How can I avoid getting back with my ex?
Tricky one I guees
Basically I am going to meet the exgrilfriend I dumped a couple of weeks ago for a chat over everything that happened and I really fear getting back with her.. mainly because I never trusted her during our time together (8 months) but I still have strong feeling for her but just don’t think it’s right to be together because I know for sure I am going to start having doubts from the moment I decide to stay.
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Just don’t do it. Don’t let yourself get sucked in by this manipulative shrew.
just say no.
Go to Scotland and hope she doesn’t follow.
~ Avoid your ex ~
say NO , but not rudely , explain her nicely that you are not ready for a relationship with her
Dont get together with her in the first place. Close the book.
Well from what you just told us it sounds like your head is telling you all of the right things. Just keep telling yourself that you have to listen to your head and not your heart in this situation. And if you think you are weak because of the way you feel then I would suggested to not even go. What is the point? You are asking how to avoid getting back with her. That is the best way to avoid. Avoid her
If you are totally certain that she cant be trusted then just don’t get back with her. 8 months isn’t very long at all, you’ll both move on and find people you do trust. Trust is the key issue in a relationship, without it you might as well not be with them. Don’t worry, you’ll get over it and so will she. It’s not like you’re married or anything.
First of all I wouldn’t even meet her because this will bring all those feelings back out. You could move on find a hobby or meet a new person. Try to think of other things but her. Or you could think of all the stuff that pisses you off when you are talking to her start to have those feelings back. If you didn’t trust her once you never will. Or you could just be a big asshole to her.
well what i did was completely cut off all contact with him!
he tried to talk to me i just ignored him
i deleted on my facebook
and he tried jsut asking me out in front of the entire class (maybe trying to guilt me into dating him again) and i jsut said no
Say no to her politely
You’ll never be happy with her. Best to cancel the meeting so you can move on, and so can she. You’ll think about her for awhile, then it will pass.
If she did something to illicit your none trusting feeling, then I’d say why do you have to meet? If you still have to meet, tell her you care for her as a friend, as well as having strong feelings but you would never be able to trust her. Because trust forms the key stone of a relationship.
If she did not do anything concrete to cause your distrust, perhaps consider that you can both work through any insecurities you feel.
Overall though you can avoid this meeting, say you are tied up and see her one day when you feel ok about it.
If you can’t swim, stay out of the water, as easy as that. Why expose yourself to a situation you know is going to give you doubts and nothing good will come out of it.
then don’t meet with her just yet, give it a few more weeks then have that chat or maybe by then she’ll have found someone and won’t be interested in conversing about it
Well, get with some other girls. They might make you forget your ex.
You need to give yourself time to heal and can only do that away from her. I’m sorry to say but if this relationship were going to work out you would never have broken up to begin with. I’ve known many people who went back to an ex but never saw a 1 of them succeed. Breaking up is hard to do. Be patient and stay away from her so you can heal. Good luck.
Were you ever married or divorced from her? NO? Then get the heck off Marriage and Divorce!!!
Stop all communication.
When you meet with your ex, just tell her straight out that you don’t want to get back together.
If she pleads with you to get back together, tell her no and that decision is not going to change right now. Be firm and don’t change your stance on it.
It’s impossible to love someone when you don’t trust them. Love is based on trust, without trust it’s just an infatuation.
Stay strong and do not have sex with her!!
I think that it is way too soon to be even meeting with her. You dumped her a couple weeks ago, not because you wanted to still have her around all the time. I know its harder in execution than in planning. You have to be strong here though.
Also some other information:
Men and Women generally cant "just be friends" after a relationship that long. Something else will always become of it.
Secondly, A clean break and no contact generally does the most healing. Why would you want to keep the weapon in the wound? Pull her out and get to healing, because believe it or not, It takes healing.
Lastly, a good rule of thumb is it takes half as long as the relationship lasted to "get over" them. So for you, four months would be adequate time.
I hope this helped.