Comments on: How would you proceed with things? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3551/how-would-you-proceed-with-things/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: I LUV MY WESTIE!!!! http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3551/how-would-you-proceed-with-things/comment-page-1/#comment-22279 I LUV MY WESTIE!!!! Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:48:13 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3551/how-would-you-proceed-with-things/#comment-22279 Don't send the letter..... Don’t send the letter…..

]]> By: soozemusic http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3551/how-would-you-proceed-with-things/comment-page-1/#comment-22280 soozemusic Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:48:13 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3551/how-would-you-proceed-with-things/#comment-22280 give in and open the lines of communication. Save the note just in case. give in and open the lines of communication. Save the note just in case.

]]> By: kgilfilen http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3551/how-would-you-proceed-with-things/comment-page-1/#comment-22281 kgilfilen Tue, 12 Jan 2010 04:48:13 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3551/how-would-you-proceed-with-things/#comment-22281 It sounds like the advice in the book is great. In sending that letter, you are not slamming the door shut, your are calling a temporary truce. BUT...The one thing that damages relationships in temporary separations, often irreparably, is if someone goes off and starts something with someone else, even if it's just a one-nighter. If this is important to you, you can throw something in the letter, like "I'm not going to see anyone else, I promise, I just need some time to myself too". THis tells her that she shouldn't need to worry about the trust being damaged. The otehr thing is that she seems to be patching things up now, which is cool. So maybe you start the letter by saying something like this: "I've been thinking about whether I should try to get back together with you. I was guessing that you are too, because you've texted me a few times. I think it would be graet, I just don't want to jump back in before you have time to think about it enough. So please take the time you need." The cool thing in that book, as you described it, is that it keeps you from putting the final nail in the coffin by chasing her and utterly killing any remaining attraction. You've kept a smart distance and let her think about you without you bothering her. She's been able to decide that maybe you aren't all that bad. Very good! So good luck. It sounds like the advice in the book is great. In sending that letter, you are not slamming the door shut, your are calling a temporary truce.

BUT…The one thing that damages relationships in temporary separations, often irreparably, is if someone goes off and starts something with someone else, even if it’s just a one-nighter. If this is important to you, you can throw something in the letter, like "I’m not going to see anyone else, I promise, I just need some time to myself too". THis tells her that she shouldn’t need to worry about the trust being damaged.

The otehr thing is that she seems to be patching things up now, which is cool. So maybe you start the letter by saying something like this: "I’ve been thinking about whether I should try to get back together with you. I was guessing that you are too, because you’ve texted me a few times. I think it would be graet, I just don’t want to jump back in before you have time to think about it enough. So please take the time you need."

The cool thing in that book, as you described it, is that it keeps you from putting the final nail in the coffin by chasing her and utterly killing any remaining attraction. You’ve kept a smart distance and let her think about you without you bothering her. She’s been able to decide that maybe you aren’t all that bad. Very good!

So good luck.

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