Comments on: should i move back w/my ex who has my kids for the kids sake – I dont love him but want my kids to be together

By: U*asked

U*asked — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 12:00:23 +0000

It would be terrific if you did but if you are dating or looking to date you won’t be able to do this around the kids. They won’t understand and your ex could begin to show jealousy which can lead to arguments and then the kids will have both parents but they will be living in a war zone. If you think you can do this and maintain a civil relationship then it can definitely benefit the children to have you both there.

By: savethedrama6

savethedrama6 — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 12:00:23 +0000

personally i would do anything to be with my kids and if it means being unhappy its worth it to be with my kids… because my kids are the most important thing in my life…. luckily i have them without having to choose so im sorry that you have to make this choice, but you have to decide what’s more important to you… Good Luck

By: may

may — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 12:00:23 +0000

I don’t think you should. If you know you don’t love him, and are sure, you will be unhappy, and how can your kids be happy when you are miserable there? before you make this move, try dating him maybe. To see how it goes, then decide, don’t just jump right in because if you decide to seperate later, it will be double hard on your kids to have to see you move out yet again.

By: Frost L

Frost L — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 12:00:23 +0000

noooo wayyyyy you cant do that because your doing it for the kids you have to do it for the over all picture and that is a family because you cant involve your kids in this kinda of environment listen to 97.1 fm tom lakis

By: paintgirl

paintgirl — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 12:00:23 +0000

You should stop worrying about "falling in love" first of all. The more you try to force it, the more impossible it becomes. Separating your kids is a horrible idea. All the kids should be together in one place.
I think there are so many cases when a marriage that seems hopeless can be worked out. No….moving back in soley for the kids’ sake is a bad idea and will eventually go nowhere fast. But if you feel you’d like the marriage to work out and ALSO have the kids together, then you stand a chance.
Get a good therapist. That is the key. Not some flake. It’s very difficult to work things out alone. But with a mediator, it’s helpful.