My husband wants space and told me he’s not in love with me anymore, what should I do?
We have been together for 6 years, married 3. Like every other marriage, we have our fights and spats. To be honest, I have not been the best wife there is. He has always gone above and beyond for me and our two kids. I have never really appreciated him and I’ve always tried to control him. He stopped seeing his friends for me because I was insecure of who he hung out with. He has put up with it for at least 4 years and always did what made me happy. Fast forward to present, he has two new jobs new freinds and will be starting school. He sat me down and told me he has not been happy. He said he will be making changes within himself and not be the person I have turned him into. He also said his top priorities will be his kids and his work/school. He said he needs space to find himself again and if he wants to stay married. It’s so difficult for me to swallow this, and he still lives at home. He says he will always be here for me and the kids no matter what and who knows what will happen. Please help, I’m falling apart. I’ve pushed my husband away and it may be too late for apologies. Should I move out w/ our kids?
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Actions not Words!
Don’t Say Sorry…Be Sorry! You have pushed him away…for years. He is now detached and doing his own thing. You need to win him back with actions that show you are willing to support and nurture him and the marriage.
Counseling might help at some point…but right now, its up to you. Don’t talk about what you are going to do. Just do it. Be strong and confident, and just show what he would be missing without you.
Good Luck
ooo you burnt some bridges. try counseling if you can get him to go
You can either high tail it out of there and give up or . . .
You can start being the person your husband needs you to be. Show him how you feel. Prove to him that it is worth it to stay married to you. Do what it takes. If he wants to go out with friends, tell him to have a good time (don’t ask where he is going, or when he will be back and for goodness sake don’t text him). When he comes home, have a smile on your face and ask him if he had a good time. Let him say what or if anything about what he did and leave it alone. Trust him. Give him his space.
Now, time for you to get a life of your own. You are also entitled to friends. Go find some and get a hobby. Concentrate on bettering yourself because you don’t know what the future holds. Good luck.