does soon to be ex husband want to get back together?
we are in the process of divorce and one day he told me he didn’t want to proceed with the divorce. he is currently living with his gf. he left me and the kids for her. i don’t know if i want him back any more. he has hurt me too much. he is being nicer to me now. or am i just reading too much?
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My husband left me for another woman last March. We were married for 8 years and had a daughter together. He decided that we didn’t have anything in common and this woman was right for him. 6 months later there were strong hints that he was having second thoughts. We’ve been back together for almost a year now and doing better than ever. Every situation is different. My husband was going thru a mini life crisis, so I saw it coming for months before he did!!! He didn’t leave me for sex, he left me for someone that pumped his ego and made him feel that he was the earth moon and stars. Once he figured out that he was that same person with or without me, he woke up.
What you have to decide is what you want. Do you love him? Can you forgive him? If the anwers are yes and i think so, then you have to give it a shot. I know too many people that get divorced and then 10 years later are sorry they didn’t try everything to make the marriage work. My mother-in-law is one of those people. You need to ask your husband how he feels and whether he’d be willing to work things out. If he says yes, then you should get some counseling and find out how to get started.
The fact that you are thinking about it means that you should just take that leap and talk to him about it. Just because he’s living with the gf doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you back. He might just be staying there because he can’t come back to you. I know that sounds really screwed up, but mean are weak and pathetic.
Why didn’t you ask why?
could be a financial maneuver—he could be hiding something…if he wanted you back he wouldn’t still be living with her. You might want to point that out to him the next time he tries and slow down the divorce proceedings.
The reason is he loves you and she found out by comparison that you are better than her gf and now he doesn’t want to proceed with it because he wants you back again. It’s up to you to take him back after what he did to you or give him a chance so you can be a whole family again.Talk and see what didn’t met in the relationship..so you will not end up in divorce..and you can be happy again..if you still loved your husband..and he promised that he will not astray again.
if he was healthy in the head he would have left her first, then proved to you he was on his own then brought you flowers or something, but this guy wants to go from girl to girl he doesn’t want to be alone, no, i wouldn’t go for it, unless he got counseling and got rid of her but even then i would wait at least 6 mos.
He is realizing what he is going to lose and being on his best behavior. Maybe he is having problems with the girlfriend or having financial difficulties. Don’t fall for his trick and continue with the divorce.
Take him to the cleaners baby!
Obviously he is an ex for a reason! If he really cared he would NEVER have left you and the kids for someone else. The only reason that he is being nice to you and tellin you that he doesnt want a divorce is because he knows that his ass is grass! You can ( and should!!!) take him to court for child support and spousal support. That scares the shit out of him! You just remember that he is only trying to screw you out of money, just as he screwed you out of your happiness and family.
Take his ass to court so you and your children wount have to struggle while he sits back idly and enjoys his new life with his new girl.
Best of luck to you!!!!
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg
on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but
many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring
could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your
spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk
honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more
serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a
blog that has more information on some of what I’ve been writing about. If
you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it.
http://howtogetmyexback1.blogspot.com/
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when
you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love
isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may
just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in
love in the first place. Don’t just get out of a marriage just because you
don’t think you like the person anymore.