Comments on: What can i do to get my ex back after hurting her badly? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2794/what-can-i-do-to-get-my-ex-back-after-hurting-her-badly/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Anjiue http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2794/what-can-i-do-to-get-my-ex-back-after-hurting-her-badly/comment-page-1/#comment-15445 Anjiue Fri, 18 Dec 2009 17:08:39 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2794/what-can-i-do-to-get-my-ex-back-after-hurting-her-badly/#comment-15445 Remember the most important thing about love. Love for everyone is so different, that a meaning to love is ambiguous. And because of this, give her time to fall inlove with you. Forcing her to change is another way to say that " I don't love the you that I know, but I will love you IF you change into the woman I want you to become." That's probably how she sees it but because she cares about you, she's not going to tell you. The two of you need to learn to EXPRESS everything you feel to each other. That way the misunderstanding going on between you still will dissolve little by little as time passes by. So please, don't tell her anymore to change. Believe me when I say that when you stop forcing her to try and change who she currently is, she will unconsciously give in, and transform into a "Lovely" form. Also, when she's stressed, be there for her. Tell her how you feel. And if you truly love her, give her words of confidence so that her shyness towards you melt. She probably feels alone...Anyhow, since she is the one twisting her live trying to accommodate yours, try and do something for her in return ( like going to a park and smiling at her wholeheartedly). The expectations you've forced upon her are causing her stress. SO I blame you. But thankfully, you're lucky to have such a wonderful woman that tries to please you. Love her for who she is, not for what you wish for her to become. What someone CAN become and WISH to become are totally different. To regain her trust, show her that you will not use expectations, but instead, try to make her smile and laugh. You know her better than I do, so her likes you should know. Or more so do something CHILDISH like I said before, go to the park. And if it snows where you live, do snow angels and if it's in a hot location, then hug her and twirl her around ( if she doesn't mind xD lol); or simply take her out to eat icecream <,<. It's simple. All you need is the heart to care for her. Good lUCK!!!! Remember the most important thing about love. Love for everyone is so different, that a meaning to love is ambiguous. And because of this, give her time to fall inlove with you. Forcing her to change is another way to say that " I don’t love the you that I know, but I will love you IF you change into the woman I want you to become." That’s probably how she sees it but because she cares about you, she’s not going to tell you. The two of you need to learn to EXPRESS everything you feel to each other. That way the misunderstanding going on between you still will dissolve little by little as time passes by. So please, don’t tell her anymore to change. Believe me when I say that when you stop forcing her to try and change who she currently is, she will unconsciously give in, and transform into a "Lovely" form. Also, when she’s stressed, be there for her. Tell her how you feel. And if you truly love her, give her words of confidence so that her shyness towards you melt. She probably feels alone…Anyhow, since she is the one twisting her live trying to accommodate yours, try and do something for her in return ( like going to a park and smiling at her wholeheartedly). The expectations you’ve forced upon her are causing her stress. SO I blame you. But thankfully, you’re lucky to have such a wonderful woman that tries to please you. Love her for who she is, not for what you wish for her to become. What someone CAN become and WISH to become are totally different. To regain her trust, show her that you will not use expectations, but instead, try to make her smile and laugh. You know her better than I do, so her likes you should know. Or more so do something CHILDISH like I said before, go to the park. And if it snows where you live, do snow angels and if it’s in a hot location, then hug her and twirl her around ( if she doesn’t mind xD lol); or simply take her out to eat icecream <,<. It’s simple. All you need is the heart to care for her. Good lUCK!!!!

]]> By: ARTmom http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2794/what-can-i-do-to-get-my-ex-back-after-hurting-her-badly/comment-page-1/#comment-15446 ARTmom Fri, 18 Dec 2009 17:08:39 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2794/what-can-i-do-to-get-my-ex-back-after-hurting-her-badly/#comment-15446 Wow- That wasn't short! Anyway- you sound like my daughters ex. They dated for a year-nice guy, nice family. Ok for him to talk to girl "friebnds" (my daughter is secure-doesn't care) but if she did-different story! This year she went to sa different High School-he broke up with her because "she left him". Geez! Its not all about him! Its the school closer to us-with better grades, more sports and more friends. He needs to get over himself-he was her best friend and she cried fordays! Wow- That wasn’t short!
Anyway- you sound like my daughters ex. They dated for a year-nice guy, nice family. Ok for him to talk to girl "friebnds" (my daughter is secure-doesn’t care) but if she did-different story! This year she went to sa different High School-he broke up with her because "she left him". Geez! Its not all about him! Its the school closer to us-with better grades, more sports and more friends. He needs to get over himself-he was her best friend and she cried fordays!

]]> By: Popsfav http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2794/what-can-i-do-to-get-my-ex-back-after-hurting-her-badly/comment-page-1/#comment-15447 Popsfav Fri, 18 Dec 2009 17:08:39 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2794/what-can-i-do-to-get-my-ex-back-after-hurting-her-badly/#comment-15447 Sorry, but it is you that doesn't love her enough. If you did, you'd take her as she is. Even if she had REAL flaws which doesn't seem to be the case. You don't say you love someone and then want to change them. The exception might be if she was doing something physical to harm herself like drug addiction, etc. Obviously you'd want her to change that, but the things you list are silly. Yes, you are wrong. The only way you even have a chance is to tell her you were very, very wrong. She may not believe you because although you say you were wrong, your question still makes it sound like she was somehow at fault. Tell her you'd like a second chance to prove to her you love her as is...as long as you REALLY do. To say it and not mean it and go back to wanting her to change, you will definitely lose her forever. Even if she gives you a second chance, it is hard to forget being hurt. Sometimes impossible. You have to accept that you can't make her trust you, you have to earn it and that takes A LOT of time. A LOT. It's not just through words either, but your actions over a long period of time. Sorry, but it is you that doesn’t love her enough. If you did, you’d take her as she is. Even if she had REAL flaws which doesn’t seem to be the case. You don’t say you love someone and then want to change them. The exception might be if she was doing something physical to harm herself like drug addiction, etc. Obviously you’d want her to change that, but the things you list are silly. Yes, you are wrong.

The only way you even have a chance is to tell her you were very, very wrong. She may not believe you because although you say you were wrong, your question still makes it sound like she was somehow at fault. Tell her you’d like a second chance to prove to her you love her as is…as long as you REALLY do. To say it and not mean it and go back to wanting her to change, you will definitely lose her forever. Even if she gives you a second chance, it is hard to forget being hurt. Sometimes impossible. You have to accept that you can’t make her trust you, you have to earn it and that takes A LOT of time. A LOT. It’s not just through words either, but your actions over a long period of time.

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