My mistress may have to move back to her home state permanently. Should I write her husband a letter?
She is in sales and in my town most of each month and we’ve had a wonderful relationship, filling in our voids with lousy spouses. But due to financial reasons, she may need to move back to her home state permanently. We’d be over.
Her husband somehow got my email address at one point and wrote some barely literate emails to me I never replied to. Seemed pretty despondent about the affair. I felt bad for him but realize if it weren’t with me, she’d just sleep with someone else most likely (I was not the first affair).
Anyhow, if she goes back, he’ll need to step up his game. Maybe I could send him some instructions on how to please this woman? She’s complicated and he just doesn’t have the skill set. But with some tips, maybe he could be passable and improve?
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You send him this:
Dear Cuckold. That’s some hunk of woman you got there. damn shame you have no idea how to tune her engine right.You’re a sap, but you seem OK, so I am going to do you a favour. You need to step up your game lad in the boudoir dept…or that fine little filly of yours is going to be grazing in greener pastures (again).and the next guy mightn’t be so well motivated as me.
Look up the following words in a decent marriage manual…
Foreplay
Cunnilingus’
G-Spot
Clitoris
Follow all instructions religiously.
Look up the following terms in a sexual disorders text:
Impotence
Delayed ejaculation
Premature ejaculation
Mother fixation
And avoid them at all costs.
I wish you well in your endeavours.
Yours Sincerely
A Well Wisher.
yes you should, tell her poor husband, and also tell your wife, so she could find a real man. looser!!!
someday you’ll be him, would you want an e-mail with advice?
Give the advice to get an AIDS test.
Why are you wasting your precious time solving this cheater’s problems. I am sure you have your own to take care of. If this guy is such a sissy, its his problem.
Why make it your problem. Why have anything to do with anyone that is attached. That doesn’t mean if she did leave her husband she would be faithful to you and then would you want to be the guy sending e mails to her next fling?
My goodness, you sound so considerate, sensitive, and kind! He will definitely appreciate that. If he doesn’t, don’t worry. He’ll just have to learn the hard way. Hey, could you send my hubs some tips too while you’re at it?
Why is it that cheaters always cheat on "lousy spouses", isn’t the lousy spouse the one who cheats?? If you mess around with a woman and her husband emails you sounding depressed, what the hel* is wrong with you to not have feelings? She is not complicated, she is cheap and a slu*.
If you send him instructions, you could end up in the morgue. Is the tramp worth that?
You are the Mestross then. or she used you also.
If all f@ckbuddies were like you, my husband would be better in bed.
Oh I’m sure he’d LOVE that! Advice from his wife’s lover about how to please her! You might as well stab him in the heart or punch him in the face.
Marriages usually break down for many reasons, however in all cases it takes two people to make a marraige fail.
Ok, he’s not been the best husband, but she’s not been a good wife either. The same goes for your relationship. Your spouse might be "lousy" but how have you contributed that? And what are you doing to her now by cheating? Is that helping matters at all?
I think the both of you need to take a good long hard look at yourselves and work out how you’re going to either work through your respective marriages, or end them.
You cannot let things go on as they are, unless you want to hurt your "lousy spouses" more than you have already of course.
That would be a bitter pill to swallow, the best think I can say is imagine yourself in the same situation, like reverse it and see how you would react to it, let that guide what you decide to do
Even if you possessed the most compelling suggestions imaginable you are the last person who should be attempting to advise him; I doubt the gesture would be well received. Further, it’s debatable whether she will even be welcomed back. The last thing any sane guy wants is to be a financial crutch to an unfaithful woman. Your letter implies that she is sexually indiscriminate (which you took as a green light to go ahead and bang her since she’d most likely sleep with someone else anyway if it wasn’t with you. This is your idea of nobility?)
How about this: Since you’re so worried about her future fulfillment and well-being, why don’t you take care of her…financially and otherwise? Then she won’t have to move. Now, THAT would be noble, but that’s not a particularly appealing idea, is it? Why? Because she’s not worth that level of involvement and you know it. What do you win when you compete for and get someone else’s wife? A woman you can’t trust (you know, the same payoff she gets by having you…a man she can’t trust) because you know firsthand she’s a cheater. The only substance you two have is convenience and an enjoyable lay; fine as far as that goes, but when convenience is gone (as it appears to be eroding) its appeal vanishes right behind it. The funny thing is, in the back of your mind you already know all of this, so when she’s gone just move on to the next thing. Don’t worry about her husband; he’ll improve when he has a reason to do so, that is, when he has a woman that cares about him and is worth the effort. Now, is it you two that truly have lousy spouses, or is it your spouses who have lousy spouses?
Happy New Year.
Why don’t you pin on a letter,"return to sender,address unkown".
It may give him some food for thought.
Just send him a pair of balls!
You couldn’t be serious on this one , You are going to give him instructions. When a man is a loser of a lover nothing you say is going to help. But, I do have something to say on this. Where are you or her going to be in 20 yrs from now. Married, over, find out that it doesn’t change from one partner to the next without you yourself changing. Did you ever think of that. If you were different as you are with her and she with you maybe your mates wouldn’t be the way they are. Hummmmm something to think about . I know this is going to surprise you but if people but in half the effort to get along and work it out you all would be a head of the game. We seem to lose sight of that somewhere along the line. Now, I have made huge gains in this myself. By, trying to understand what happens when you don’t pay attention to whom you live with. Being nice, kind, loving, ETC. After time we all settle in with each other and the road becomes just like the other one. Its up to you to make it better. If each partner is so bad why do you or her stay. Just wondering. When I was that miserable I left. I walked out. I didn’t play that game. I had pride in myself and knew what I had to do. I have been with mate of now for over 20 yrs. We have had our moments and our fights but they are so dumb we laugh at it. We love as furious as we argue. We take care of each other and are there for each other. We make a strong force to be dealt with. That is the way it should be.
Send him a letter advising him to drop her like a hot potato. He should find someone who doesn’t require him to play stupid games just to keep her from straying. Do you know how condescending and patronizing you sound to women, in general? What you suggest is ridiculous and pathetic. A lousy spouse is one who is abusive or who cheats on a spouse who is not abusive. Sounds like someone needs to be visited by the ghosts of Christmases past, present, and future. ; )
If he can’t figure it out, I doubt he really cares about her as much as a person as he does about her as ‘his wife’. But who knows…? I could be wrong on this one.
Is your mistress going to send your wife a likewise letter?
Have you even discussed this with your mistress?
You’re both losers, why don’t you both divorce your respective spouses so you can marry each other, then cheat on each other?
Let her go…and no letters please…..she will soon find solace in some other man….there are lot of fish in the sea….find someone else, Harry.
send a txt instead. it easier