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Debating on calling her or not. What would you do?
To make a long story short……
I ordered ”The Magic of Making Up” by TW Jackson. Its a step by step guide to win back the one you love. I read completely through the book, ready to follow the steps (one of them which is to not contact your ex) and what does she do? She texts me 20 friggin minutes later and I hadn’t heard from her in 2 days. So I was polite and gave her a quick reply (being civil if you have to be in contact is something else he suggests). So the next day she sends me a funny forwarded text and I again give her a quick reply.
I then decide to follow through in writing her my ‘’second chance letter” as he calls it which basically is a letter agreeing to the breakup and that you have accepted it, giving them a simple apology and then telling them you have some good news, but not telling them what that good news is in order to make them curious. You end the letter by saying ”love to fill you in….but in the future. We both need our space right now.”
While I am writing this letter today, she then contacts me (text message) for a third day straight with a question about her phone (lame excuse to get a hold of me). I give her the answer and ask her what she would do without me, jokingly. I get a reply that says ”I know. Thats the truth!”
Now what the heck do I do? Do I go ahead and send the letter not knowing what to expect, and possibly offend her after we have been talking and getting along. We agreed to be friends after the breakup. Or do I give in and open the lines of communication more?
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Don’t send the letter…..
give in and open the lines of communication. Save the note just in case.
It sounds like the advice in the book is great. In sending that letter, you are not slamming the door shut, your are calling a temporary truce.
BUT…The one thing that damages relationships in temporary separations, often irreparably, is if someone goes off and starts something with someone else, even if it’s just a one-nighter. If this is important to you, you can throw something in the letter, like "I’m not going to see anyone else, I promise, I just need some time to myself too". THis tells her that she shouldn’t need to worry about the trust being damaged.
The otehr thing is that she seems to be patching things up now, which is cool. So maybe you start the letter by saying something like this: "I’ve been thinking about whether I should try to get back together with you. I was guessing that you are too, because you’ve texted me a few times. I think it would be graet, I just don’t want to jump back in before you have time to think about it enough. So please take the time you need."
The cool thing in that book, as you described it, is that it keeps you from putting the final nail in the coffin by chasing her and utterly killing any remaining attraction. You’ve kept a smart distance and let her think about you without you bothering her. She’s been able to decide that maybe you aren’t all that bad. Very good!
So good luck.