for the first time in 3 months wich is a good sign.
so guys try these little things and leme know.ill keep you all up to date with my progress but i can tell you that things are changing for the good.she is now 17 weeks pregnant and I plan to be there for her no matter what.
I am going through the same thing, it is miserable. All I want to everyday for the rest of my life is be there for her and our child. She is 5 months pregnant and over the last 3 months she has pushed me away. She told me the other day that she has pushed me away becaus she feels like Im not there for her, but the truth of the matter is the same things that she says her family is doing and she praises them for are the same things Im doing and trying to do day in and day out and Im getting no credit for being there for her and the baby. I dont know what to do. I love her more than the air I breathe and dont wnat to be with anyone else besides her.
Guys
My pregnant ex is about to deliver and remains extremely hostile to me.
For me this has been a very sad experience and extremely destructive.
During the last month she has come into my home once and told me to leave my home as I live close to her house – she says that my presence is intrusive. During the last set of txts she has made it clear that I will not be at the birth of my child and that she wants me to leave her alone.
I have decided to cut my losses and disown this child as it it not worth the torment and malice that has gone with it. I lost my job as I could not concentrate with all the hearthache going on, I’ve had to leave my home as she has demanded. So to take stock – lost my woman, my child, my home and my job. Time to call in the marker and disown this child as it is not worth fighting over. I have asked her not to phone me after the birth of the child as there is no point in trying to cope with all the anger and malice that she is sending my way.
The last thing in life that I want is the torment of a broken family.
Guys always remember that for a child to have a loving father is a very precious gift and any woman who does not understand this is really not worth having; it will simply be torment and hell.
I’ve set myself up to emigrate so the reality is that I will not be there for the birth, nor the christening nor christmas nor birthday presents etc. I will move on with my life and and find someone else somewhere else. I have been told that her family will seek maintenance costs from me however given that I’ve lost my home and job over this and am emigrating to get away from the malice, it is simply not going to happen, goodbye, I’m going to Botswana.
With the kind of torment I’ve endured over the past 5 months, I would probably not live for another 4 years and certainly once there is a child with which to torment me, it will be worse; time to disown and move on.
I am also in the same situation. This is horrible. Jack, you need to be there for your child not her. All the advice that has been given to me is saying that you need to not talk to her at all. Tell her that you are there for her and if she needs you to call. Be strong and don’t try and contact her period. It is obvious that contacting her is pushing her further away.
If none of you have read a pregnancy book do so. I am currently reading a girlfriends guide to pregnancy. I have been recommended what to expect when expecting.
What seems to be working the best for me is giving her her space. Telling her that I am there for her when she needs me. We have only been to the doc one time but I was there with her. I told her that I wanted to be there for every appointment. As hard as it is to do, staying calm and not letting your emotions get in the way. If this is her first child she is probably scared and does not know what to do. She needs you there but being in a relationship with you is the last thing she is thinking about. She is only concerned about the baby.
About once or maybe twice a week call her and ask how she is doing. Tell her you are concerned about her and the baby. Ask if she needs anything and reassure her that if she does to just call you. Anytime day or night. DO NOT CALL HER EVERYDAY. DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP. ONLY TALK ABOUT HER AND THE BABY. Ask when doctor appointments are and ask to go with her.
Have you ever heard how the best relationships were because the couples are best friends? Be her friend not her boyfriend.
This has been pretty successful for me. I even got her to say that I could start staying with her a few days a week. Word to the wise though. I got drunk started talking about us and how she needed to take me back and how much I loved her and guess what? I am back to square one. I am starting all over again but it seems to be working a little.
Best of luck to all of you. It may help you to go see a therapist as well. They have some great advice.
Guys
My ex delivered her baby about a month back now; I was told I was not welcome and basicly packed up and left in disgust. I asked not to be contacted but she contacted me anyhow by txt. I’ve now had lengthy discussions with my family – they want me to wash my hands of her completely. She does not know or understand how ugly and malicious she has been – says now that she really did not wnt it to end this way and wants us to stay friends. If I call her she will not up the phone and if I try to text her she is looking for a deal for me to be there for the child i.e. you can have some interaction with this child if you pay up but there is no way we’re getting back together – it is sad indeed; no way am I taking on a broken family with someone who has literally chased me out of my home – -I’m a medical professional and therefore subject to ploice clearance – any malicious accusation against me will destroy my career – when she asked me to leave, I packed my bags and drove off, no contest. She says that she first wants me to accept the breakup and then build a friendship, no thanks, no relationship, no deal. Any comments guys – I think I got mixed up with trailer trash (?)
Ok Guys
The latest – the baby boy is now 6 weeks old and has’nt seen his daddy at all. She seems to have calmed down lots but is still pretty nasty to me. I’ve moved way far away as the torment of running into her on a daily basis was literally destroying me. Any communication with her makes it clear that I’m not welcome in her life at all but she definitely wants me there for the child – she knows I have means beyond any of her clan and therefore can give this child an upbringing that is well beyond her reach but she could not be bothered with me at all and is extremely nasty to me; blames me and wants to be ‘the victim’. She wants me to go and see the child, this has been plain since the birth at which I was not welcome.
I’m wondering if there is any point in it, this family was smashed in a hormonal rage @ 14 weeks, not even 9 months so if I get involved here I have a lifetime of her malice and cruelty ahead of me. This is for a child I’ve never known and in reality I will never really be a part of his life. The reasons for the break up were trumped up nonsense; it is fairly plain to me that she only wanted a pregnancy and had no real intention of carrying a real relaionship, I think she might have been cheating, there was some chatter along those lines; possibly with an ex boyfriend and has gone back to him. The real quiestion in this is whether one accepts a broken family from embryonics or whether you consider the child yours from birth – for instance if you were a sperm donor would you go running after your children ? This case is not much different, she ran the relationship unto the point that a miscarriage was unlikely and then smashed it over trumped up crap thus I’m really little more than a sperm donor who knew the recipient. The question arises as to whether she will ever recover enough to realise how cruel she has been to me and her son in that she has denied him his real father of whether this is a clinical pregnancy only relationship of the grab and dash type variety; probably her ex to whom she returned is infertile which is why she needed me.
Does a ‘sperm donor’ have a responsibility to take on a broken family with a cruel & malicious ex or should I just walk away and leave her settle down to nappies, night feeds, screaming baby and a lifetime of poverty, hardship and disadvantage that goes with being a single mother – clearly she does’nt know better.
My family’s opinion is to get on with my medical career and write this one off, there is no shortage of interest in ‘Dr Jack’.