What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back!?! Please help! 10 points for Best Answer!?
Ok so I am 18 and my ex gf is 17. She broke up with me the day after Thanksgiving (a little over a month ago). I deserved to be dumped b/c I treated her like complete sh*t. I mainly did this b/c I was hurting so bad inside. I went to the Doctor December 14th (without anyone asking me to get help, so that right there shows you I am wanting to change!) and he diagnosed me with a severe case of clinical depression. I am currently getting my meds under control and start therapy next week.
I contacted my ex today for the first time in nearly 3 weeks and she said that she loves me, she misses me, but she doesnt want to get hurt again. She said it will be MONTHS (yes, she said months!) before we can even become SEMI-friends again. I couldnt believe this! I had admitted to lying to her in the past today, I have apologized hundreds of times for not getting help sooner; but other than this crap, our near year long relationship was perfect. She said that its caused so much stress on both our families (my bro and her half sister are married…its really not weird or anything so i dont want anyone talking crap), and I will agree that it has. Her parents disagree with her dating me b/c they think we just arent right for each other. SO WHAT CAN I SAY TO HER TO GET HER TO GIVE ME A CHANCE TO SHOW I HAVE CHANGED!?!
**Oh and I dont want to wait to long to get a relationship going again b/c in 7 months we will be going to different colleges that are about 30 minutes apart. BUT dont tell me to just move on b/c I am in absolute love with this girl and I just cant do that! Thanks a lot everyone! 
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I just broke up with my boyfriend too because he treated me like shit also. we broke up like 3 weeks ago but i still love him but i dont want to get hurt again..
i think you should tell her that you love her, make her feel like shes the only person in the world you care about
shes lying when she says that it will be months, she just wants you to prove to her that you need her
just make an effort, call her, text her, not in a creepy stalker way lol
surprise her, ask her if you can talk and just be honest
boys try and hide there feelings cause they dont want to get her but if you want her back honesty is the best way to do it
apologise to her and do whatever you can to show her that its going to be different this time
just dont give up, if yous were perfect for a year she cant just have moved on
tell her that you want her to be happy and if other people dont like it then tough
you should send her flowers? buy her stuff lol tell her how much you miss her and you will do whatever it takes for her to see how youve changed
goodluck
Call her repeatedly and leave as many messages as possible, eventually she will reply
TRUST ME BRA
WORKS LIKEA CHARM
Just really prove to her that you have changed. Keep up the good behavior for a couple of months, if your lucky she will notice the change and come back to you pretty soon. Just because you told her you changed, does not mean you have. You must earn her trust again.
Maybe you’rent appropriate with each other and your sub-consious or hers made that things happen.
get 11 of your friends together at once if possible Buy 12 roses hand 11 roses out to each friend and hold one your self. Then drive to her job or her place where she lives. Each guy walks in and hands her a rose and leaves. You be the 12th guy give her the rose and tell her how much you love her and how you changed and needed help and got it!
I understand getting 11 guys together can be difficult but it will be well worth it. just figure you get 1 guy see if he has friends they can bring and so on.
it just takes time man. just take it slow and prove to her u have changed
ok first say whats realy on your mind tell her you know you messed up and every one makes mastakes and be a man about your actions and treat her like shes the best thing in your life and tell her theres nothing more you want then her!! and if she realy likes you shell be back with you!!
tell her that if she give you 1 more chance you`ll change your a better person now send her some flowers with an apology and sweet message im sure she`ll come around because she misses you,
shes probably thinking it over and giving herself time to think. she`ll come when she`s ready.
Good luck!.
Show her that you are different, and tell her that you dont want to hurt her. Basically, you have to break down your walls, and tell her how you feel, and how it made you feel looking back on how you treated her. Tell her want you want with her. Open up, tell her everything you feel, and hope for the best.
Im in the same boat…gl dude
You are demonstrating all the qualities she broke up with you for. You want what you want when you want it. You think that three weeks of change is sufficient to repair the damage you did. You are so manipulative that you want smart people like me to figure out your excuses for you. She is telling you that you still have a chance if you do it her way. You really want her or do you just want to be an abusive SOB? If you want her, stick a sock in it and do it her way. Did you learn your abusive ways from your family? If so, go to a therapist while you are waiting and really fix yourself.
APPOLOGISE asuch as you possibly can tell her how you feel and that youre so sorry and that you love her and that you shouldve done it sooner and everything!! Best of luck!!
there is nothing that you can just say that will get her back, but i think you should try to be friends with her, help her out, be nice and tell her things like something funny that happened that day or something. try to make her laugh. if she seems to be having a good time, keep it going but if she asks for some space just give it to her. it hurts to be around people who have hurt you and you still love. but to be honest i wouldnt wait around forever, that would be bad for you. if, in a month or two, she doesnt seem to be pulling you back in than i would make an attempt to get over her. it would be easier than waiting around forever for her to come back to you.
this happened to me. my bf had a severe depression problem and started being mean to my friends so i dumped him. after a while i realized that i was being stupid and i forgave him. he gave me a promise ring and we both promised to be faithful and stick with each other. maybe you should try giving her a promise ring, you could both promise to stay by each others’ side, and you could promise to never go back to your old ways. plus she will hav a ring to show off to her friends
e-mail me with any questions, good luck!
