Comments on: is it possible to get back together with an ex-girlfriend? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3240/is-it-possible-to-get-back-together-with-an-ex-girlfriend/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sir Jelly http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3240/is-it-possible-to-get-back-together-with-an-ex-girlfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-19716 Sir Jelly Sat, 02 Jan 2010 02:46:21 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3240/is-it-possible-to-get-back-together-with-an-ex-girlfriend/#comment-19716 i am 19 as well, turning 20 very soon. i think our relationships are different in the simple fact that SHE broke up with ME, but still similar. firstly, the friends do NOT have nearly as much power as you would believe, unless she is rediculously insecure. but if she were rediculously insecure, she would have taken you back the moment you started showing interest again. its been a long time since july, and a year isnt THAT long of a relationship. its easily possible that she has goten over you by now, which would make it a real shame that it took you so long to want her back. but, especialy if this is the first guy she has dated since you broke up, its OK. your 19, and i presume she is roughly the same age, and a year is still enough time to develop a bond which cant be forgoten. she will be comparing every guy she dates even encounters, in the back of her mind, to you, even if its subconsiously. ask yourself "how could any other guy honestly measure up to you?" let her date other guys. you should only talk to her seldomly, and only if she calls, and when she does, dont even mention other guys, simply have a conversation. if she can have fun talking or hanging out with you for a short time, she will want you around a little more. its not really about "what to do to get her back" its more like, "what you need to NOT do to ruin your chances that it will happen by itself" its a little tricky, based on your story she hasnt permanantly labled you as a "good friend", but dont let that happen. dont let her confide in you when shes feeling down, dont be an ass, but skillfully avoid the situation. the hurtful things when you split up might warrant an appology, but dont bring up any relationship issues, its in the past, let it go. dont try to justify behavior, assign blame, none of it. back to the dating thing. think of it this way. you said you ended things with other girls you were seeing, so you were back in the dating pool, and it helped you to realize the girl you truly wanted. shes just starting to get back in the dating pool, and you need to just let the exact same thing happen to her. let her realize that she wants you back. women are not logical creatures, you cant convince them to do anything, it has to be their idea. like i said, its all about "not doing the wrong stuff" rather than "doing all the right stuff" i am 19 as well, turning 20 very soon. i think our relationships are different in the simple fact that SHE broke up with ME, but still similar.

firstly, the friends do NOT have nearly as much power as you would believe, unless she is rediculously insecure. but if she were rediculously insecure, she would have taken you back the moment you started showing interest again.

its been a long time since july, and a year isnt THAT long of a relationship. its easily possible that she has goten over you by now, which would make it a real shame that it took you so long to want her back. but, especialy if this is the first guy she has dated since you broke up, its OK. your 19, and i presume she is roughly the same age, and a year is still enough time to develop a bond which cant be forgoten. she will be comparing every guy she dates even encounters, in the back of her mind, to you, even if its subconsiously.

ask yourself "how could any other guy honestly measure up to you?"
let her date other guys. you should only talk to her seldomly, and only if she calls, and when she does, dont even mention other guys, simply have a conversation. if she can have fun talking or hanging out with you for a short time, she will want you around a little more.

its not really about "what to do to get her back" its more like, "what you need to NOT do to ruin your chances that it will happen by itself"

its a little tricky, based on your story she hasnt permanantly labled you as a "good friend", but dont let that happen. dont let her confide in you when shes feeling down, dont be an ass, but skillfully avoid the situation.

the hurtful things when you split up might warrant an appology, but dont bring up any relationship issues, its in the past, let it go. dont try to justify behavior, assign blame, none of it.

back to the dating thing. think of it this way. you said you ended things with other girls you were seeing, so you were back in the dating pool, and it helped you to realize the girl you truly wanted. shes just starting to get back in the dating pool, and you need to just let the exact same thing happen to her. let her realize that she wants you back. women are not logical creatures, you cant convince them to do anything, it has to be their idea.

like i said, its all about "not doing the wrong stuff" rather than "doing all the right stuff"

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