my husband want a threesum, what should i do?
My husband has told me that he’s one dream that he really wants it to happen is to have a three sum with me and some other girl. But i really don’t know what to do because i know he really wants to do that? We are both teenage and got married young and his birthday pretty soon and he going to be 20 years old and he wants that as a gifted..
wat should i do??
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I have had threesomes and its not for everyone. You have to be very secure and mature when doing threesomes. Most importantly, you need to have boundaries and rules to keep the threesome from ruining your marriage. Few basics are:
1) using protection.
2) Never have a threesome with someone you know or see on a daily basis.
3) The wife always calls the shots in the threeway.
4) Never push your spouse to do anything they are not comfortable with.
There are many many more rules.
The big things that end marriages when doing a threesome is:
1) The guy expects threesomes on a regular basis.
2) The spouse was really emotionally blackmailed into it
3) Having a friend (or someone you know) be in the three way and it ends up forming into a romantic relationship.
4) Its not really a three way but one spouse doing a stranger and the other spouse watching.
There are other reasons as well.
If you and your spouse can’t handle the discipline it takes to successfully do a threesome, then I suggest not doing it.
Since your husband is young, the thing you need to understand he likes the IDEA of a threesome, but has no clue about the reality of what it can do to a marriage.
That’s just my two cents.
be ready for him to have sex with her….when you are out of the picture.
just do it
Tell him "no".
Very bad idea -
You will be left with regrets, animosities and hurt feelings -
The marital bed should be just that – your’s and your husband’s not you, him and a 3rd party
thats a sin
Tell him he wouldn’t know what to do with 2 girls at one time. He can barely handle one!!!
Do it dammit!
yeah i think hes cheating on you
if you don’t want to do it then say no.
It will ruin your relationship, and be really weird for a first timer. I’d say do it to get it over with then dump him… Thats what he’s gonna do to you anyway. HAHAHAHA
If you don’t want to and he ends up cheating because of that than you need to divorce him.
find a friend that you both would be comfortable doing that with and give the man what he dreams for. i then suggest you tell him one of your dream that he should fulfill
Tell him to keep dreaming.
Ask yourself do u want it?
Can you deal with watching him and another girl?
Both of you have to agree on it and both of u have to deal with the consequences and long term emotional effects a threesome can cause.
Every couple I know that has done it is no longer together!!! (that would be 3 couples!)
If you’re not comfortable with it, then the answer is simple. If he doesn’t respect your feelings then maybe you should reconsider this marriage.
Most men have these kinds of fantasies, it’s not abnormal. What is abnormal is if he pressures you to do something you don’t want to do.
go back to school and learn grammar so you can type a simple sentence.
believe me, he will forget ALL about craving other women once he sees his wife can write.
I believe it is spelled threesome.
This is the wrong place to be asking a question like that. You know if you are going to do it or not, it is not up to us. If you do it for your husband then so what? You can see how much he loves you, after your done with your "threesome" with another girl. You tell him that you want a "threesome" with him and another guy. Then you see what he tells you. I have a good guess on what he would say…
All men (and some women) have that fantasy-but it’s a fantasy & should not be done-unless you’re single & this is a one time deal. I can guarentee it will ruin your marriage & it will be brought up time & time again and you’ll wonder if he enjoyed her more than you. It will make you insecure & he’ll probably think if you did it once you’ll do it again. He wants his cake & to eat it to-don’t give in to his selfish dream.
The fact that you’re both so young and obviously clueless speaks volumes. This menage a trois wiill only expedite the imminent dissolution of your unwise marriage.
Maxim Magazine actually dealt with this a couple issues back… DON’T do it. There’s always one person that gets neglected in a threesome…
You: Tears the relationship apart, because he paid her more attention.
Her: He says that it "didn’t count" and that you should do it all over again.
Him: While it’s fun to watch, it "didn’t count"… and maybe you should get with more girls.
Either way, AWKWARD! Don’t do it, it just leaves one huge regret.
Dont feel pressured by the request and wind up doing something you do want to. Marriage is between two people. Was he serious when he said he was committed to you for the rest of his life? He really needs to think about this before trying to fulfull some porn fantasy. You are his wife, and are to be treasured. Think nothing less. You’ll be grateful you saw more of yourself in the long run.
If he loves you he would not ask this of you!!!! I understand you both are teens like me, and love is a funny thing at this point in life. But if he is telling you that he wants to have sex with some other girl, he is not being faithful to you!!! Dont let yourself be a pawn for this man, he is your husband, and dont think that you should give him what ever he wants. You deaserve and need to feel respected, and he is not doing that for u by asking this. If he cant see that what he is asking is wrong then he has some issues!!!!
Where can I find a wife like that?
The craziest, funniest, silliest, wackiest, open minded, were both going to hell together woman in the world.
