How long does it take to REALLY get over an ex?
I was with my childrens father for 9 years and tonight for the first time i saw a picture of him and his new gf (theyve been together for a year and a half and are getting married). It kills me everytime i see him, with or without her and i cant seem to stop this obsession of him coming back. I am not psycho, I know hes not. But I cannot keep going through this, I need it to stop! Someone please tell me how!!!
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There is only one way that I have found to get over someone you use to love and that is to get with someone younger and cuter then your EX. Another way is to make yourself look different get a different hair cut lose weight dress completely different and go buy some sexy under clothes. Make yourself look better then the woman he is going to marry make him see that he is making a big mistake by marrying her.
It will never be over. Honesty
to get over him..strt afreash go on dates with men.find new luv..
Maybe another 9 years.
To get him out of your mind, you have to replace him with someone new. As time goes on, the new person will occupy more and more of your mind, and he will take his proper place in your memories of long ago.
Talk to a therapist about this.
Just buy yourself a dildo and you’ll be fine.
you will always have that feeling and love for him. i have been without my ex for 5 years and still get butterflies in my stomach when people mention him or i see him in public. i am happily married to a wonderful man but there will always be a place in your heart for your ex. You just have to learn to love other people.
well you never get over it. there is a process called compartmentalization. it takes work. but you put the memories in a compartment of your Memories. to picture it , it is like putting all these things in a box and filing it away with a sign "be careful when opening" it takes practice and you should google it. under mental health probably. basically it is looking for signs you are opening these memories and you consciously decide not to.
Lear to forgive and forget.Forgive yourself, forgive him and think that you guys were just not meant to be together….He has move on in his life and now its your turn. Create a new circle of friends, go out with them, notice new things, new people who wants to come into your life. Develop new hobbies. Give your self a chance and see how life will change for you. God always have some better plans for all of us its just that we don’t realize.
That depends on you. When you are ready to let go and start loving yourself, healing yourself then it will begin the process of getting over him. It’s a choice you make. If you want to sulk and dwell on the "what ifs" or the things that you just cannot change, then you will have to face the rest of your life with this pain and sorrow. If you want your life to be filled with love and if you want to be happy, then love yourself, respect yourself and go out and find it. You have children and you are suppose to be a role model for them. Are you being a positive one now? Do you want your kids to grow up thinking that they are suppose to be miserable for the rest of their lives if a relationship ends? You need to move on. Get some counseling if you can, especially if you believe this to be an obsession, go out with a friend or friends, make new friends, get on some dating sites, join a church singles group, attend a college class or community class. Go out and meet new people and enjoy life. Hold your chin up so the next time he sees you gleaming with joy, he’s going to wonder why you aren’t pining over him anymore. Please go out and find new love for yourself, for your kids, for happiness. It’s your choice.
depends on ur mind and how it can work really to forget
the easiest way i would say is look for you a nice guy who will please you and take your mind of him and also some ben and jerry’s ice cream!lol
I think If it is a person who has truely impacted your life then you will never be over them but you can still move on. I am going through a lot trying to get over my ex of 4 years I’ve come to terms with the fact I’ll always love my ex but its just not the right time/place for us right now. I wish you the best of luck, The best advice I can give you is to date, and see what else is out there because if he is already getting married then you really should try and move forward.
Usually I would say after the first year you no longer have that feeling of hurt and pain like the day the breakup happened, but in your case it seems as if you know the facts (he’s been going out with someone else for a year and a half and is getting married to her) but are unable to accept them. The fact that you have an obsession of him coming back to you after all this time (and the facts you know) makes me think you should see a therapist to help you deal with this. You may think your actions are not psycho, but having an obsession of him returning is not normal either. Seek a professional to speak with since it seems that he has moved on and you have just lost the last year and a half of your life waiting . . . .