THE magic of making up plan?
Has anybody used the book the magic of making up? I just want to know what has been the best strategy to get an ex back. I wanna get my ex girlfriend back (a woman) so I would like to have some advices.
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Although there are obviously different situations involved with any breakup there is a common thread that is suitable for everyone to use because it is based on human psychology. The Magic of Making Up is filled with tactics and techniques based on knowing the human psyche.
The first thing you want to stop is any kind of begging, calling, pleading, texting…Why? Because it seems desperate and it is unattractive! You certainly don’t want to appear as needy, clingy or desperate. People like and are attracted to people who have a lot on the ball for themselves and the following psychological truths are also involved here.
1. Humans have a tendency to take things for granted (Chances are she took you for granted in the past and WILL continue to do so unless you get straight on what exactly to do to regain her respect and admiration)
2. Humans will fight ten times harder to save from losing something…than to gain something. (the letter described below will help you turn the tables and have her fighting to stop from losing you!)
3. Humans tend to want what they can’t have. (or THINK they can’t have
4. Humans tend to want even more…what is JUST out of their grasp (Be friendly, but not too friendly…she nees to think she has lost you. It is only when she believes she has lost you forever that she will RECONSIDER her decision! She isn’t going to regret breaking up with you if you are there all the time telling her, reassuring her and making it clear you want nothing more that to get back with her!)
Considering all of these, being a bit aloof and elusive for now are your best bet.
Secondly, you will want to write her a short note, handwritten (NOT EMAIL or Text) and AGREE with the break up. That is right, AGREE! I know, I know, it seems counterproductive and IMPOSSIBLE to pull off, but you can and you must. Why? First you want to handwrite it and send it snail mail because this will get their attention! How many handwritten letters do people get these days? Not many. And you want to say simply,
" I want to apologize for acting so crazy ( applicable only if you have been). After considering this more, I know that you are right and it is best that we do break up.
Hope things work out well for you. I got some exciting news the other day and have been feeling good about things in my life. Hope things are going just as well for you.
Take Care….
OK? Why? Because once you are in agreement with them, once you seem calm, accepting and level headed you are no longer a threat to them on any level! This is a sure fire way to stop the cat and mouse game of you chasing her and her running from you. You’re going to have to be able to get close to the woman if you want her back so you must immediatly DIFFUSE the situation and disarm her! It is also a way to turn the tables. Now SHE is wondering why you are ok with it. Are you seeing someone else? Did she make a mistake breaking up with you? ….Her mind will start going and as it does she will come to MISS you…She must miss you before you can proceed.
Also, think of something good that has happened in your life lately. Don’t lie in your letter to her, really find something exciting happening in your life. You won’t share it with her right away, but you don’t want to be caught lying either. The purpose for mentioning this is the letter is that it reinforces the message that you are OK, you are living your life and happy! No one enjoys being around a depressed person. KEEP IT LIGHT. There will come a time to share your deepest feelings for that person, but it is not now.
Another thing to determine is if your relationship can be salvaged. The Magic of Making up shares a secret way to DETERMINE for sure if you and your ex stand a chance. Does she still care? Does she really still love you? How do you know for certain? The opposite of Love is not hate it is indifference. So, if your partner is angry, hurt, upset, frustrated with you that is ACTUALLY great news, it means that there are still feelings there and those feelings can be rekindled to fan new flames of passion, respect and love! If someone is totally indifferent, you probably don’t stand a chance, unless that indifference is just covering the anger and hurt.
All the advice I shared here is from Magic of Making Up, which I am an affiliate with. The reason I am an affiliate is that I am a relationship coach, crisis intervention counselor and grief recovering specialist. I am always looking for great information to share with my clients. I KNOW for a fact that Magic of Making up works! If you stand a chance at all, MOM will help you cultivate it.
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