Read up about it, make sure it is done tastefully and respectfully. This is not something to rush into solely because his birthday is coming up. If you’re not ready on his birthday, let him know you are warming up to the idea and will get there at your own pace. That is assuming you are willing. Heck, wouldn’t it be even better as a surprise on a random day?
You’re young, you have time. This is something he’s probably had in his head since he first discovered internet pr0n so he can wait a little longer.
Last thing, when I say "read up about it" I don’t mean places like Yahoo answers, but someone like Dr. Ruth.
yes it sounds like fun but at the same time you need to be careful because you have to make sure that this is something you want to do not just for him this is something that you really should think over , can you deal with your man with another girl and do you like girls?be sure first
no don’t do it.. it will just hurt you in the end and if he gets mad at you he is not worth it.
Obviously he’s oats are not sown yet…
without judging folks like Allison & Stu (the reigning swinger experts), I think there are serious implications for that type of behavior. Fantasies can be fantasies, but the reason dreams work so well in our minds, is because our minds don’t often see all the little intricate realities that can come popping in…
Just my opinion, good luck!
You decide if you want one. It is a marriage after all and he really shouldn’t make you want to do something you don’t want to do. You both need to get the reality of the situation in your heads and then decide if your relationship can survive it. If you give it to him he’ll want it again and again. It’s definitely not something that you stop wanting after it’s happened. But that’s not the end of it:
Say for example you both decide it’s okay- (because some people would think that having sex with someone else is unfaithfulness and violating your marriage), then you need to tell him so you don’t endanger your relationship.
Either way you really need to make sure that you both think about what you’re getting into because as a pure Fantasy it’s a beautiful thing but once you start living it out. You never know what happens. ‘Cos what happens the next day if that person you sleep with wants to sleep with you or him privately.
Again what if that person male or female is less interested with sleeping with one of you while you’re both at it? It’s important to think about the differences between this activity as as fantasy and as reality.
The two are very, very different things and even if it turns out as well as it possibly could it won’t be like the fantasy in your head ‘cos it’s three people involved instead of just one.
So you need to be aware of all the risks and stop thinking of the fantasy and concentrate on what it would be like to have three people having sex at the same time in reality before during AND after the act. Once you have that down pat, you can both move forward with your decision otherwise you all lose one way or another.
Wow this place is full of prudes that have very weak relationships.
If you can’t count on your life partner to make your dreams and fantasies to come true then who else is there?
A sexual fantasy that is fulfilled is a great thing. Of course not every relationship can handle this, but in my opinion if the relationship is meant to be and strong then it will last. And my marriage is proof of that.
I know I will get all thumbs down from you prudes that think marriage should be between 2 people. The 3rd person isn’t about a person, but a tool, a toy. Like bringing a sex toy into your bedroom, it is another device to expand your sexuality.
But yes in my opinion the person that asked this question most likely will have difficulty pulling this off as I believe their relationship is not strong enough.
Tell him, that if you allow him to have a threesome with another girl than he must allow you do have a threesome with another man, which you get to pick.
I bet he changes his mind about having a threesome.
Overall I think it is a bad idea.
i want my wife to have a 3some also with me and another guy though 2 women double the holes so one is left out. unless you are bi. then you can have some fun also. make rules for him to follow and if you say its over then its over. people say it can ruin a marriage but that is only if you let it. if its strictly based on sex then no worries
ask him to do it with another man and see what he say if he can handle seing you with another man on his bed then do it if no then dont do it cuz he just using you for his selfish desire
My wife and i have done this two times before and she really enjoyed it .But as other people have commented the husband and wife MUST be secure with doing this. I love my wife very much as she loves me. Its just sex and nothing more. Because when he leaves i am still there for her, and always will be. i had a previous marriage that the wife was extremely controlling of my life. and there was never any mention of this type of actitivy between her and i. And i said that if i ever remarried that i would allow my new wife to do whatever she wanted. I WAS not going to trear her like i was treated during my first marriage. So like i say its between husband and wife ,and not just one person to do this kind of stuff..It up to you.
Okay people, look this three sum idea is all up to that couple. I have a wife. It take\’s her having all the control. Never push the spouse to do it neither. My wife is Bi, but when she brought the issue up. me and her set down on more then one, now i mean more then one occasion and discussed the issue. This discussion u will need to have. It puts both parties in play on the same page. It is something y\’all need to sit down and talk about in very very good detail. Things like what if the women like ur husband more or maybe u. Is she allowed to stay or leave. Also u need to figure if u want the person to be a regular or if y\’all want it to be a different girl when y\’all have one. Another thing y\’all need to discuss is will it be okay if u are at work can they have one on ones or vis versa. Now this is ur marriage not mines. It toke a lot of discussions till we came up with how things should be done. It take\’s two to make this happen right. But he is very young but i am not talking about his age i know people twice his age who is less mature then him. This is a grown game u are playing and some dangerous territory u are playing end. So think about it live and have fun still young. Don\’t knock it before u try it. Also u need to like girls also or this will not work.