Good advice to get back an ex?
I picked up this book called ‘How to get Your Lover Back’ after reading reviews for it online. Not only because I would love a second shot with my ex, but also because it seemed like it would have healthy advice for any future relationships. I broke up with a gf of 6 years about 4 mos ago. The first 5 years were amazing and came so naturally. We traveled around the world and got along like 2 happy peas in a happy pod. Anyways, the last year got difficult because we both became stubborn and got into stupid fights when she moved an hour away to start grad school.It ended on friendly terms and we still talk and hang out every now and then.The book argues that you need to meet up with your ex as much as possible without being needy.By creating positive moments/shared experiences and not bringing up needy or jealous thoughts, you just ‘love 100%’.kind of hokey.He argues that if you both were genuinely in love at one point, then that can always be revived if u go back to the basics.thoughts?
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i have that book! lol! bf just broke up with me but so far i have difficulty following through with the advices from the book. tell me if it works!
Granted I may be reading more into this than you wrote; but it sounds as if when she moved to go to grad school, you may have become insecure. If so, that would have manifested itself in little ways that would cause disharmony in the relationship.
I would agree that IF it was truly long lasting mature love there is a possibility it could be revived; but I wouldn’t bank on it.
One thing I would suggest is to take the time to develop YOU more [as she is doing]…that doesn’t necessarily mean school but something that will broaden you and your interests and talents. Being an INTERESTING person who is committed to personal growth is one of the most attractive elements to a potential mate.
If it is primarily a good and sincere friendship; do not despair and be grateful. All too many people do not have that kind of friend.
Best of fortune.
Ex’s are Ex’s for a reason, something made you break up and probably will again, if you started fighting, odds are you would again. Maybe you are just meant to be friends, or maybe it was a bad patch for you both, but Id be very careful, it rarely works out second time.
just what you got to do, and tell your ex what’s going on.
Just tell her that you love and miss her and that you want her back!
Just be her friend, nothing you can say or do can make her get back with you. Now, if you are her friend and you to have fun together, it might make her realize you wasnt that bad.
i no this might be cruel people change and i think been ther done that is a good saying please dont stuff up your friendship on what could of been good luck
I agree. It sounds like you and your ex had a great relationship. Maybe you both just forgot what the world was like without the other and needed the time to remind yourselves why you were together in the first place. Relationships take consideration for the other at all times and if you were both taking advantage or becoming self-centered than maybe a breather was in order. But that doesn’t mean you can’t always come back together when you’re ready.
One of two ways, act like you are incapacitated without her, and maybe her mother instinct will kick in, or, tell her you won the lottery and her greed instinct will kick in, or try both at the same time.
How to get back with an ex??……hmmm……..dont
I guess I could see some good points and bad points. The first point which is true is that if you were genuinely in love at one point, going places and sharing your memories together that you had at those places might revive that feeling you had for each other. But on the other hand some things just dont work out for a reason. Sometimes people grow apart and sometimes people grow together but hand in hand usually when you get back with a ex it typically doesnt work out. Reason being there will be some emoitonal issues, trust problems, etc. Depends on the people and the relationship! Depends on each others will to make it work!
If the both of you broke up on good terms, it should be a timing issue on getting back together. Make sure you have had some "maturity" time to yourself thinking of the relationship and yourself "Growth=change" Most important thing is making sure you are stable and grounded. Relationships are time consuming!
somebody once told me that an ex is an ex for a reason so I suggest you leave it the past.