Does going back and asking for more child support make me money hungry?
My ex has only ben paying 0 a month in child support for the last 9 1/2 yrs. In my state, I could have requested a review of his child support every 3 yrs, which would have been in 2001, again in 2004 and now in 2007. I just now requested one and based on my ex’s current bring home income of roughly ,000, and my son being his only child, his child support was set at a little over 0.00 a month. He was furious and called me every name in the book, including money hungry. I also had someone tell me that we should both be paying for 50% of my sons care, and unless his monthly care was 00, then 0 was too much. Here is how I looked at it: Based on his current income, I "guessed" at what he would have been bringing home in 2001 and 2004 and what his child support might have been set each time, minus the 0 he was paying. If my "guesstimate" was close to accurate, he actually got out of paying me close to ,000 over the last 6 1/2 yrs because I didn’t ask for a review.
When my son was not yet in school, I payed between 0 and for daycare. Even if you average that out at lets say , that would have been a little more than 0 a month that I payed in daycare. My ex’s 0.00 a month didn’t even cover 50% of that, much less leave any left over for food, clothes, etc. I had to have a job to provide my 50%, but I actually ended up providing more than my 50%. However my ex doesn’t look at it that way. He thinks that I take his child support and spend it on myself or on my youngest child. I did tell my son that we would take alot of this child support, if I actually end up getting it, and put it in a savings account for him to use to buy a truck when he turns 16. I don’t see how that makes me money hungry.
My son is 11.
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both of you have to pay for the child,he pays half to raise the child and you pay have to raise the child,it does not cost well overe $1000 a month for a child.my husband has to pay his ex child support and thats like 350.00 a month and thats for 2 kids
the qeustion shouldnt be " are you money hungry " it should be why did that jerk not give you more money waaaaaaay before now
a true father wouldnt need to be asked
it is just amazing that you managed on 200 dollars a month , maintenance
dont feel guilty abut this , feel proud that you are a good mother
all the best
Ian
well he should have been paying for half his son’s shelter, half his clothing, half his child care, half his educational expenses,half his food etc…. when you add up all that it is well over $200. He is just mad cause he couldn’t get away with paying $200 anymore. If at the review they thought he was paying enough they wouldn’t have ordered him to pay more. I live in canada and i tell you clothing for my 11yr old son alone is outrageous, 1 pair of jeans $45. Your ex should stop being such a baby about it, its for his son. And no i don’t think you are money hungry at all i think he is paying what he should be.
You are not money hungry. I would tell your attorney that you want to go by the state guidelines…there is nothing wrong with him paying, it’s his child too. I think you have been letting him get off too easy. Your son will soon be entering his teens and the cost of raising him is going to be even more.
Good Luck!
i dindt feel like reading everything, but if youre askin for 650 for a little 9yr old boy, i think youre askin for a bit to much. id settle for 350 or 400 but idk thats just me
If he has nothing other to do with the child or doesnt help anymore finacially than 200 dollars i would take out more support. but he take the child and buys him things that are other than the 200 child support then no dont do that is morally wrong
As you have described, child support is based upon the income of the parents. In my state the calculations are determined on what our state feels that care for a child should be based on age….Based on what you have describing, you are being fair and reasonable. I also think your idea of establishing a savings account for your son is a wonderful and thoughtful idea, that will greatly benefit him when he gets older. Also, child support is the money that both parents use to care for a child, that includes gas for your car, bus tickets for the bus, clothes, the eclectic bill, the telephone bill, housing cost, etc. All of these issues, effect the care and comfort of your son, and his life. You are doing what all good Mom’s should.. demand that both parents share in the responsibility. Good Luck
Is he a good involved father? Does he see his son on a regular basis? If he does then I wouldn’t be asking for so much. Why not try to settle out of court and ask him to pay you an extra $200. $400 a mth would be plenty.
My husby pays well more than that per child (he has three children and makes roughly the same income as your ex). Yes, it makes life difficult at times for our family, but it’s for the boys, it’s worth it.
That said, his ex has done some things to "cheat" him out of some money (like having a 13 year old go to a babysitter, lying about how much she pays in childcare since the 1/2 day kindergarten doesn’t equal full days in first grade this year, etc.).
So there are all kinds of situations – Dads who will be mad about paying more no matter the reason, Dads who will be happy to pay it, and everything in between. Moms who will be money hungry, Moms who will use the money absolutely for the child, and everything in between.
Bottom line is, if you didn’t lie about it (looks like sound reasoning to me), your state’s laws are in place for reasons and you are *not* money hungry. Please try to give him time to adjust. That’s a long time to go without what he may see as "interference" from you in his financial affairs, and he may have targeted that money for something else (including just making everyday bills each month) while assuming you were both getting along just fine. Then again, he may be a jerk. Hard to tell. Either way, you’re better off dwelling on your great job as a mom, rather than what he criticizes in you. Good luck! (:
You do appear money hungry for asking for more not because you need it. However, you make an excellent point regarding what you’ve paid to date, and I put most of the CS (when I get it) into my daughter’s savings account also. He doesn’t have to pay for college, legally, so that savings account will come in mighty handy.
Bottom line is you know what you’re spending it on. If your conscience is clear, lol, then to h*ll with Dad. That’s my motto.
Absolutely not!! The amount he has to pay is based mostly on his income, so $650 per month is NOT too much. My ex pays $795 per month for two children, and he complains, but he pays it because he knows he could be ordered to pay more if I took him to court for a review. DO NOT let him get away with paying less than what he should be paying. There is nothing money hungry about caring for your children and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!!! Odds are he has no idea how expensive it is to be a single parent. Also, with regard to the medical expenses, he should be made to pay 50% of all out of pocket medical expenses IN ADDITION to his monthly child support.
Best of Luck to you!!! Hang in there!
if your house is as good as his or better,and your car is as good as his or better, then why complain, but if your strugglin at the bottom i dont know what to say for you. if your just wantin more money and using your child to getr it then damn.