How To get a Ex-BoyFriend to hate me???? Men’s feed back pls!?
I started dating him when i was in my early 20"s.. I lost my virginity to this guy, it was my choice, i loved him and chose him. Well He ended up cheating, so i left, he started seeing one of the girls (there was a few) he was cheating on me with,, i wished him well and moved on, he kept trying to come back into my life and i refused, he then ended up marrying someone else he was cheating on my with, there marriage lasted 9 months, again he tried to come back , i refused, He thought i was oblivious to the fact that he was using me as his back up… Anyway, October of 2008 he started contacting me again because we had gotten into an argument and i cut off contact…. he wanted to apologize, so i excepted his apology, i had no intention on anything else.. he showed up at my house with flowers.. and charm.. so i started going out with him about 3 time’s a week.. we had Absolutely no sexual contact, for the first time he respected my wishes.. we were just friends…. well one day in january 2009… we ended up having sex after reminiscing about our past together…. after we were finished.. he rolled over and told me he was in a serious relationship with someone he was unhappy with…..at that moment,I felt so completely cheap and worthless you have no idea,
I got up,I put my clothes on and proceeded out the door, he ran after me and grabbed me by the arm and said "this is not the last time im going to see you… your mine, i was your first and I will be your last" (Nut Case) I just looked at him and walked to my car. when i got home I called my phone company to change my phone number…..
This still did not stop him.. he started contacting me through email,, so i changed my email… he started showing up and my work… do i call the cops? How far do I go? I knew he wanted me to have kids with him.. he had wanted this since we first started dating 7 years ago…..well,,, im not stupid.. he wants children with me to trap me…..so what better way to get rid of a man then to tell him I aborted his Child? When we were together the last time we had unprotected sex.. I did not tell him i was on the pill .. i was…. so a little over a month later…. i sent him an email… telling him he got me pregnant…and that i did not keep his child because he was a deadbeat dad to the children he has now, and that he would never be good enough to be the father of my child. ……….Harsh.. i know…. but hey… he put me in a really awkward position, and I am still having problems at 30 years old with relationships do to my trust issues.
I felt horrible after i did this…. but i knew it was the only way this man would stay out of my life…I desperately needed him to hate me…..and well.. it’s been almost a year.. and there is no sign of him =)
Spare me the Criticism… i had to do what i had to do… he treated me like a whore, when all i ever was to him was supportive. So screw him and who ever thinks Im a bitch for this!
I later find out he is Bipolar and on Anti-Depressants. so I needed to get away from him… this was the only way to make him hate me!
Men’s feedback please.
Fallenbose.. yes i do think extremely highly of my self…….and i will say it… he is not lucky enough to father my children…..and i will continue to find a man that is worthy of that…. as far as him playing with my head… i was 28 old… im not foolish.. i know when men are messing with my head… if i was as stupid as most women out there that are needy and immature enough to put up with a man like that… then i would not of went as far as i did to get him out of my life….. you seem know understand him, maybe you are guilty of the same immature, insecure action he is guilty of. So of course you will defend the behavior….. My opionion… People that Cheat.. are inserucre with who they are. and Are to needy and clingy to deal with the reality of there insecurities!
Curious………how is it i allowed him to treat me like a whore? just curious? for date someone for 3 months prior.. is’nt it proper to tell someone who you are "Just friends with " that you are ina relationship? and why was he spending so much time with me instead of this so called girlfirend? So i ask you… how did i allow him to treat me like a whore? Are you one of those christians that does not belive in sex before marriage? if so please spare me about what the bible say’s… open your eye’s please… and relise we are living in a time that is not of the stone ages!
as far as me stooping to his level/…. there’s so much you don’t know about this guy… if i wanted to type a novel i would..
LOL the men’s answer’s are great by the way… it looks like i hit a nerve.
That’s all I needed to know……. I did exactly the right thing….. he hate’s me… is discusted with me… and that is exaclty what i wanted! Mission Accomplished………….
And yes.. im online thinking about it a year later… Im not afraid to admit i loved him.. and it bothered me…. but i had to do what i had to do to get him away from me!
Job Well Done!
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i’m not a man, but i’d suggest getting a restraining order. that’s seriously creepy, and he could hurt you if you don’t do anything about it.
"he wants children with me to trap me" – You think very highly of yourself
*99.9% of the time men do such things, they are simply playing with your head.
Quite right my dear, i am guilty of such actions, though perhaps not to such socially negated extents. Some girls are just fun to play with.
In any case, if he is anything like me, you being "intelligent" has nothing to do with it. The smartest of men can be fooled, and given that women are biologically inferior, they even easier.
get a restraing order and have 911 on speed dial lol
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I’m no man, and I agree with Sarah C., get a restraining order and seek other means of help…there are support groups for you. Find one.
when he told you about the other girl, you should have punched him in the face and kicked his balls as hard as you could. he’s a big fat jerk. get a restraining order, he sounds creepy. and good job with telling him you aborted his child adn calling him a deadbeat dad.
tell him that you dont like him and you never want to see him again. tell him that if he ever comes to your work again, that your calling the cops.
and sorry, but imma girlll
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I don’t think that you’re a whore or anything. What I don’t understand is how you haven’t heard of him in almost a year and you’re online thinking about him …
You may get mad, but just being honest:
This was so wrong of you to do, you stooped to his level & it doesn’t make him any better than you, I don’t know how/why you thought this would get rid of him if any thing it probably wanted him to see you more ——- "so what better way to get rid of a man then to tell him I aborted his Child? When we were together the last time we had unprotected sex.. I did not tell him i was on the pill .. i was…. so a little over a month later…. i sent him an email… telling him he got me pregnant…and that i did not keep his child because he was a deadbeat dad to the children he has now, and that he would never be good enough to be the father of my child." But it’s done & over with.
You allowed him to treat you like a "whore (as you say)". Your problem is that you never completely cut off contact from the beginning. So now, years later that you have finally decided to cut off contact, he isn’t going to take you seriously.
You’re on the right track though. As for him showing up at work, tell him striaght out "I want nothing to do with you, it’s done & over with for good, I changed my #, I changed my email, move on with your life, you will find some body else, please don’t show up to my work any more." You may need to get a restraining order against him if he continues to not leave you alone. Also, you may want to move so he won’t know where you live.
sounds like ur in the clear on this one.
do what you gotta do to get rid of him.
if he stays on his meds, he shouldnt be coming back. keep your head low and do your thing.
Needy, Clingy, and a Manipulative Con-artist is what you lost your virginity to!
Sounds like he has major issues…….He will always be unfaithful.. and always have problems with his relationships….. very sad… but it’s his life
If he ever comes’s around.. just call the cops. he is obviously crazy.. he is on med’s… and sounds like he will either end up living off of a woman later in life… or mooching off of his friends.. or even homeless.
Stay away from him…. you did the right thing….im sure it was hard for you to do… but you had to do what you had to do, and remember…. what goes around comes around….. so he will get his if he has’nt already!
GoodLuck
have you tried talking to them