do you know her fav flower? small things, like a bouquet of daisies or lillys can go a long way. calling her over and over again will just irritate her. saying you’ve changed is a lot different than showing her you’ve changed. ask her to go out for a casual dinner with you. find excuses to hang out. show her you’ve changed before pushing her to date you again. do you see her around town? at church or the movies? slip small notes onto her car or in her bag, just to let her know that you still care and miss her. write her e-mails, but give her space. let her call you when she’s ready. don’t text or call her first. try simpler things, like letters and a single flower on her doorstep. trust me, every girl wants the little things, and, considering she’s already told you she misses you, all you need to do is let her know you’re there and wait for her to be ready to try again. 30 minutes isn’t that far apart, don’t rush it. if this isn’t resolved by the time school starts, all is not lost.
good luck
Slow down there. If you love her then you want the best thing for her. I understand that you are going away in 7 months but if you take the time now to build your relationship up from the ground it will make a world a difference. Do not call her until you drive her crazy! Any time has acted all stalker-like on me, I am the first to run the other direction. Let her know that you are there and that you are getting help and you are getting better. Just because you went to the doctor and are on meds does not mean you are cured. It is a long road for you personally and you both need to fix what is wrong and fixing things take time. I know this is not what you want to hear, but it is the truth.
do things to let her know you have changed. try to put your feelings for her in words. tell her that you cant live without her.
if you are talking to her on a regular basis, then stop for a few days. she will miss talking to you and then text her like a few days later and she will be happy. if you arent talking to her everyday. start texting her every day telling her how much you love her and miss her, it doesnt matter if she responds. secretly inside, she will like the attention but then stop sending texts for a few days and then text her once or twice and she will be glad to hear from you again
she has to want you back you cant force her to do so
improve yourself improve your issues you two had within the relationship
only when you have shown her that you are a better man will she think about taking you back
until then, no contact with her
make her miss you
Buy her a dozen red or pink roses.
Get her a cute teddy bear.
And write her a poem (:
Girls are suckers for cute things like that.
You could even take her to a lake (if there is one near by) set up little candles in the water and have a message in a bottle that she can open that says something like:
I remember the first time I looked into your eyes, I swore I saw the sun rise for the very first time. the way the light hit your dazzling (enter eye color here) slices of heaven I knew that you were the girl for me. I know I didn’t show it, I know I hurt you, and I know I can’t go back in time and change things but please give me another chance, leave the past in the past, and let’s just focus on the future we can have together. I miss you and without you I am not living, rather, I am merely existing. Please can we try this one more time? I need you.
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Well if you have changed tell her how.youre not going to get her back overnight though it does take time.Teenagers tend to exaggerate things though so when she said itd take months to be friends again she probably meant weeks or even days.Its really hard to hate someone thats nice to you
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hope this helps XD
your doing all that you can. look sometimes giving up doesn’t always mean that your weak sometimes it means you are strong enough to let go. Maybe you shouldn’t try so hard to get back with her but you should try hard to regain her trust and just try to be friends and start all over. show her that you can be that guy she fell in love with before. your college is only 30 minutes away from each other, so give her the time that she needs.
well, if you act like that towards everyone, take her with u and apologize to all the people that you’ve treated like crap.
If not, then u can just keep acting good, being nice to her is best. if shes around and u act all depressed shes gonna think she won, that’s not good, u have to just say hi when u see her, call her every so often to apologize, and just act happy, but if u act happy towards everyone but her, shes gonna think you’ve moved on. Just show that u miss her and talk to her a little bit, with out acting depressed, eventually she’ll forgive you.
If those things don’t work, i dont know what will.
hope i helped,
Sarah
You treated her like shit. You deserve what you’re going through though. Its part of life/karma – whatever you want to call it.
A lesson to be learned – you will pay for something that you do wrong – in one way or another…
Now, she needs her time to get over the pain – so the only thing you can do is let her be. Take her out for coffee and talk about how you’re getting help. Keep it brief – Don’t ask her to get back with you!! Don’t even tell her you love her – I know its hard. You’ve apologized already and she’s made up her mind. If she really wants to take you back, she will. She won’t if you keep asking her, or what may seem like forcing her.
The fact of the matter is – if she sees that you’re doing better and are no longer the a$$ that treated her like sh*t and she wants to give you another chance, you’ll get it.
Otherwise, she’s made up her mind that she can do better.
At that point, you should be ready to move on.
Ok you love this girl and it sounds like she still loves you. I take that as a good start. A girl wants to feel loved and be able to trust the guy. If she can start to do that than you two can work it out. Just keep calling her and letting her know how you feel. I am glad to hear you are getting help most people dont, that takes courage. I wish you the best of luck!
i have the same problem but my ex is 7 months pregnant, any tips or advice on that, she also had an ectopic pregnancy, any tips, anyone been threw the same and ended up back together????????
all these tips suck!!! listen man, if u wANt 2 get her back then u neen 2 call her and let her know u love her and wanna b with her but tell her that u understand y she left you and tell her goodbye and dont talk 2 her or text,call or email her.She will call u within a week or 2 but dont answer the first time she calls. after she realizes ur moving on and fear that if she doesnt get back with u know that she might lose u 4ever. Stay strong and make sure u dont contact her and shell b begging u 2 be with her!!! the no contact rule is the best thing known 2 man!