My girlfriend broke up with me and wants to stay friends, what can I do to get her back?
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over 3 months now. We have been really happy together and our relationship has really been taking off lately, but then she broke up with me. What happened was, she has an ex-boyfriend from high school (we are sophomores in college) who goes to the same college as us and talks to her and stuff still and is pretty much crazy, bi-polar at the very least. Her parents have thought about getting a restraining order against him because he stalks her at school, but they are family friends with his family so they have never done anything. A little bit after we started dating, he began sending me e-mails about how she was cheating on me. I blew them off, until he sent me some e-mails after Christmas that made it seem very convincing that she was doing something behind my back. I had some trust issues for a few days but finally got over it and came to realize she was telling me the truth. But that whole thing stressed me out a lot and I had a lot of other stressful things going on and I got really mad at her one night for a very small thing and told her not to talk to me. She got pretty upset, understandably, and I spent a whole day apologizing to her until she finally told me that she had forgiven me. But then, later the same night, she told me that she needed to think about things. I had no idea what was going on, but then all of a sudden she dropped all of these things on me that she didn’t like that I do such as poking fun at her and going too far, not always talking to my parents with respect and a couple other things. I never knew that any of these things bothered her until she told me all this when it was pretty much too late. While it shouldn’t take her getting that upset for me to change things like that, I really had no idea they were bothering her that much. So last night, January 10, she broke up with me, saying that all of the things I had done had been so hurtful that she just didn’t feel the same way as she used to about me. She didn’t close the door on us getting back together when I asked about that, but I don’t know what to do to get her back. She wants to stay friends, but I don’t know how I will be able to be just friends with her, that would just be too hard for me. Can anyone give me some advice on what I can do to get her back?
I tried to convince her that I could change these things because I can and I apologized multiple times for the things that I did. She just can’t look past those things because of the relationship she was in with the crazy ex-boyfriend, she said that all these things are major red flags. But I’m not a red flag kind of guy, I never ever meant to hurt her feelings or anything, and I’ve even asked her multiple times if those things bothered her, and she told me no. But now all of a sudden they bother her so much that she breaks up with me. I guess I don’t know how to go about showing her that I can change these things. Should I try to be just friends with her for now and show her that I can change these things? Or should I just give her some space and let her think about things and hopefully start missing me?
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Dude,
She wants you to change. She gave you the list of things she hates about you, and frankly she’s probably right on the mark. Change and prove to her that you’re not the insensitive, inconsiderate, insecure neanderthal that she saw and admit your flaws.
You have to want to change and you have to get her to help you because you’re not going to be able to get it right without her.
Oh yeah, and apologizing sincerely for all your screw ups might help.
Of course if you simply cannot bring yourself to picking your socks up off the living room floor, then forget it.
Cheers!
Just show her how hard and how much u care about her and you will do some changing to those things that does bother her and not do it. Like dont be disrespectful to heer parents or dont do somethin she doesnt like.
Just give it some time as friends.