Comments on: How to you get your husband to love you again? PLEASE HELP ME!! PLEASE!!!!?

By: mary

mary — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 22:02:48 +0000

please i need help and advice,i was married to my but left him seven years ago,but now we have decided to come back though there is another woman in our house who is with him ,he said i should stay in a separate house and he will be coming to see me occassionally,the problem now is we are different countreies and he hardly picks my calls and he does not call me,when i text him he does not reply the text,i dont know may be he loves me or not but he is a politician he is always saying they are in a meeting.please advice me.

By: krazegurl_ds

krazegurl_ds — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 02:25:11 +0000

As a military wife i can say i can relate, i see so many military guys who refuse counseling because they don’t think they need it, don’t believe in it ect.. What it boils down to is they don’t wanna face the fact that there may be problems and they might be at fault. I say you have to love yourself before he can so if you doubt yourself, don’t love yourself how can he? Put down your foot and tell him how it is, direct and blunt is all military men seem to get. I had to kick mine out of the house completely to make him see he was stepping all over me. He straightened up and now we r happier.

By: Sony

Sony — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 02:25:11 +0000

men in uniform are like that honey, welcome to the club. they are ‘cold’ and ‘distant’….its just their personality. some women find it hard together with the fact that they are always away. you have to be independent and act ‘normal’ when he comes back….if you act like you dont miss him (eventhough you do) then they ll open up faster and be more friendly cuz they think something is ‘up’ or that u are not that into them anymore and they ll try to please u instead…its called reverse psychology and its the only thing that works sometimes…try it. gd luck

By: I luvu Char

I luvu Char — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 02:25:11 +0000

u know,? i had to read this a couple of times to really understand it. im 16 so all i can really tell you is that it sounds like u two are sorta driffting apart. so maybe you guys can spend more time together and possibly "make love" more ofen to do this u got to get him in the mood, so like seduce him against his will if hes not interested. u know he wants u to so it is technically ok cuz u cant rape tha willing:) just try and talk to him and work things out. u know like ask him how his day was and what he did. hope for the best. good luck

By: Thomas

Thomas — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 02:25:11 +0000

He is suffering form a common malady – when people get married they somehow think that courtship dies where the marriage begins. It take two people BOTH putting forth effort. If he doesn’t believe in therapy – fine, you need to go and get yourself clear on what is happening. The marriage is in trouble and you need to plan what can be done to save it and what you might have to face if it cannot be salvaged.