How do I cope with being single and childless in my late 20s? Should I Just Give Up on Love?
I had my heart broken when I was 19 years old so I stopped dating for 7 years.
Finally in October of 2008, I got my confidence back and I began dating again.I was 26 years old.
I have had no luck in the love department.
I’m going to be 28 years old in February and I still have no husband or children and it really hurts.
I really want to get married and have children someday.I love children and I want children of my own someday.I also want to be happily married like my parents.
I tried these free online dating sites and I have had no luck.I am enrolled on eHarmony.com.Eharmony is a little expensive but its worth it because at least the members are screened first.But these free online dating sites are no good.I have had no luck.
Some of my relatives have no respect for me because I’m not married and I have no kids.Some of my relatives think I’m a total failure because I’m in my late 20s and I’m still not married and I still have no children.
I’m working on my Bachelors in Arts in early childhood education, I work full time,and I have my own place, but still no men seem to want me.I thought men liked women who were educated and self supporting, but I guess thats a lie.I have my own place,I work,and I’m in school but still no men are tugging on my line.
I’m thinking about giving up on love just like I did before.I didn’t date for 7 years.I’m thinking about giving up again.Or maybe I should wait until I move to the south to try love again.I live in Chicago and the men up here are very different from the men in the south.I’m moving to the south when I obtain my Bachelors in Arts.I have a friend who had better luck in the love department when she moved to the south.
How can I cope with being single and childless? I’m going to get 2 cats soon, but the cats can’t replace my desire to have children.
How can I face my family? Some of my relatives still see me as a little girl because I’m single and childless.Some have even dared to question my sexuality.How can I cope with the mean way my relatives view me?
Should I give up on love?
If by the age of 32 no man has come along,I’m going to adopt children and go to the sperm bank and have children artificially.
My biggest fear is that I will get to be an elderly woman who never married or had kids.I don’t want to be the lonely old lady who never married or had children.
I feel pressured to get into a relationship before I turn 30 because my relatives think of me as a failure because I have no man or kids.
And my ex boyfriend said I’m too ugly to procreate.He said I will always be the second best to all men and that I will always be a man’s doormat.He said God doesn’t want me to procreate because Im too ugly.
I’m beginning to believe that my ex boyfriend is right.I’m going to be 28 soon and I still have no kids or husband.And once again some of my relatives will whisper what a failure I am and they will think of me as a child and have no respect for me.
How can I cope?
Should I give up?
If I’m so pretty then why am I still single?
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Woah! Slow down and relax.
You say you are Christian so you will have heard in the past that God has a plan for each of us. He has each of our days mapped out for us and each one of us has a purpose to fulfill.
I understand where you are coming from because I too am 28 and not married..but I’m overall not that sad or anxious about it. On a bad day sure I can feel all the things that you do..so when I feel like that, I remind myself that its ok..if I’m meant to be with someone it will come to pass, if my life’s purpose requires that I be single..so be it. It can be difficult to surrender my life to God – sometimes I’m like..what are you doing up there?! Where is my soul-mate to share this life with!!.. but I trust that God has it covered.
If marriage is meant for you, it will be.
Relax, breathe, look at all the wonderful gifts you have, know that you’re not alone, pray and trust.
Best wishes x
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hmmm. after reading all that, i’m really at a loss for words. maybe if you take a break it will help keep your mind off of men. when a man does come along, don’t act desperate. i’ve heard they like a bit of a struggle for a woman. if nothing does work out with a guy, adopt. so many kids need families.
lastly, your ex is a douche. seriously don’t listen to the sh*t he says about you because i’m 100% sure you’re not ugly. just keep your chin up so high it breaks your neck
you shouldnt give up you just havnt met the right guy for you yet.also dont listen to what other people say about you im sure your not ugly you just have to find the right guy.
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Well, I feel your pain. But, I can honestly say feeling sorry for yourself will not work, holing yourself up away from men won’t allow you to get to your goal any faster. I’m 31, soon to be 32, have a long career, my own house, and even with two cats I still feel lonely. But, don’t become desperate because it won’t allow you to see past the “bad” choices that are out there lol. Believe me, the last thing you want is to add a child, become a single mother, and throw a crazy EX into your dating game as well.
Just be patient, but get out there, go to the gym, continue with your education, pick up something you love to do, surround yourself with the things you love to do, or the types of people you want to meet. That will help.
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