Comments on: What is the best way to win back someone’s heart?

By: jude

jude — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 16:48:50 +0000

the best way to win a heart, is to show change, a new attitude, as evidenced by your actions. get some christian counciling, read some self help books on marriage and pray. sounds as if he wants to make sure before he recommits and comes home. as long as no one has betrayed the other anything can be worked out by meeting the person halfway, be willing to listen to him and his views, being able to communicate and the best thing is to get some christian coun ciling from your minister or a church.

By: Jadon's Mom

Jadon's Mom — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 16:48:50 +0000

If u love him, then of course try to work on it. Love can smooth over rough edges in relationships, but u have to make sure u both know exactly what u expect of one another. The baby needs both parents, but only if the relationship will be a healthy one full of love instead of fighting.
I say go to him again. There are no rules in reconciling. Dont be stubborn. If u want to see him, go to him. If u love him, go to him. Its a very simple thing to do in this case.
Good luck.

By: TenderHt

TenderHt — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 16:48:50 +0000

It sounds to me like you are going about it in all of the right ways. I am proud of you both for working on this. What you have is too precious to treat it with anything less than tender care. I suggest that you make use of a counselor and/or a retreat to work on communication skills and focus on the marriage. It might help you to go to church together if you have a religious faith.

You are wise to take things one step at a time. Getting physical at this point can confuse things. That part should wait until you are both ready. The physical parts shouldn’t substitute for working on the other parts of your relationship even though it may seem like a handy shortcut.

Don’t give up.

By: Courtney S

Courtney S — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 16:48:50 +0000

I would say that actions speak louder than words. Loving behavior is the key. I don’t know what the problem was so it is difficult to give advise without the details. But again your actions and behavior will show him you want to work it out. Work on your issues that contributed to the problem and include him on your goals and progress to be a better person, mother, and wife. Best Wishes

By: country_girl

country_girl — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 16:48:50 +0000

well, first I would talk to him about cancelling the divorce for now….if you reconcile then there is no reason for the divorce action…
you both have things to work on and neither one of you has cheated – Hats Off to You !!
how about some counceling ??
the only real way to get him back is time….give it time and let him see the progress your making, but let him know that inorder for it to work he needs to work on things to,, and suggest counceling.
dont be in a hurry – if it takes a year,,then so what. a year is onlty a small sacrafise compared to the rest of your life