should i move back w/my ex who has my kids for the kids sake – I dont love him but want my kids to be together
we were never married. he has 2 kids and i have 1 (all ours). this was a temp move, but he wants me back and i want my kids back and neither of us want to go to battle in court. If i move back, i dont think i could fall in love w/him – but I need to move back to get my kids back together….
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It would be terrific if you did but if you are dating or looking to date you won’t be able to do this around the kids. They won’t understand and your ex could begin to show jealousy which can lead to arguments and then the kids will have both parents but they will be living in a war zone. If you think you can do this and maintain a civil relationship then it can definitely benefit the children to have you both there.
personally i would do anything to be with my kids and if it means being unhappy its worth it to be with my kids… because my kids are the most important thing in my life…. luckily i have them without having to choose so im sorry that you have to make this choice, but you have to decide what’s more important to you… Good Luck
I don’t think you should. If you know you don’t love him, and are sure, you will be unhappy, and how can your kids be happy when you are miserable there? before you make this move, try dating him maybe. To see how it goes, then decide, don’t just jump right in because if you decide to seperate later, it will be double hard on your kids to have to see you move out yet again.
noooo wayyyyy you cant do that because your doing it for the kids you have to do it for the over all picture and that is a family because you cant involve your kids in this kinda of environment listen to 97.1 fm tom lakis
You should stop worrying about "falling in love" first of all. The more you try to force it, the more impossible it becomes. Separating your kids is a horrible idea. All the kids should be together in one place.
I think there are so many cases when a marriage that seems hopeless can be worked out. No….moving back in soley for the kids’ sake is a bad idea and will eventually go nowhere fast. But if you feel you’d like the marriage to work out and ALSO have the kids together, then you stand a chance.
Get a good therapist. That is the key. Not some flake. It’s very difficult to work things out alone. But with a mediator, it’s helpful.
On one hand I can understand you wanting to get your kids together but unfortunately, life just doesn’t work that way. Your moving back would just be a disaster waiting to happen. Especially, if he is under the delusion that you two have a shot at rebuilding your relationship. It would be unfair not only to him but your children as well. You need to find another solution to your problem because this one won’t work. I will keep you in my prayers. Peace and God bless.
thats happened to me hun…i left my husband a year ago and took our young kids with me and moved in with another man and thought that was going to work and well…i didn;t have no job,no money,and no vehicle,so that left me with no kids after i got fed up with the other man…i ended up having my in-laws take my kids cause they would of been better off there…i ended up at a close friends house and stayed there until i knew what was going to go on with my life,i know i didn’t want to be with him again cause i spent 5 years of harsh treatment with him and i knew in my heart that he would never change.well after 3 days of being at my friends house,i told him i wanted to come back and try it again…i did it for my kids.so i came back after 4 days of being w/o being near my girls,listening to them tell me they miss me etc…that was the hardest ordeal i will never face again,i was a mental basket case until i saw my kids again that following weekend.i personally would sacrifice anything to make me be a part of my kids life than to be selfish and go through that again.i’m in the meantime living daily with hurt and pain from my now husband and dealing with it…i’m doing this 1.i want my kids and 2.he doesn’t have no one else that really honestly cares for him like i do!
so you do what is right even if its going to make you weaker…you think of them kids and maybe down the road,think about rekindling the love you 2 can possibly have back.i wish u guys luck!