Comments on: Does going back and asking for more child support make me money hungry? http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/ Sat, 11 Feb 2012 14:09:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: butafli13 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/comment-page-1/#comment-23410 butafli13 Sat, 16 Jan 2010 06:19:21 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/#comment-23410 As you have described, child support is based upon the income of the parents. In my state the calculations are determined on what our state feels that care for a child should be based on age....Based on what you have describing, you are being fair and reasonable. I also think your idea of establishing a savings account for your son is a wonderful and thoughtful idea, that will greatly benefit him when he gets older. Also, child support is the money that both parents use to care for a child, that includes gas for your car, bus tickets for the bus, clothes, the eclectic bill, the telephone bill, housing cost, etc. All of these issues, effect the care and comfort of your son, and his life. You are doing what all good Mom's should.. demand that both parents share in the responsibility. Good Luck As you have described, child support is based upon the income of the parents. In my state the calculations are determined on what our state feels that care for a child should be based on age….Based on what you have describing, you are being fair and reasonable. I also think your idea of establishing a savings account for your son is a wonderful and thoughtful idea, that will greatly benefit him when he gets older. Also, child support is the money that both parents use to care for a child, that includes gas for your car, bus tickets for the bus, clothes, the eclectic bill, the telephone bill, housing cost, etc. All of these issues, effect the care and comfort of your son, and his life. You are doing what all good Mom’s should.. demand that both parents share in the responsibility. Good Luck

]]> By: kittykat http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/comment-page-1/#comment-23411 kittykat Sat, 16 Jan 2010 06:19:21 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/#comment-23411 Is he a good involved father? Does he see his son on a regular basis? If he does then I wouldn't be asking for so much. Why not try to settle out of court and ask him to pay you an extra $200. $400 a mth would be plenty. Is he a good involved father? Does he see his son on a regular basis? If he does then I wouldn’t be asking for so much. Why not try to settle out of court and ask him to pay you an extra $200. $400 a mth would be plenty.

]]> By: JustMe http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/comment-page-1/#comment-23412 JustMe Sat, 16 Jan 2010 06:19:21 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/#comment-23412 My husby pays well more than that per child (he has three children and makes roughly the same income as your ex). Yes, it makes life difficult at times for our family, but it's for the boys, it's worth it. That said, his ex has done some things to "cheat" him out of some money (like having a 13 year old go to a babysitter, lying about how much she pays in childcare since the 1/2 day kindergarten doesn't equal full days in first grade this year, etc.). So there are all kinds of situations - Dads who will be mad about paying more no matter the reason, Dads who will be happy to pay it, and everything in between. Moms who will be money hungry, Moms who will use the money absolutely for the child, and everything in between. Bottom line is, if you didn't lie about it (looks like sound reasoning to me), your state's laws are in place for reasons and you are *not* money hungry. Please try to give him time to adjust. That's a long time to go without what he may see as "interference" from you in his financial affairs, and he may have targeted that money for something else (including just making everyday bills each month) while assuming you were both getting along just fine. Then again, he may be a jerk. Hard to tell. Either way, you're better off dwelling on your great job as a mom, rather than what he criticizes in you. Good luck! (: My husby pays well more than that per child (he has three children and makes roughly the same income as your ex). Yes, it makes life difficult at times for our family, but it’s for the boys, it’s worth it.

That said, his ex has done some things to "cheat" him out of some money (like having a 13 year old go to a babysitter, lying about how much she pays in childcare since the 1/2 day kindergarten doesn’t equal full days in first grade this year, etc.).

So there are all kinds of situations – Dads who will be mad about paying more no matter the reason, Dads who will be happy to pay it, and everything in between. Moms who will be money hungry, Moms who will use the money absolutely for the child, and everything in between.

Bottom line is, if you didn’t lie about it (looks like sound reasoning to me), your state’s laws are in place for reasons and you are *not* money hungry. Please try to give him time to adjust. That’s a long time to go without what he may see as "interference" from you in his financial affairs, and he may have targeted that money for something else (including just making everyday bills each month) while assuming you were both getting along just fine. Then again, he may be a jerk. Hard to tell. Either way, you’re better off dwelling on your great job as a mom, rather than what he criticizes in you. Good luck! (:

]]> By: ~Biz~ http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/comment-page-1/#comment-23413 ~Biz~ Sat, 16 Jan 2010 06:19:21 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/#comment-23413 You do appear money hungry for asking for more not because you need it. However, you make an excellent point regarding what you've paid to date, and I put most of the CS (when I get it) into my daughter's savings account also. He doesn't have to pay for college, legally, so that savings account will come in mighty handy. Bottom line is you know what you're spending it on. If your conscience is clear, lol, then to h*ll with Dad. That's my motto. You do appear money hungry for asking for more not because you need it. However, you make an excellent point regarding what you’ve paid to date, and I put most of the CS (when I get it) into my daughter’s savings account also. He doesn’t have to pay for college, legally, so that savings account will come in mighty handy.

Bottom line is you know what you’re spending it on. If your conscience is clear, lol, then to h*ll with Dad. That’s my motto.

]]> By: ♥JennAnn♥ http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/comment-page-1/#comment-23414 ♥JennAnn♥ Sat, 16 Jan 2010 06:19:21 +0000 http://howdoigetmyexboyfriendback.org/3668/does-going-back-and-asking-for-more-child-support-make-me-money-hungry/#comment-23414 Absolutely not!! The amount he has to pay is based mostly on his income, so $650 per month is NOT too much. My ex pays $795 per month for two children, and he complains, but he pays it because he knows he could be ordered to pay more if I took him to court for a review. DO NOT let him get away with paying less than what he should be paying. There is nothing money hungry about caring for your children and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!!! Odds are he has no idea how expensive it is to be a single parent. Also, with regard to the medical expenses, he should be made to pay 50% of all out of pocket medical expenses IN ADDITION to his monthly child support. Best of Luck to you!!! Hang in there! Absolutely not!! The amount he has to pay is based mostly on his income, so $650 per month is NOT too much. My ex pays $795 per month for two children, and he complains, but he pays it because he knows he could be ordered to pay more if I took him to court for a review. DO NOT let him get away with paying less than what he should be paying. There is nothing money hungry about caring for your children and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!!! Odds are he has no idea how expensive it is to be a single parent. Also, with regard to the medical expenses, he should be made to pay 50% of all out of pocket medical expenses IN ADDITION to his monthly child support.

Best of Luck to you!!! Hang in there!

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