How do I get my ex back? I really want him back.?
We have a thirteen year old. Things have always been very explosive. We love each other or the other way. I decided a couple of months ago that I love him and want him back. He has a long distant girlfriend that comes around. We have spent a couple of nites together….at my doing. He acts like he is crazy about me until he thinks about it and he with draws. I know he cares but I don’t know if I should keep pursuing things or just let him work things out within himself. There is alot of history between us. Whenever I get involved with someone new he shows up on my doorstep. I’m not sure what else to do. If I push too much I think he will really run. Should I keep going or give it a rest for now???
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Please move on for your own sake. Find someone who will be with you through thick and thin. Obviously, he still does not know what he wants. And with a 13 year old, he should definitely man up and stop just coming around when he feels like it. So DATE, you will feel better about yourself. You deserve better than what he is giving you right now. If he does change, and proves to you he has changed, and you want to be with him – then great, it was meant to be. Until then, don’t let him run your life.
dont bother. get your chld support and go find a new man.
He’s your ex for a reason. You need to move on, clearly he did when he started going out with this new girlfriend. Just because you have a child in common, doesn’t mean you two belong together.
He does not want to hurt you again. tell him exactly how you feel and let him know that your 13yr old will benefit from having their father back in the house. If you want a relationship you must build the foundation on honesty.
If you really want to end this cycle of being close and then getting distanced, you need to have a really honest talk with him, telling him what you’ve said here, and lay your cards out once and for all on the table. He can then take it or leave it. This sounds like you’re giving him power, but honestly, in forcing his hand, you have the power. If he leaves it, then you have your answer; you can really start moving on and ignoring him if he tries to get in your way. If he still wants you, then you both have to work out a way to be less explosive and to not retreat when you are getting close again (for fear of getting hurt, I assume?) and really implement / stick to it. Therapy might help? Laying your cards out will probably be really hard, I know – it takes a lot of bravery. But at least you’ll know what is going on, once and for all, and be able to really move on, with or without him. Good luck!
oh yes the old you dont know what you have got till it is gone scenario, tell him it is about time he becomes a father to his 13 year old
I don’t know how you solve this problem, but make some money…jerry springer baby.