How do I open up the lines of communication with my ex after he told me to leave him alone….forever?
I told him to lose my number if he expects me to keep spoiling him each time we hang out, and he replied "i’ll lose it."
The he replied: "Leave me alone….forever."
It’s been a month (today) with NO CONTACT and I can barely take it anymore. I miss him so much, but he treats me like s***.
I realize I cant change him, but I think I’d rather have him in my life than nothing at all.
What should I do?
I will have NO POWER at all if I am the one to initate contact after the way he treated me.
Arrrgh this sucks!
EDIT: we were never maried, just dating. I fell in love with him, but he just treated me like dirt.
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why would you want a man like this when there are so many good ones out there? Any man who treats you like this doesn’t love you.
Um, #1, you DON’T open the lines of communication and #2, you should have never gave him the ultimatum if you weren’t sure of the answer. Obviously neither of you weren’t happy. You only want him back because you are used to him and it’s easier to stay than to move on.
Dang you sound obsessive. He didn’t treat you like dirt. You just wouldn’t give up so he had to be harsh. No mean no period. So leave the guy alone and stop obsessing over him.
Get over him, and move one.
you think very little of yourself…no man is worth feeling the way you feel…
i never taught i say this cuz it sounds like crap but honestly learn to love yourself first..then no one could hurt you ever..
Leave him alone and move on with your life.
this is your ticket out. Remember this as your weakest moment and if you can get past this you will save yourself a lifetime of mistreatment.
Do not contact him.
But if its that important to you then why dont you try and stop places he is a regular. Being as obsessive as you are I am sure you know of where he hangs out or eats lunch etc. Accidentally show up lookin smokin!
He treated you like dirt…….he told you to leave him alone forever but you’d rather have that than nothing???? Do you have any idea how totally and absolutely pathetic that sounds. No wonder he treated you like dirt!
He’s your ex and you need to forget about him. If you don’t raise your standards and expectations, the only guys you’re ever going to attract are the sludge from the bottom of the gene pool!
ohhhh dear …
its not love , u are a poor girl without support and back!! and u think there are no one !!!!!is it right?
if not so way u what being with him?
please try to forget him. there are lots of good and reliable guys, why u what lose ur life with this stupid love,!!!!!!!!please try to be with another one and have a date…so if after a while Imean more that one year the things dont change then u can come back to that ex guy!!!!!! and have a that life!!!!!!!!!
but dont worry u have lots of time to come back….please try to start some new things and new relationship new friends…
u shouldnt be alone in this stuation! because when u arealone u think alote ,
please find some of that u deserve it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!its guy is not in ur level. try start new life .u havelots of nice and ool point that thats why u can find friends
try ur chance
Sounds as if he put it plainly, you PAY for his company for don’t bother to contact him EVER. It is quite clear that he was not in a relationship with you but using you for your money. He treated you the way he did since he did not have feelings for you.
Why can you not accept his last words as the truth??? That is not how a man who loves you treats you in a relationship. Forget about the ‘no power’ thing since that goes hand in hand with ‘no dignity’ too.
Hello! Take the hint.
He doesn’t want you, treated you like dirt, used you for sex, and generally is tired of your whining.
Forget "power", and get on with your life. You have serious issues to work out as you are obviously exhibiting low self-esteem. Get counseling and forget this guy,
You need to learn to really communicate which includes active listening and when someone tells you to leave them alone – then you leave them alone. It’s called respect for yourself and the other person. Work on yourself and try to figure out why you are willing to settle for such a shabby connection with no real relationship. Best wishes on finding someone else after you fix yourself!
You leave them alone – that’s what you do!
Oddly enough, I’m in a similar situation, having broken up with someone and not having heard from them (8 days now) but it was my choice to leave. The point is, when it’s over, it’s always easy to see the good things about the relationship instead of the bad, and often reality of it. If things were good and functional, like a normal relationship should be, you wouldn’t be in this position to begin with. But you are, which means it wasn’t working to begin with, and loneliness should never be a reason to get back with someone. Ask yourself this, had you met someone else, would you be thinking about your ex- now?
You should never want to open the lines back up. I’ve been in a relationship where I was always there for him & he treated me wrong. I finally told him to loose my number, and never call me again. He then tried to tell everyone that it never meant anything to him, but I didn’t care because I was so done with him. Why would you want a guy who can’t even respect you. There are guys out here that will treat you like a queen, but instead you want someone who treats you like dirt. You really need to get over it, and move on with your life. You are just trying to stay with the fear of having to move onto something new.
It’s soooo tough to move on sometimes, but the most sane thing I’ve read here is… “If things were good and functional, like a normal relationship should be, you wouldn’t be in this position to begin with.”. Well, that’s a very rational, healthy and powerful statement. I left my ex because our relationship was horribly illl. I found myself stripped of self esteem and health by the time it was said and done. Accepting that, in my heart, I knew that we were headed for trouble early on and I proceeded anyway has been very healing. I put her needs before my own because I was not in a happy relationship with myself. Allowed her to dominate and abuse me emotionally because I thought I should “hang in there”, “be strong”, earn her love and/or affection. I have a healthy relationship now with a wonderful woman. It’s not perfect, nor are either of us. It is loving and honest and I am so grateful that I was able to face some very difficult choices, and it really is about choices today. Hope that helps and good luck.
It’s so tough to move on sometimes, but the most sane thing I’ve read here is… “If things were good and functional, like a normal relationship should be, you wouldn’t be in this position to begin with.”. Well, that’s a very rational, healthy and powerful statement. I left my ex because our relationship was horribly illl. I found myself stripped of self esteem and health by the time it was said and done. Accepting that, in my heart, I knew that we were headed for trouble early on and I proceeded anyway has been very healing. I put her needs before my own because I was not in a happy relationship with myself. Allowed her to dominate and abuse me emotionally because I thought I should “hang in there”, “be strong”, earn her love and/or affection. I have a healthy relationship now with a wonderful woman. It’s not perfect, nor are either of us. It is loving and honest and I am so grateful that I was able to face some very difficult choices, and it really is about choices today. Hope that helps and good luck.