How d I get my wife of 33 years trust me again & love me.Money was the problem had to move out…I Love Her?
We were ok, if not totally doting in recent years, spent quality time and went away on holidays short trips. My company struggled and my income dropped. I was too proud to involve her, later scared to. about my debts…you pay one to the detriment of another, he who shouts louder usually got sorted 1st. Result being in recent years, about 6, she has had to pay for everything, which she did willingly, but the drip drip conversations with our divorced and separated friends moaning about their Exes and asking if i did this why did she do that, combined with my own failings to deal effectively with my debts and her finding out about them in stages. and my failure to actually say the words "I LOVE YOU" finally came to a head last Christmas. We have tried to sort things out. We went to some sort of councilling at the Church, I cried, then asked why I was crying as she was the one that was hurt….seemed a stupid question to me. I ll leave it there, but as you would expect, there are a lot of other points to raise. What I would like answered is How do I encourage her to love me again. Particularly as within 3 weeks of my sleeping in a local Bedsit she was seeing another guy moved all my clothes out of our wardrobes his clothes haninging in their place and sharing by bed with her, also parking his black Sports car in my garage.
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Honesty is always the best policy. You can tell her that yes, she was hurt, but you now realize how much you have hurt yourself by not sharing everything with her. Ask for her forgiveness and tell her you still love her and want to keep working it out. … and the other guy has to move out! Uh. Isn’t that adultry?
She seems like she has already moved on. You might have to pick up the pieces of your heart.