Looking for non-religious books about abstinence…?
I know there are a ton of books about morality and saving yourself for marriage… but so many of them are religious! I am not particularly religious, but I want to wait until marriage because I feel it is the best way to build a healthy relationship. So I am trying to find a book that covers that, but that isn’t based entirely on religious beliefs. Any suggestions??
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Yes there are books out there on the diseases you can get if you do have sex before marriage. They will help. No religion in them!
I´m afraid you don´t find it. Look, I am asexual and thus, 40 years (almost) and virgin. That is perfectly healthy, harmless minority orientation. If you want to wait for marriage, just remember purity is in the heart, not between your legs.
All I can suggest is that you look at books on assertiveness …which is not about being pushy, it’s about having a strong enough sense of self to not feel obliged to give way to other people unnecessarily, and about how you manage situations confidently and in a way that defuses tension. On the negative side, there are self help books about ‘people pleasing’, though they cover much the same ground as assertiveness books. If you like, a lot of premarital sex can be seen as people-pleasing, keeping someone happy so they don’t leave you, and so on. Understanding the way you were brought up and your own weaknesses in this kind of area can help you say no when the pressure is on, and can help you explain to the other person what you want and why.
I’m sure there are books out there that give you what you need, and maybe some of the religious ones will include good arguments that are valid apart from the religion. Good luck finding them.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Woman-Your-Own-Right-Assertiveness/dp/0704334208/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1261997286&sr=1-3
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Disease-Please-Curing-People-Pleasing-Syndrome/dp/0071385649/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1261997458&sr=1-4
Try the website below, it shows you the pro-premarital sex stuff in the Bible that your church will never tell you about.
You need a book to tell you how to not have sex until you’re married?
I’ll save you the trouble. It only takes one easy step, too!
Just don’t have sex.
just say no
Just to completely insult you here, all I gathered from that was that you either have no personality, are hideous, or otherwise screwed in some form as to be unattractive to men.
There is a reason you’re not finding abstinence books not based on religion: Most reasonable people find sex necessary–marriage is not.
If you want to build a healthy relationship, test drive several cars before you buy one.
You want a "non-religious book about abstinence", but, you post your request IN the Religion & Spirituality category . . . ? The following article is based on BOTH Scriptural principles and sound common sense . . .
"You Can Remain Chaste in an Immoral World"
http://watchtower.org/e/20000715/article_01.htm
Good on you. Ii would be great if there were more people like you understanding that sex is only some small part of a relationship and best saved for when there is serious commitment.
There wouldn’t so much be venereal diseases, single mum’s, guys with bricks in their heads out there.
Congrats, go with it. First date put it on the table, watch um run. It’ll save you a lot of time and it’ll separate out those with bricks in their head. There’s still a few out there with morals and values and a pulse and a brain and they’ll find you.
Go girl, many blessings to you.