Will My Long Lost True Love Ever Contact Me Again? Ever?
We have been off and on since 2004. I call him my knight in shining armor because he removed me from a bad relationship. We were inseperable for the 4 months of our “relationship”…during those months he lost his job. Me…I was a single mom, working full time and also attending college full time..all while starting a new relationship. Him being a man, felt that he should be doing more…considering all that i had on my plate. We spent Thanksgiving together…2 days later he told me he joined the army and was leaving in a week…talk about blown away…after my intial shock..we decided to do the long distance thing….the day he left right before he was to board his flight to Fort something in NC, he told me he loved me for the first time….I cried…..days went past..then i finally heard from him…..a few months later he told me he was being deployed to iraq…shell shocked again..i decided to stick by him….that is when we lost contact…2005 rolls around..and I am lost..don’t know if this guy is dead or alive….around Nov. 2005..I started seeing missed calls on my caller ID from the us army…and every time I always missed the call..either by a minute or something strange…for months….
April 2nd 2006…i arrived home…and i see a missed call from someone with the same last name as him..my heart starts racing and i get nervous…I call the number back and ask for him. the stranger that answered the phone introduced himself as his uncle..he asked my name and told me to hold on…I immediately hung up..taken over by nerves…was this really my lover boy trying to contact me all this time and i missed the calls..all of them?…my cell phone rings..a 910 number…its him…we talk….rekindle the flame…..by august 2006 we loose contact again….from Sept 06 to Nov 06 he would send me messages here and there via AIM….at this point i am frustrated with this off and on mess but still loving him…
In Feb. 2007 he called me and we were on the phone for hours..I was telling him about my new place, new car, new job..he told me he was proud of me and that he wanted me to help him get a job in NYC….he were vibing….and then the phone went dead…no call back..no more contact….a few days later i deleted the number that he called me from out of frustration and anger because he had not called me back…..and that was the last time i spoke to him….and i still really truely..deeply..love him.
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Well, that was a wasted 5yrs of your life when you could have made yourself available to a REAL man who will actually CARE about you enough to show you he can and WILL be in your life, no matter what he’s doing, where he’s at or when he will return. So many red flags, yet you chose to be blind to them all… and for what? Do you want to know what I think? I think you don’t feel worthy of real love, so you chose this obviously UNAVAILABLE dude to use as some fairy tale love because you’re afraid of actually finding someone who IS available. What’s wrong with my girl? You said it yourself, "…knight in shining armor…" "don’t know if he’s dead or alive…." " I immediately hung up…" " I deleted his number".. yet… "I still really truely, deeply love him." You’re only hurting yourself (and any kids that might be in the picture) by putting yourself on this nauseating, dysfunctional merry-go-round of a ride called the "Long lost true love" ride. If you don’t start looking into re-programming your thougts, emotions and understanding of what a real, fulfilling, satisfying, drama-lacking, functional relationship is all about then you will only subconsciously look for another "Long lost knight in shining armor" of a dude and replay the whole ATTRACTION FOR UNAVAILABLE MEN thing with some new dude.
Now, I know I’ve been chewing you out, but its totally out of love, because you’ve got to stop this dysfunctional behavior for your own good… I know, because I was buying tickets to ride that same, nauseating merry-go-round ride myself.. for YEARS! LOL! That’s why I know what’s happening to you right now.
Here’s how I managed to help myself get a better view and outlook about myself and the way I handle relationships….
Go online and type in key words like "unavailable men" and "why am I attracted to unavailable men" and also "relationship red flags", and "relationship deal breakers." These sites will give you answers to why you chose these types of relationships and how to steer clear of making the same ‘ol, same ‘ol mistakes. Also, the relationship red flags site will help you figure out a new way to create a kind of a "measuring stick" to start using to help you figure out the difference between the men and the boys. Buy the online ebook called, "Dating without Drama." Read it cover to cover, learn it and your dating experiences will ALL be totally successful and to your advantage.
Do your homework before you engage into any more relationships…. by this time next year, you will find yourself in a totally satisfying relationship! I DID!
Wow, my fingers are tired.. I must really care about my girl!
too long to read. sry
i dont think they will sorry
1 keep it short, very very short
#2 no
sum your story up its too long
myself koel das..nd i also luv 1 girl dat buddy name is nandini roy.we
r meet at d hostel.at 1st she start everything with me ..and also she
1st started physical relationship.at first i very much hesitate to did
this things.but she realize dat we r not did any wrong thing..so both
of we continue our realtionship for 4 years.but she dont want to kept
this relationship because she love any other girl.but i loved her so
much by mentally.so she also mentally attached with me..so my problem
is dat hw can i get my love again?nandini roy birthday is 16th
feb,1988..and my birthday is 14th april,1986.plz just give me the
solution…for this reason i cant concentrated my future my carrer..plz tell me how can i get my lover to cum back again.plz plz plz plz tell me that mantra how can i get back my love again.
If u don’t have the patience to read it, get off the site and don’t reply telling her to be more brief!
Anyway you did the right thing letting him go. Unfortunately, you will probably always love him. Remember it doesn’t mean you guys were really right for eachother. Lauren Hill says, “what you want might make you cry; what you need might pass you by if you don’t catch it…”