My ex is asking me if I want to be with him does that mean he wants to get back together or testing the waters?
We see eachother two times a week about and he calls about two or three times throughout the whole day usually. He also said he wanted to be friends who are intimate because he can’t trust me (nothing I really did, he just has been hurt before) but last night he asked me if I want to be with him and I said yes, "in general" and he just said than don’t lie or something like that ( again, he has been hurt before), but do you think he wants to get back together or is just testing the waters so to speak?
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Chances are there is more to this than meets the eye.
Keep the communication lines open and ask yourselves and each other what your goals are.
duh
He’s just gonna break your heart again.
Rape him.
I think he is playing with you. Not surprising, maybe he does not want to be alone during the holidays
you would know better than us… everyone is different
He just wants a f*** buddy without the comitment. sorry hun keep him as an ex
FWB. This is a hard juggle. If you are cool with the setup, leave it that way. Otherwise, trying to change it will likely not work for him.
You kinda answered your own question. Obviously if you guys hang out & he said he wants o be with you — he probably wants to be with you!
do what you think is right…
i don’t know you’d have to tell from how he said it.probably both or more of him wanting to be with you,because it’s obvious you guys still like each other,you just need to be more trustworthy if you want it to work.i’m not accusing you of anything maybe he’s the one who has trust issues,but i’m sure you guys will figure that out yourselves.
I think it’s very clear you have some self-esteem issues. If you didn’t, you would have the sense to see he is only wanting you for one-night stands. He’s trying to wrap the idea in a nice little package (no punt intended) with the whole "trust" issue.
Don’t do it. Anyways, you could miss out on meeting someone much better because you are enthralled with this guy on the side.
Good luck!
I have answered a couple of your questions already and it is SOOOO obvious he wants to get back together. My only concern is he seems a bit controlling and sounds like he is playing mind games with you. It just doesn’t strike my as a healthy, balanced relationship. Personally, I would have a goodbye chat and then stop accepting his calls.
You know the old saying.
Shame on you if you fooled me once
Shame on me if you fooled me twice.
Don’t get to the second part of the saying.
"He also said he wanted to be friends who are intimate because he can’t trust me (nothing I really did, he just has been hurt before)"
Red flags…He’s been with you before. You don’t mention how he became your ex but sounds like you did nothing to hurt him, so why would he need to "test the waters" with you? He wants sex with no strings attached and he’s being very straight about it. But a guy who tells you he can’t trust you because of what someone else did to him is punishing you for something that had nothing to do with you. Not fair…and certainly not ‘friendly’. Those are the guys you often see in abusive relationships. Why settle? I hope you don’t do this. You will end up regretting it. Maybe you need to put some distance between you.