How long take to get over a breakup?
My ex broke up 1 week ago after a 20 month relationship.
Been sulking and crying all week and feeling depressed. We will never see or talk ever again. And maybe it will help.
This guy that I met about 1 month ago has asked me on a date next week. He lives an hour away. Should I just go? Or is this too early and need some time to sulk and get stronger
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The sooner you start dating, the faster you’ll get over the ex. The guy you met, only date him if you like him, as in find him attractive or a good person. Otherwise it will all go wrong.
It’s ok to cry & sulk after something like this.
And you know what? Go out on a date but keep it light and casual for now.
Good luck.
i think it might be too early to go on a date bc you will constantly be comparing every thing your date does to what your ex used to do. but u should plan a girls night and go hang out w the ladies! they will def make u feel better and u don’t have to worry about pretending to be having a good time w your date. ur friends will understand and know how to make u feel better.
Give yourself time. Jumping into another relationship too soon could be the very thing you DON"T need to do. A 20 month relationship means that you both cared about each other so just relax for awhile and don’t push yourself into thinking you need companionship from someone else because your lonesome. Just stay cool for awhile.
I am sorry you are going through this. Breakups are never an easy thing. I dont care if you have been together a month or 5 years. When you develop feelings for someone, strong feelings then its hard no matter how long you are together. Its one of those things you have to deal with in your own way. I will tell you this though, you will be ok. Its going to be hard for a few months probably, I won’t lie to you. I mean if you really loved this person. I don’t know the reason for the breakup, but since he broke up with you, it makes it even harder. You just have to take it a day at the time and work your feelings out. Go through the motions. Sadness, Anger, and then Letting GO! You need to take this time to find you again. I would say hold off on dating for awhile, cause you don’t want it to be a rebound type thing. Just go out in the world and find what makes YOU happy. Each day will get easier and easier…then when you feel you have truly let him go, and have FORGIVEN him then, sure go out with other guys. You have to get rid of your feelings completely before moving on, because if you dont the next guy you get involved with, will reap the repricutions of what you went through because you will still have that anger inside of you and hurt, that you will be thinking the whole time that this new guy is going to hurt you and you won’;t give your whole self to him in return. To know it or not, but you have now a wall totally up, and you need to knock it down before moving on. Don’t cry about this guy, it hurts but crying about it won’t get you anywhere. He is gone, just accept that. Dont sit there and wonder what you did wrong, if you did this, if you did that> Trust me honey, I have been through 3 heartbrearks with men that I was in 5 and 6 year relationships with, I AM STILL ALIVE. It was hard, but I did get though it and you will too. Hang in there!
I know this might sound unsubstantiated but you need to wait one year since you last had sex until you have sex with a new guy. This period is known in some cultures as the year of mourning. Esoteric literature says that if you sleep with someone else straight away rather than waiting the year you commit a very serious internal crime against a higher aspect of yourself. Goethe knew this and always waited. Others also knew it intuitively. You will be tempted though so good luck.
No one can really say how long it takes to get over a breakup as it varies with different people. Your breakup is too new and fresh to even think about going out with someone else. I know you feel it will help to get over the ex but it is only a temporary fix. The last thing you want to do is put the new guy in the middle of an issue that he has nothing to do with and that wouldn’t be fair. At the end he will hurt and you don’t want to be the person who gave him a heartache.
If I were you, I will take the time to learn from the last relationship and take time out for myself so i can finally heal and get past all those romantic feelings over the ex. When you feel in your heart you are truly ready to move on and date, then go for it. Now you can keep this guy as a friend and be honest with him that you just out of a relationship. From that point he has a choice to either wait for you patiently or find someone else.
I hope you make the right decision.