i caught my wife cheating on me about a year ago…how do i learn to trust/love her again?
about two years ago, i caught my girlfriend, whom is now my wife in bed with another man. i was devistated because my girlfriend, whom is also the mother of my daughter, was the sweetest, kindest person i have ever meet. i never expected my wife to cheat on me because i didnt think it was in her nature. after i caught her cheating i broke up with her for several weeks, but due to the fact that i had a daughter with her i took her back. thing have never been the same. i have trouble showing her my emotions and i dont tell her i love her. i know she is sorry and wishes she never did it but i have been having a difficult time forgiving her. now i find myself cheating on her with several hot females. i feel bad afterwords but it dosent seem to make me stop. most of the time i dont even enjoy myself. i care about my wife but i dont love her anymore. i think about leaving her but i cant see myself with anyone else. i also cant imagine my daughter being raised by another man. is it hopeless?
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You want to trust her, but you’re cheating with several other women? Is this a joke?
get rid of her shes done it once that you know of she will do it again cause she knows she can get away with it
NOPE it’s not and nothing’s hopeless. Councelling is the solution. with a great deal of will you’ll overcome this issue. Both of you have done the other bad. You can start over if you really want to. Good luck.
Why even be married if you’re cheating?
Well, ‘brokenman’ I am getting a feeling that you have taken a wrong path to mend the relationship. Rather than working it out you have succummed to the negatives of a relationship.
I am not saying that what your wife did was good, but the way you have acted after that is very bad. People do mistakes, and if we love someone we can somewhere forgive them, adjust with them… though its not easy… it must have been very hard. But if I ask you — Did cheating on her… or this ‘eye for an eye’ solution resolve your pain ??? The answer would be a big NO. Thats where you went wrong.
Solution wise… I don’t think its hopeless. I do appreciate the fact that your daughter has been in your mind everytime you have though of abandoning your wife. I think you are a great dad after all. What you need to do is give one more chance to both your lives (you and your wife). Your wife is sorry about what she did so try to forget all that past and bring back your love life. Talk to her and tell her every feeling that you have gone through, for once just push your ego away. Chances are that you guys will try to bond once again.
As you try becoming the same man for her before you found her cheating… you will feel better and she would reconfide in you. I am sure you both can still make a good life for your entire family. Remember you both have an angel (your daughter) and she is the only hope which will help bonding you guys together. But all this if you want it.
Yep… you’ve pretty much f*cked it by cheating on her as well… You both need serious marriage counseling, and without it, your relationship is doomed. Please don’t tell us how much you "care" about your wife, then you turn around and cheat on her… you obviously don’t give a sh*t, or you would not have done it. If it was to get even with her… then congrat’s, you’re even with her…. If you don’t love her, then save both of you some pain and get the f*ck out of this loveless relationship. Don’t stay for the sake of your daughter… children sense tension at a very early age… you will be doing her NO favours in staying in this horrible relationship.
It sounds to me as if you are in some sort of a payback mode. Paybacks will only make things worse. Think back to how you felt when you found out she cheated on you. Two wrongs don’t make a right. And ultimately this could effect your daughter more than you know.
I suggest start with counseling. Go for 6-12 months and if in the end you just cannot find yourself to forgive not only her but yourself, then you should not waste your time or your wife’s any longer.
divorce.
a child in the relationship can alter things, but this should never have even developed into a marriage.
you need to be honest with her- both of you get tested for STDs, and then get a divorce.. trust is VERY HARD to rebuild, and it won’t ever happen.
I think she needs to know that she’s been feeling so band and sorry for something you’ve been doing a lot more of.
sorry bud
it was only sex , no big deal, its obvious she needs more man fun than you can give her (no shame in that means you got a horny girl there) its you that has the problem grow up and act like an adult its just sex , take her to a swingers club you’ll blow her mind! your a lucky fella start acting like one
It’s never good to stay in a marriage just for the sake of the kids. Sorry but it really never works out in the long run any ways, you just end up stretching out time on something that should of ended long ago. She has cheated and so have you. The respect and trust in your marriage is gone. When that’s gone, there is No marriage any more. Move on. My answer might not be what you would like to hear, but it comes from the heart of a woman that has been married for over 25yrs. Respect and trust is what has kept us together. Sounds like the both of you have neither. Good Luck.
She wasn’t your wife when she cheated on you, she was your g/f. If you care so much about her and your daughter then you should care enough to get yourself into counseling.
two wrongs dont make a right. youve cheated on her too. and youve got your revenge and then some. if you couldnt forgive her then you should have never married her. shes sorry but now you are in the wrong now. try counseling, see if it will work for you.
If you want someone you can trust completely get a dog.
nobodys the same,,,but i would never ever stay with a women that cheated on me,,,,you do that i think you’v lost your pride,,,,,i dont care what the reason was,, id leave,, see ya
if you can’t stop cheating on her, she can’t also stop cheating on you.
i it was me, i would leave her.
how do you know you want them back when thay left so easy