How do you get a grown man to work ?
My older 36-year-old brother claims to be "bi-polar" and is just using the system. I know plenty of bi-polar people who work. He was in the military for 4 years and was able to support himself before. He has been living with my dad for over 10 years and refuses to work, but he can spend his time smoking pot and having phone sex.
My father has cancer and will not be around much longer. How do I get this guy to work?
Sorry I forgot to elaborate..My brother has been acting lazy for the past 12+ years.. My father found out he has cancer only 6 months ago. My brother DOES NOT act as a caretaker for my father but only manipulates him to use his money for marijuana and recreation. My brother was in the NAVY and was never in contact with danger.
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All I can say is: You can’t help someone who don’t want to be helped…
I know you are worried about your brother but if he doesn’t want to help himself, there’s nothing you can do !
He may be Bi-polar,watching people get there heads blown off in the army.
Well, you can refuse to support him after your father dies. The system only provides so much.
Also, keep in mind that if your father is really sick, your brother may be acting as caretaker. It’s a thankless, unpaid job (like motherhood), but it’s an important one that has to be done.
Very sorry to hear about you’re father. I would say have you’re father throw him out of the house but since you’re father is dying, you’re brother will most likely get a rude awakening soon enough.
Maybe he is upset about life & shit an doesn’t know what path to take. Maybe he Just can’t do things the way everyone else wants him too. Maybe he needs to get over something that happened & can’t do it with out help. Support him don’t look down on him this is not going to work. I have been there myself I over came it.
You can not get him to do anything. He is more depressed over the illness of your father then you realize and he needs therapy for depression before your father passes on. If he does not then he will go even further in it and then god knows what may happen to him. Psychotherapy is his best bet for a better future. And as far as the phone sex thing , that does nothing for him , it is just another form of his depression coming out . If your brother does not get the help soon he may start to do things that are illegal and land himself in jail.
I am sorry to hear this.. how sad.. what does this loser plan on doing when your dad dies? where will he go then? where will he get money?
This is just a time bomb waiting to happen.. he will run out of luck soon enough and end up on the streets..