How can I get my ex back ….if we aren’t even talking?
My ex and I broke up about 6 weeks ago…after being together for two years. About 3 weeks ago we spoke breifly about spending new years together. I told him that we will see about it…and then asked him to please mail back my stuff to me since i live three hours away…..and for some reason he had an attitude with me, even though I asked nicely.
About 3 days ago…we met up so I can get back the last of my things, since I was in the area. We barely spoke…he told me he was suprised I came. He looked really pissed off that he even had to see me. I really don’t get this when just two weeks ago he was saying that we should spend new years together. And I actually did want to as well and told him that.
After meeting, I sent him a text the next day since I couldn’t stop thinking about him…. I asked him to talk face to face. And he replied….we have to say no to each other..which means meeting would just be a waste of time and to take care of myself. I just got left wondering WTH!
How can I get him back….if we aren’t even talking now??
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Oh man, that is a tough one.
Okay, here is your strategy: Don’t text him ANYmore at all. Post REALLY cute new pictures of yourself looking FABULOUS on your Facebook and Myspace (come on you KNOW he’s looking). He was probably pretty upset that after he offered to see you for New Years, you asked for your stuff back, that tells him that you want to make it a permanent split up. Right now that time is super critical because he’s about to totally move on. I would not contact him at ALL for the next few weeks, even if you have to cry yourself to sleep just thinking about him, trust me. The radio silence will absolutely kill him. Don’t drunk text or call. Go into your phonebook and DELETE his number out. Not that you don’t have it memorized, but basically this will make it harder for you to try to text or call him since you’ll have to do it manually.
Take the next 3 weeks to think about WHY you broke up. Are there things you could have done differently or habits he didn’t like? Are they changeable? Try doing a mini-makeover on yourself, inwardly and outwardly.
Wait and see if he mails your stuff back.
If he doesn’t, call him in about 3 weeks and offer to meet him halfway or to drive to his house to pick it up. Don’t make demands or be rude.
Just be super polite, it’ll remind him of all the reasons he liked you in the first place.
Wear a new outfit. Make sure it’s understated but totally hot.
Have your nails done, and your hair shiny and beautiful, wear a yummy scent.
Super sweetly tell him that you’re there to get your stuff and you are sorry things ended the way they did.
Don’t cry, and don’t sound desperate, just be really guarded but sweet.
Kindly gather your things and the ONLY thing you can say to him as you’re leaving is "You know I still love you, and you know how to find me. Take care."
This will let him know you are still interested, but, that you are NOT desperate.
Don’t beg him back or break down, you are strong and beautiful, and he has to realize that you are completely capable of moving on without him. Most of all, he has to see some sort of change in you.
And then walk away. Don’t look back, don’t call and don’t text.
Pretty much, when you do this, it’ll probably completely do him in and I bet you anything he’ll call you within a few days after that
It worked for me long ago, hope it does the trick for you too!!
Good luck!
Why would you want him back?
Do you plan to trap him and keep him in a prison so all he has is you??
It really seems as if it is over for whatever reason.
Look elsewhere.
Roofies
hmm idk
By you taking your things after agreeing to see him on New Years, he was probably thinking that you were taking away the last chance for the two of you to reconcile really soon.
I would suggest letting him be. He made it clear that he needs to get over you so I suggest giving him his space.
I dont know how you can get him back but i can tell you why he was upset when you asked nicely for your things back. Even tho you guys were already broken up he probably didnt really believe it was over so you asking for your things back made it official.
you’re just going to have to open the lines of communication first. and explain how you feel. it is i’m afraid the only way.
good luck :]
If my human relations tutor and personal mentor has taught me anything it is this….
They are called ex’s for a reason… (I cant give you a definitive reason cause there are too many) but I cant say the only way to get him back is to… drug him next time you meet and then bring him to the abandoned mine at 12 noon tomorrow for more instructions… (ha ha)
Oh man.. Listen leave well enough alone, if he is being a ace hole then leave him to it!
H-ow-ever you did not mention the term and conditions in which you parted company!!
Move on… that is all.
Well… you said that you wanted to see him on new years, then you took all your stuff back? Maybe by saying he wanted to see you on new years he was implying that he wanted to get back together with you, i’m not sure, but maybe, and by you taking all of your stuff back it made him think that you didn’t want to get back together with him… I think that you just need to give it some time, you both obviously need time, and space to breath, just think about everything, and he’ll probably be thinking about everything too, and once you’re ready, probably in a few weeks talk to him, and if he doesn’t want to talk yet, then he’s not ready and he still needs some more time. Hope that helps.