How do you fall in love with your spouse again?
I know I love my husband, but I don’t feel the same way I did about him when we first met. There is no more "spark" or "magic" for me when we kiss. I don’t tremble anymore when he holds me. How do you rekindle that "magical" feeling like when we first met?
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My first question to you is do you want to rekindle this spark. If you truly do it will take some work and time but if you truly love your marriage and your husband it is worth it. I have been married for twelve years and have 2 children so I know what you mean when you say the spark is gone. The reason why the spark subsides in a marriage is because both have become accustomed to each other and have relaxed the courting-per say also people and relationships mature. Sort of like a old worn sock-at first it feels soo good when you put it on but as time goes on you just put it on you don’t notice exactly how it feels. To get the spark back hold hands more, tell each other you look beautiful, sexy, remember to tell each other you love each other every day. Go on dates-enjoy each other. Find a romantic place to walk and when you do don’t talk about everyday hassles talk about your relationship and what turned you on when you where a new relationship. Focus on yourself and then as a couple. Finds ways to make yourself feel sexy and then wear or do something to turn him on. Good luck.
DO THE THINGS YOU DID TOGETHER WHEN YOU FIRST MET.
get him to lick that thing for you………. if he does it right, you’ll tremble !!!!!!
Why would you want to? Who wants to tremble and feel weird when their own husband is around? Look at your wedding photos.
It is natural for the "Magic" and Spark to fade and turn into a deeper love. But yes… it is sad when that goes away.
You might try thinking / remembering things you did when you were first together, that really made you feel good.
Do some romantic things toward him and maybe he will do them in return….
Go on a date.
Flirt with him.
Try to think of some things that you might do if you were first meeting him again….
hopefully he will reciprocate.
Good Luck
Maybe you guys should spend some time apart enough to where you are missing each other.If that doesn’t bring the spark back then maybe just maybe it’s gone
It tends to come and go. That first rush of passiontae love fades a bit when you are living together and sharing a life. You and he just became more familiar to each other and take each others presence for granted.
Try to spend more couple time together. Go out on dates. Get dressed up for each other. Put more effort and imagination into your sex life. Laugh together. Talk about your thoughts, feelings, fears opinions etc.
One of the best ways is to remember…. remember what that first kiss was like… remember how you anticipated holding him, touching him… remember what it was like when you made love that electricity… remember how your heart pounded just at the sound of his voice on the phone…
Relationships are like plants, you need to cultivate them once they start growing… by doing all the things that will help them grow and stay healthy, you know what happens if you neglect them.
Sometimes we get comfortable and forget how much our partner means to us and what effort we put into securing our relationships at the beginning. You still need to take those same steps, and make that same effort. Do some of the things that use to drive him wild…
My guess is that if you approached him, as excited and eager , remembering that spark…. his response would be like fireworks, and he’d come back at you the same way…
Best wishes =)♥
It’s natural for some of that to fade away. But what’s important is that you two have something more solid to fall back on…and that’s true love and commitment. Now that you’re married and are worrying about things such as, bills, family, health, etc…some things tend to fade in the background. But if you really feel that way…try and make things different. Reminisce with him, do things you did before when the "magic" was there, go on dates, take a nice vacation together…..talk to him. Hope everything works out for you.
1. It is because after all these years the newness/fantasy has washed away and now you live in the real world, with real issues.
2. As we grow older together we notice the physical changes which are a lot more obvious, but not the person that is changing too. You might like this new person or not, but you have to try and fall in love again with this person. You have to be willing to try keeping in mind the commitment you have made "I DO" or whatever you said then. It goes both ways.
3. Go back to the basics, try to remember how it felt like when you first met, dig the feeling out, try to re-live some of those moments to gether.
4. Along with No. 3, talk to each other about how life has changed for both of you and maybe the things you like then are not the same, change in food, taste, attitude, clothes, movies, music, etc. Or the certain way you now like to be touched and held now, etc. Try to find what are those new things and blend it with the old.
5. Also trying to raise kids, making ends meet, trying to keep you heads above water, can cause stress on your relationship. Every day issues take presidence over everything else. You need to take time out for eachother to rekindle the lost spark.
Hope this helps. Good luck.