Comments on: Where do I begin to love my wife again….? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: SM http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/comment-page-1/#comment-16053 SM Sun, 20 Dec 2009 16:08:59 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/#comment-16053 By the fact that you're writing this question, you want things to change. So that's a good first step. In a bad situation, the only thing you can control is yourself, so start changing that. Consider it an investment into your future happiness. Regardless of how she acts, try doing nice things for her - cooking dinner, doing some of the cleaning so she can lie down, giving her a back massage. Don't even bring up the issues yet, just show her that you want to improve things. After a few days, try sitting down with her to talk things over - but make it about how YOU feel, not about what she does. So, don't tell her she has a negative attitude. Instead, discuss how when she says certain things, it make YOU feel bad. Discuss other ways for her to express herself. Start off the conversation, though, by explaining that YOU have let things go, and that you want to change that, and you want to start making her happy again - ask her what's been bothering her in the relationship, what you can do to make her happier. And although it might be hard to accept whatever she's going to say, do your best, because as many issues as you have with her, I'm sure there are things about you that bother her as well. And the only way to improve things is to show that you're truly interested in changing things. Once you start to truly be different on a consistent basis, over time, she'll start to improve, too. I can almost guarantee it. By the fact that you’re writing this question, you want things to change. So that’s a good first step.

In a bad situation, the only thing you can control is yourself, so start changing that. Consider it an investment into your future happiness. Regardless of how she acts, try doing nice things for her – cooking dinner, doing some of the cleaning so she can lie down, giving her a back massage.

Don’t even bring up the issues yet, just show her that you want to improve things. After a few days, try sitting down with her to talk things over – but make it about how YOU feel, not about what she does. So, don’t tell her she has a negative attitude. Instead, discuss how when she says certain things, it make YOU feel bad. Discuss other ways for her to express herself. Start off the conversation, though, by explaining that YOU have let things go, and that you want to change that, and you want to start making her happy again – ask her what’s been bothering her in the relationship, what you can do to make her happier. And although it might be hard to accept whatever she’s going to say, do your best, because as many issues as you have with her, I’m sure there are things about you that bother her as well. And the only way to improve things is to show that you’re truly interested in changing things. Once you start to truly be different on a consistent basis, over time, she’ll start to improve, too. I can almost guarantee it.

]]> By: moi http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/comment-page-1/#comment-16054 moi Sun, 20 Dec 2009 16:08:59 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/#comment-16054 why did you marry someone you have no deep feelings for? this is not fair to her why did you marry someone you have no deep feelings for? this is not fair to her

]]> By: awommack http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/comment-page-1/#comment-16055 awommack Sun, 20 Dec 2009 16:08:59 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/#comment-16055 just tell them just tell them

]]> By: Odai http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/comment-page-1/#comment-16056 Odai Sun, 20 Dec 2009 16:08:59 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/#comment-16056 u have to tell her the truth now , cuz if u dont, it's gonna be too late and you gonna be sry ! ! u have to tell her the truth now , cuz if u dont, it’s gonna be too late and you gonna be sry ! !

]]> By: strong mocha http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/comment-page-1/#comment-16057 strong mocha Sun, 20 Dec 2009 16:08:59 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/2855/where-do-i-begin-to-love-my-wife-again/#comment-16057 You never should have married her in the first place. But to salvage your marriage, try counseling. Also try to talk to her about your feelings. But speak to a lawyer first before you tell her all your feelings because if she's feeling vindictive, she'll probably use it against you later. You never should have married her in the first place. But to salvage your marriage, try counseling. Also try to talk to her about your feelings. But speak to a lawyer first before you tell her all your feelings because if she’s feeling vindictive, she’ll probably use it against you later.

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